Why walk? Croquet, the Nigella Lawson Way: In a Sedan

Ever been to the Other Work Kingdom, Nigella? I'm sure you'd love it.

Life is full of irony. When Piggate broke, I felt the urge to demand David Cameron redefined "extreme porn." Clearly he and other members of Britain's establishment had a good time at uni. So did I.

The Guardian decided to add a twist of its own, publishing images of the young and wealthy partying as Oxford students in the 1980s. Other than prime minister David Cameron luminaries include actor Hugh Grant and TV chef Nigella Lawson. Just look at the image and tell me its not femdom-related. Art imitates life. So does femdom. I know of similar images from the OWK and at least one Sardax drawing. Anything to confess Miss Lawson?

Dommes In Innocent-Looking Polka Dot Dresses

Does the uniform matter when it comes to power exchange? If so, what uniform to choose? Some consider the polka dot dress the ultimate in femine attire, but doesn't that make it a uniform at the same time. A bit of light-hearted writing today and for the time being a little less grumpy.

A twist on a classic theme: red bottom meets green dress

Sometimes kink is like really odd. A Tumblr user photo-shopped a sign outside a church. It now reads: "Pleated Skirt Sunday. Ladies wear a nice pleated skirt in church as part of your proper feminine attire for church."

Sub Surplus: Why "It's Raining Men" Is Not A Good Thing

Domme Deficit or Sub Surplus: Men raining down from the heavens above is always a bad thing. Not because we are trouble. It messes with your mind and replaces "needs" with "wants" and "can have's".

You know? In the end most men would love to rain down on women.
That is, if they end up with a fun girl, Don't act surprised. You knew all along. We love you.

Remember that 1980s song: "It's Raining Men?" Sounds like a good thing if you are a woman, now doesn't it? Well, sometimes it ain't. The sub surplus is the worst thing that ever happened to dominant women. Spoilt for choice - or so it seems initially - some get greedy. Rather than thinking about what they really want, they ask for all they can have, whether or not they really like it. You know, because "Yes, we can." Don't worry, they'll regret it later. And their subs as wel.

Grace Jones: "I'll Never Write My Memoirs"

“Hiding, secrets, and not being able to be yourself is one of the worst things ever for a person. It gives you low self-esteem. You never get to reach that peak in your life. You should always be able to be yourself, and be proud of yourself.”

Bad design I know, two images so close together, but this portrait from The New York Times is just amazing.

Never? Guess what? They were published today.
Four months ago, on her birthday, I argued Grace Jones is the original femdom icon. By then the world was awaiting her memoirs. For a long time Grace Jones maintained she would never write them, but she changed her mind. Haven't read them yet and it probably is gonna take some time before I do but here are some reviews.

Thank You For Not Caring: Any Hint At Child Porn Is Wrong

Anything between adults has to be consensual. Whatever happens with kids is by definition non-consensual. A while ago I saw a video of a woman trampling a highly realistic looking doll resembling a five year old. To me that is child porn in disguise. The admins disagreed. I forgot their argument, but it probably ran among the lines of "It is just a doll." "I don't see the problem." "No one got harmed." They are wrong. It doesn't work like that and worse, it aids in the continued suffering of children.

It reminded me of the first time I reported child porn to Tumblr, back in March  2013. For some reason I never posted the draft, but here it is.

The beginning of something very consensual and very adult. It includes suffering, submission and being hers, which given the first two items on the list, is harder than you think. No matter how much you love her.

Power of Love: If You Love Her, Trust Your Gut

Why I'll never visit Club Pedestal. Taking a trip down memory lane. Remembering what matters. And whom you should pledge your allegiance to.

Years ago I had a girlfriend, who was battling a serious disease. One day she sprayed her ankle or similar, I can’t remember. The first night after the incident, I made her promise to wake me up and help her to the bathroom, just in case.

Why not? Whatever makes you smile. As long as you are together. On second thought: Lucky guy.

When I woke up the next morning, she told me, every time she turned over, I woke up and sat up straight. I briefly glanced at her and fell asleep. Apparently I also helped her to the bathroom that night, twice. Can’t remember a thing, but it took me two more nights to get back to my usual routine. Or so I was told.

Puppet On a String: Love Turns Men Into Slaves

I've been asking myself what the difference is between the things we (men) do for love and those we do because we "serve." Whatever that is.

One night, I came home and literally tripped over the couch.

"I rearranged the furniture, but I don't think it's gonna work"

Really, what gave it away? Of course the apartment was mine, not hers.

Silly girl, why do you even have to ask.

Facesitting For Birthday Boys

If it's fun and quirky, it's definitely me. A few weeks back I posted a GIF I christened "Facesitting For Advanced Practitioners." This one doesn't have the bouncing factor, but is just as good. Look at her eyes before she takes the plunge. What a way to start your (her/his) birthday. I assume it's someone's birthday at least, lol. So much fun. Just be careful I don't mistake you for some burglar and smack you. Now that would spoil the fun, wouldn't it?

Not sure he appreciates it, but she loves it. Isn't that what matters?

Vivere Autem Est Pati - To Live Is To Suffer

Femdom, BDSM or whatever is about love. Yes, quirky, corrupt and messed up. Isn't that what love is sometimes? Against the odds, when everybody says it's impossible. If you don't get that, jump of the bloody cliff. If you are still alive look at this. I wish I had written such beautiful letters.

If you love someone, you'll find a way. Outside of time, space and language.

Secondary School: My First Sadistic Girlfriend

Little Did I know...

At age seven all boys share the same opinion about fire trucks and girls. Fire trucks are aaawesome. Girls are boooooring. Fast forward ten years and fire trucks are still cool, you know like really cool. Girls meanwhile have been promoted to something so much more than interesting than fire trucks. No guy ever saw that coming when he was seven years old. I certainly didn't.

No 17 year old boy has ever combined these two in his mind (Image: Crushing Mania)

Half a Boy, Half A Man
At age 17 boys are beginning to learn about sex. Girls have captured their imagination and the single best place to meet those amazing creatures that love the colour pink - a fact still very much unexplained, even after all those years - is secondary school. I know, kind of surprising, isn't it?

Apart from falling in love, discovering the magic that is girls, is perhaps the best thing in any man's life. It certainly is for me. Most of us had our first kiss a few years before. With hindsight, kissing, not sex, is the most intimate act between two people, but chronologically kissing comes before sex.

Lawyer Myles Jackman fights Britain's Extreme Porn Laws

“Pornography is the canary in the coal mine of free speech.”

The Guardian has an excellent story on lawyer Myles Jackman who has made it his mission to fight Britain's "extreme porn" laws. Recommended reading.

Mr. Jackman works mostly pro bono and could use your support. Read more at Support Myles Jackman creating social change. You can also visit his website for more information: MylesJackman.com

This image has nothing to do with extreme porn. The leash is her way of making sure the man she loves doesn't get lost.

Disconnect: Sadism is not BDSM

To me kink is about fun, something impossible to explain to vanilla people. In the end femdom has to be rewarding for both the dominant partner and the submissive one. For me, just like most men, visual clues work best. That's probably why I like Tumblr. There are a few exceptions.

Him, naked and collared make this image "extreme" to vanilla people.

I love it. The intensity, his eyes, her grip (which he loves). Good things do happen.

11 Things Dominant Women Always Get Wrong

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Robber Humiliated By Woman Martial Arts Fighter

Justice and Public Humiliation - As Real As It Gets.

Women in Brazil are quite something different. A while ago there was a prison escape when women showed up at the front gate and told the guards they wanted to "party". Now a guy who tried to rob a woman on the streets of Acailandia, Brazil, got more than he bargained for. His intended victim turned out to be a skilled mixed martial arts fighter.

"Go Ahead - Make My Day"

Forest McMullin Photography: Vanilla by Day, Kink by Night

My love for kink is perhaps best described as joyful curiosity, with a few exceptions. Some of my writing is not happy and inquisitive but rather cross. It must be my rant fetish when it comes to dishonesty and pretend.

Mistress Natsukiss in Torture Play 1. Another paradox: a domme so sadistic, I just want to run. At the same time her sadism is fascinating and exciting, inescapable like a deer caught in her headlights.

Miss Piggy & Kermit: The End of a FL Love Affair

Of course they had to do a reboot of the Muppet Show and get it wrong. If there is one thing I don't like about women, it is being bland. According to The Guardian they have replaced Miss Piggy with a younger, thinner and blander model, called Denise. That ain't gonna work out.

A few images from Emilio Rangel's "La Puta de Babilonia" (Image: Emilio Rangel)

Save the WorldPrint Prosthetic Arms Not Chastity Devices

Too much BDSM bullshit gets you cranky. Lately I have been reading so many lies, mostly hiding under the cloak of the One Twue Way, it got me grumpy. Take a look at what is most popular on the blog and you'll get the same feeling. Minion Porn, please enjoy - an entry I wrote entirely in jest - but it baffles me, people are really searching for that stuff. Then there are all those hits about what happened to Coral Korrupt. Kind of morbid isn't it. Too little, but above all to late.

Let's see what were gonna print today. Chastity device, Dildo?
Been there. Done that. How 'bout a prosthetic arm?

Facesitting for Advanced Practitioners

I was drinking a glass of water when I saw this. At first I was surprised, but then I started laughing. Water everywhere. How many slaves she goes through in a week? Mesmerizing and yummy at the same time, but above all: funny!

If a man's home is his castle, this guy has a bouncing castle for a home. Lucky fellow.

The Most Influential Femdom Movie Ever

Its the classics that shaped me. Mistress Ieish with her slave Talana Gamah, caught on screen, spilling the secrets of femdom for generations to come.

... and most of it I didn't even like. 

Mistress Ieish in full force (Image: Love Libertango)

Some time ago I ran into an older but rather famous image on Tumblr. The mistress in the picture is Ieish. Her slave is called Talana Gamah. I recognized her from an old femdom movie. Of course I remember it. Curious about the why and how I discussed it on one of the boards.

Forbidden Fruits (Free Nipple Clamps)

It must be Summer, I find it impossible to take my kink seriously. Lack of discipline? Whatever it is, Dutch cannot resist poking fun at the whole Fifty Shades thing. Sometimes fun becomes art. Bryan Regan is a US based full time working commercial/advertising photographer, who created a brilliant series of images called "Fifty Shades of Food" Love it. My one complaint is that it is "just" thirty amazing pictures. Still delicious images.

Enemy of the State: Who Reads My Blog?

A few days ago my blog received an unusually large number of hits from Poland, 400 in one day. It got me curious and for the first time I delved into the numbers. Still don't know why there was such a large influx from Poland but last week's provider list carried a few surprises.

Dutch is at last moving up in the world. After many thwarted attempts to gain recognition the DOD finally began scrutinizing my blog, eight visits within the space of a few days. In al fairness the United States Department of Defence probably sent bots, total time for each visit is zero seconds.

Musical Funishment

A while ago Femdom Resource asked for songs about submissive men and I couldn't come up with a decent answer. From the top of my head I can list several tracks, but impressive? No. Of course there is The Pretenders with Bad Boys Get Spanked, but that is so 1981. Shame on me. So I decided I had to do penance and selected some Summer tracks. Hardest thing ever. But don't worry no grapes or bottles of Prosecco were hurt in the process.

Songs about submissive men (Source:Humon)

The Tumblr post above by Humon is what started it. I prefer my own selection even if it is not submissive men singing. Trust me you don't want to hear me sing.

TLC's Submissive Wives' Guide to Marriage

Despite its ongoing popularity, Fifty Shades is the worst thing that ever happened to the BDSM community. TLC, a broadcaster that brands itself as non-fiction women's lifestyle TV - how do they come up with a description like that anyway - is one of the businesses that tries to cash in on the phenomena with an hour long "documentary" about submissive women. When they ran the promo they forgot to tell that it is about a submissive marriage in some biblical sense. It is unsettling and painful to watch.

Even this is preferable to TLC's portrait of a submissive marriage

Eva Carneiro: Eyes are the Mirror of the Soul

A while back i suggested that former US Secretary of State Condoleeza Rice was the person to replace Sepp Blatter as head of world football association FIFA. Guess I am the only one who likes the idea.

When you blog there is only one rule: every post needs an image, so I selected a picture of Chelsea club doctor Eva Carneiro treating Demba Ba's broken nose. This week doctor Carneiro made headline news again and what caught my attention was the expression on her face: ferocious.

Chelsea’s doctor Eva Carneiro exchanges views with coach José Mourinho. (Image The Guardian)

“The eyes are the mirror of the soul and reflect everything that seems to be hidden; and like a mirror, they also reflect the person looking into them.”

― Paulo Coelho, Manuscript Found in Accra

What happened?

During a match against Swansea last Saturday Carneiro ran on to the field to treat Eden Hazard, who had gone down with an injury. The medics were beckoned on by the referee, merely fulfilling their duty of care as medical professionals. Coach Mourinho, though, was incensed. With Chelsea already down to 10 men  and the game level at 2-2, he was worried that his team might be vulnerable with only eight outfield players to a Swansea counter for the winning goal.
Carneiro was later demoted after which the Premier League Doctors’ Group expressed concern that results were more important than the welfare of players.

The Guardian also has some background on Dr. Carneiro.

Meganekko: Loving Girls With Glasses

Fetishes are hard to understand - you shouldn't even try most of them don't make sense, they are often weird and sometimes just gross. So I am wondering whether a fetish can be uncomplicated and basic. I noticed how some girls look so good with glasses - no don't worry it is not a fetish, but it made me wonder if there is such a thing as a fetish for glasses. Myself I prefer to see Felicity Smoak, a character on the TV show Arrow, with glasses.

Two fetishes for the price of one. Tears and frustration not optional.

Femdom is Fun For Two

Impossible to explain to outsiders but kink is fun for both parties involved. Not one for giving up control, I mostly write about serious stuff. Once in a while however one should celebrate the joys of femdom, so here are some images of what I consider true femdom bliss. The first one is the best by far.

A picture paints a thousand words, her hand, his smile and then there is that collar.

Goddes Jude: Exploitation, Some Call It Findom

A domme in Florida is currently being sued for exploitation of an elderly person, defined as someone over sixty. She allegedly took about half a million dollars in cash and the deed to his house in the four years he was her client. The domme also accompanied him to an appointment with a neuropsychologist and psychotherapist in 2013. The slave's lawyer claims she was aware of his diminished capacities and the plaintiff is now seeking compensation.

Goddess Jude:"financial slavery" for clients who wish to "pamper" their mistress.
(Image source: Paperback Hero)

Punishment in the country side

Kink doesn't always have to be complicated to be interesting. This post on Tumblr by Need Her Discipline shows that. No Fifty Shades of Silliness, but rather real people enjoying their kink.

Perhaps the couple took a wrong turn and ended up somewhere in the country, but it makes for an interesting setting. There is no one for miles around - try that in over here in Holland - so no need for gags. You know what's gonna happen but it still is fascinating to see her pull the belt out of her jeans and administer some serious punishment.

Killer hides in S&M room

Next time perhaps try the doghouse?

It is August and it is definitely silly season in the papers. Earlier today I read one of the funniest frivolous news stories ever (link in Dutch). A man, convicted of murder in Belgium had managed to escape during his trial in 2013. He successfully evaded arrest for almost two years. Today the police was finally able to apprehend him. The murderer was hiding in a small space he created himself behind a mirror in an S&M room in a house in central Brussels.

I think Fifty Shades is to blame for his creative choice of hide out. After his arrest the man was transferred to the prison of St. Gilles. According to the police his prison cell will be larger than the space he was hiding in. He should be grateful for that because he has been sentenced to life in prison.

Bizarre Britain (not a good thing)

What's wrong with Britain these days? London is becoming a ghost town - a mausoleum for wealthy ghosts that is - and will soon declare independence as the city state of Richistan. One columnist even expresses amazement that Hoxton is hot. Perhaps I should explain. In other parts of the city buildings attack people like they want to ban humans from the capital altogether and to top it all of you have David Cameron in 10 Downing Street. He came close to gambling away Scotland and the even the European Union got involved, blackmailing the Scots with visions of a bleak future.

Blurred Lines, approved by ISIS (I assume)

Despicable (Minion) Porn. It Exists. There is Porn Of It

All of a sudden I start to worry: Am I some Uber-freak, as in a freak among freaks? What is wrong with me that I do not enjoy Minion porn?

Sponge Bob anyone?

Not a Banksy

Wouldn't it be wonderful if one night Banksy showed up outside mistress' dungeon and left something like this?

It's life size, see the construction worker to the right.

I have no idea where it is from or who painted it but I love it. Not just the vibrant colours - they make the whole scene look like something of a dream - but especially what her whip looks like. If you take a closer look it resembles a magic wand, which some argue a whip is after all. Love it.

Scientific Torture. As Recommended By Your APA Psychologist

Trust me, I'm not a doctor

"...doing special things to special people in special places.”

Mind games (Source: Arrakis Art)

So the American Psychological Association assisted in the torture of terrorism suspects. In itself no surprise. The frightening part however is that the people you should be able to trust in the most difficult of circumstances and who are trained to help people overcome mental hurdles, allow their skills to be used for something very bad. Perhaps some masochists dream of being tortured by someone who understands their deepest fears and uses his or her skills to magnify them manifold but for most people it is the end of yet another safe haven.

Public Play, the Right Way

Public Play is definitely not my thing but sometimes you see something and think: "Awesome". The images below were originally posted by Casual Cruelty on Tumblr and are a bit more explicit than the images I usually post. I love Japan.

There is Kink on TV (but it is hidden)

Despite Fifty Shades - there is no ongoing revolution - kink still gets a bad rap in mainstream television. Under the surface are a few exceptions of smart, attractive, strong, dominant women however. Just don't tell the TV bosses.

Don't look so surprised. You're all my whipping boys

In the old days - when you were watching the telly, you could spot the bad guy a mile away because he smoked. Good guys didn't light up. In 2015 smoking is no longer socially acceptable, not even for bad guys, only losers smoke these days. I've said it before and I'll say it again: most mainstream media abuse BDSM to paint a not so pretty picture of the bad guy.

Cool Captioned Images

Captions are usually not my thing. Most are repetitive, tunnel vision rather than creative and often reek of desperation. Below are 11+1  captions I like.

Shibari: you're doing it wrong.

Mistress Evilyne's update on recent events

A few days ago I wrote about mistress Evilyne, whose neighbours complained. Today she announced  she is closing down her dungeon for the time being, looking to relocate.

Mistress Evilyne. Image taken from her website.
I guess its designer is looking for some pfunishment.
A background image of 1.46MB? Come on.

"Governess Ely and I will no longer be taking session bookings at Dungeon Manor in Orpington. I am going to take down the Dungeon Manor website today, and we will no longer be accepting dungeon rentals or film set hires."

Mistress Evilyne's Ordeal. Noise, Nosy Neighbours and Misconceptions

A week ago I read about mistress Evilyne when Femdom Resource wrote about her. Today somebody shared another link about the police "discovering" her S&M dungeon after complaints from the neighbours. Unfortunately the Yahoo article is perhaps the worst of the lot.

Now that's what I call adult fun (Image: Yahoo)

Coral Korrupt Found Her Peace

Today I learned Coral Korrupt passed away some days ago. Never met her and probably never would, don't think we are very compatible (my fault) but as I wrote before her story moves me.
 

Not another Fifty Shades novel please

Bashing Fifty Shades is one of my guilty pleasures, but sometimes it is just too much. Never cared much for the novels, I expected that after the movie they would go the way of the Titanic, but as it turns out Fifty Shades is more like Jurassic World. There is no way to get rid of either those dinosaurs or the franchise.

FIFA, Femdom, Whatever? Nope!

Now that the USA has challenged FIFA, a fight they won for the time being, there are a number of side effects few have considered. Bloomberg columnist Kavitha Dickinson rightly argues in favour for the inclusion of women's football.

Some heralded the US intervention as revenge on the 'beautiful game', an opinion one only can discard as utterly deranged, given the fact the US women's football team ranks second in the world after Germany. A country which incidentally also is the one with the world's most powerful woman as head of state. Of course such a statement only holds true for those who believe in FIFA's executive committee not being a bunch of misogynists, admittedly a hard sell. Then again, we live in interesting times.

Very impressive

Humanity's true nature - and why it sucks.

Is your mistress truly looking out for you? When a slave says "Anything for you mistress" does it mean "fulfil my desires and quickly please or I'll move on." Why do people become police officers? Do they feel an obligation to protect the public or are they looking for a licence to kill (in)discriminately? 

It gets worse...

Personally I never felt kink is benign, something other practitioners preach over and over again. If you believe that, you also think kink exists in a vacuum, where people can switch their desires on and off, depending on their mood, rather than a continuum in which degrees of sadism, masochism, selfishness and other (un)usual desires exist.

Mad Max turns Mad Femdom, it makes me Furiosaious

If you think - young - Steven Segall is a guy high on octane go see Fury Road. If you are looking for kink or a reassurance of your femdom world ideas, just rent R100. Mad Max Fury Road has absolutely zero to do with femdom and if you read on there will be a 100 percent spoiler below.

Alien anyone? I liked Trinity better anyway. Furiosa (played by actress Charlize Theron) is not that special see 11 movies to watch instead of 50 shades

The original Mad Max movie in 1979 was an Australian low budget film, one that incidentally launched Mel Gibson's career. Given the fact that making movies is just business it was about time they redid it. Then again they also redid Poltergeist.

The First Anti-Slavery Pamphlet 300 Years Ago

Slavery is of all times. Slate magazine has a look at: "Caveat Emptor": The First Anti-Slavery Pamphlet Published in New England. My not so happy - and guilty - thoughts on the issue of real world slavery.

Caveat Emptor. Now really? A rotten deal doesn't even begin to cover it.

Slavery is supposed to be fun. At least for those of us who are into BDSM. I wrote before on modern day slavery - humanity's most despicable act of inhumanity. How can anyone justifiably claim ownership over another human being? Even more vile: the motivation behind it is purely monetary. Somebody else's suffering is why the choosen few, including you and me, can live a life of luxury. We all know the parasitic practice continues to this day. Just look at your phone and imagine some poor sod in Asia inhaling toxic fumes - the kind that will shorten his or her life dramatically in an excruciating painful way - while assembling your latest fashion statement. Then again who cares about other people's health when it saves you tens of dollars on your next must-have Iphone? And yes I plead guilty just like you.