Thursday, December 31, 2015

Wonderfull Goddesses & Majestic Curves

We men are genetically imprinted with a love for the female body. It nowhere says bones in a bag is the only acceptable preference. And don't even think about putting on a sexy outfit. 

Jhonni Blaze dressed in a fetish outfit walks out the door, curyv woman
Jhonni Blaze (Image credits unavailable)

Grace Jones is scary. Serena Williams is ill-suited for advertisement and I am not allowed by the femdom police to have my own preferences. After being a good boy all year, the last post of 2015 is an act of defiance.

Apparently the only female bodyshape I am only allowed to lust for and worship is bones in a bag. On top of that the femdom police has decided that any kind of sexy outfit, let alone fetish attire is out of the question. Not even if the women like it themselves. We all know the femdom police exists to make everybody as miserable as possible, mistresses and slaves alike. Good thing you can catch the femdom police of guard around New Year's Eve. They're probably drunk since Christmas.

Wednesday, December 30, 2015

ISIS' Sex Slaves. A Theology of Rape

ISIS’s has drawn up a set of rules on how and when to rape enslaved women. They were issued in an effort to curb “violations” of Sharia law in the treatment of captives. Today Reuters News publishes a translation.

recreation of a slave market in iraq where women in chadors are sold, holding up price tags
A protest recreating a modern day female slave market (Image: GH)

Throughout history rape armies have used rape to strike fear into the hearts of the civilian population. It also serves as a reward for soldiers. Islamic terror group ISIS is no exception. It is hard to believe such practices still continue to this day on such a large scale. The religious zealots of ISIS decided differently. Where the majority of religious people in the world use the religion as a force for good, ISIS does not. The terrorists uses rape as a recruitment tool. Recruits are awarded sex slaves, mainly women captured by ISIS fighters. Not only that, they are also sold to affluent Middle Easterners.

No Chastity For Me Please. Thank You

For many reasons I'm not into chastity. And before you say that choice is up to mistress, let me remind you that any successful relationship is based on the needs of two people. When I saw a an image of a spiked chastity device it made me think about the why and how of such toys.

metal chastity devices
(Image: Male Chastity Devices)

Broadly speaking there are three reasons why I don't like chastity. First of all sexual frustration is no substitute for mutual attraction. Most women know, we men promise them the moon - and throw in both Mars and Venus as a bonus - when we are horny. To be on edge 24/7 reduces mistress to an object of desire. As usual: who is serving who? Perhaps this is the part where sadism and dominace begin to bite each other.

Then there is the vanilla world. Chastity is a huge distraction to whatever you do. Most women expect their slave to be more than just horny. Full time chastity is a major impediment to professional success.

Do kinky folk have just one thing on their mind? Sometimes I wonder. Me, I strive to be more than just the sum of my desires. Unfortunately long term chastity achieves quite the opposite.

Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Mistress Hibiki: The Dominatrix as Artisan

A captivating image on Tumblr made me think about how femdom can be more than just play. Some use their passion for femdom as an inspiration to create something beautiful and artistic that defies the usual boundaries of femdom.

Japanese mistress dominatrix Hibiki holding a samurai sword, femdom art
Japanese mistress Hibiki holding a samurai sword (Image  Tokyo Dope)

My blog often reflects upon topics others don’t touch for fear of being singled out by the femdom police. Naughty corner for you and no more playtime! The fact that I enjoy a good fight doesn’t help either. I prefer the ones with those who hold themselves in high regard, but the world at large disagrees. If you wanna play with the big boys, better come prepared. Some interpret my writing as animosity towards kink. They are wrong. Quite the contrary, I’m loving it. Why wouldn’t I? Born this way. When I discovered I was not alone – there are women who nurture similar yet opposite interests – I felt like a kid in the candy store. Didn’t we all?

Monday, December 28, 2015

Serena Williams: Embodiment of Femininity, Strength and Power

Sports Illustrated choose tennis player Serena Williams as Sportsperson of the year, a recognition of her talent, determination and hard work that was long overdue. Serena in turn choose the image of herself posing on a throne for the cover of election issue. Such a bold, excellent choice makes me admire her even more.

serena williams on the cover of sports illustrated, sitting on a throne after she was voted sportsperson of the year 2015
A powerful image of Serena Williams. She is the embodiment of femininity, strength and power, no throne necessary. (Image: Sports Illustrated)

Despite being the best female athlete of all time, tennis player Serena Williams has faced discrimination throughout her career. She was ridiculed by her fellow female tennis players. Advertisers didn't like her looks, which resulted in considerably lower revenue from sponsor contracts than other athletes.

Sunday, December 27, 2015

Vice Magazine on Findom. Freaks Sell

A little light reading for the holidays with Vice's section on BDSM, financial domination and other things not safe for work. Warning: reading those articles is fun, but will not leave you of any wiser. Happy holidays.

drawing of findomme on a pile of cash, with her laptop.
Give it to me baby. (Image: Vice article)

Sex sells. Freaky stuff too. Fifty Shades can make you very rich. Some time ago I wrote about a Vice journalist who tried on a male chastity device. A lofty effort to understand BDSM a little better.

Saturday, December 26, 2015

How The Grinch Stole Our Christmas

Ever wondered what the weirdest thing is, people give to charity? A few years ago The Grinch stole our Christmas. Recently I asked myself that question as I donated some of the things my love and mistress left behind. It was another crazy December, that made me look back. Today – Boxing Day – a story of a love that wasn’t meant to be. Read on and you’ll understand why every year, around Christmas, I think of her.

wooden box with BDSM toys: whip, ball gag, cuffs, riding crop
Mine looked a little different.

When love leaves town, you box her personal items to be picked up later. Or not. A couple of years ago The Grinch stole our Christmas and all he left me with was the box, a deluxe edition with nipple clamps and other spicy items. Fortunately nipple clamps don’t scare me. The hand that operates them however, does.

Tuesday, December 22, 2015

Britain's Anti-Porn Laws One Year On: It's Ugly

Twelve months later, The Independent runs a story on the 2014 British Porn Laws. And yes it is bad. Censorship always is. But so is the slow demise of individual freedom that creeps up on us. Censorship is never the answer.

mistress megara fury from glasgow, scotland has also suffered from britain's extreme porn laws, excecuted by ATVOD
Glasgow based dominatris Megana Fury
The Independent writes how Britain's extreme porn laws have affected her.
(Image: The Independant)

What everyone feared would happen, did happen. Of course. As if anyone ever doubted it!  One year on, Britain's Obscenity Act drove some out of business and others overseas. But did it save anyone from harm? Most likely not. So much for a tolerant and liberal society.

Wednesday, December 09, 2015

ManServants. Broken Heart? Rent a pretty vanilla slave thingy!

Wherever you look, vanilla minds are being dripfed the idea of power-exchange as an essential ingredient to any succesfull relationship. On top of that the Fifty Shades legacy feels more like a tsunami, but elements of dominance and submission are all around.

A special from our ManServant Holiday Collection: slave-candy-man. Brain and conversational skills are extra. Order now. Comes with free gag, blindfold and chastity device. We'll even throw in a t-shirt just to make him feel more exposed and helpless. The ugly shirt highlights the missing undergarment, a psychological trick to reinforce his lack of control and vulnerability. At your service! (Note: image above is a suggestion for presentation only. Actual humiliating effect may differ on a per slave basis.)

Some years ago I ran into something called servants4u. Basically it is a free service for dominant women. Servants who enlist are available for all kinds of chores including ironing, chauffeuring and gardening. Lucky for them I’m not a domme. I would request their service and send them of to someone in need but without the slightest interest in Fifty Shades of fun. After all to serve is to serve. To serve is its own reward. It's all about giving, not receiving, etc.

Wednesday, December 02, 2015

Debt Bondage 2.0: Pay Day Loans & Cash Advances

Modern day slavery exists right under our noses. Short term lending is one such example. It prays on the desperate – and often financial illiterate – who have no way out. The pay day loan industry presents itself as a good samaritan. Don’t be fooled. They are loan-sharks who pray on the weak. After all business is business.

female debt collector in Singapore
A different kind of menace. Female debt collector in Singapore (Image: Herworldplus)


A small loan, you pay back in a few weeks time, it seems so convenient. You need money now. What else can you do? Most customers have no idea just how much they have to pay back later. In part the industry relies on this. These loans come with high interest rates. Then there are the fees. Loans spin out of control because of the combination of these combined with hidden charges.


Thursday, October 29, 2015

Bounce & Facesit. Is It The New 50 Shades?

Recently gifs where women dropped themselves onto their boyfriend's face, started flooding the internet. The first time I saw one, I was baffled. Happiness raining down on you from the skies above. The second one, with her beautiful smile, just before she sits down on her sleeping boyfriend, I just loved it. I liked it so much, I labeled it "Lucky birthday boy". This third - and less inspired installment - kinda makes me wonder. Is there a hype going on?

That would be a shame. Hypes ruin the beauty of everything, especially of anything that is odd or quirky. One can never have to much fun, but no fads please. Other than that, I'm loving it (once again).

Friday, October 23, 2015

The Bodyguard: Kinky Roleplay At Its Best

Find out if he is worthy. Make him suffer by the very hands he vows to protect. Some enjoy scenarios to spice up their play. Too bad most plots are boring. But not all. Test your new bodyguard. Make sure he is up to the job. Beat him into a pulp and make him suffer, is the most creative outline, I came across in a long time.

clip, Demolition Dommes - Goddess Maxx & Lexi Brown - So, You Wanna Be A Bash Brother? , c4s clips4sale, bodyguard
Not impressed. Or too much fun? Round two anyone? (Image: Demolition Dommes)

Keep it simple
Some people like scenarios they can play out. Me? I prefer to keep it simple. She is my mistress and I am her slave. The natural order of things. By choice and by nature. Does it really matter? Mistress can punish you, or make you suffer any way she likes, just because she feels like it.

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Nuts? Vanilla Journalist Tries On Chastity Device

One daring Vice reporter tries on a chastity device for three days. He doesn't like it. Nor does his boyfriend. He deserves some respect for trying to understand, rather than vent yet another opinion. 

cb 3000, male chastity device, vice (website)
Package for the package

The world is fascinated by BDSM. Some of the more adventurous types - or is it bored home-makers? - read Fifty Shades. The more daring experiment. Spoiler alert: it hurts, as intended. One Vice writer took the concept of investigative journalism to new heights. Not being into BDSM, he wore a chastity device for three days. To be honest that is pretty cool.

He loved the kinky secret, he was hiding under his pants. That is about the only thing he enjoyed about his three days locked in the device.. The author did not like being aroused, without being able to have sex. His description: a black hole of desire. No surprises there. Going to the bathroom was a bit harder as well. Who would have guessed?

A few days later his boyfriend comes over. Finding out about the experiment, he was disgusted. More interestingly, he said:
"You're not any fun without your dick anyway."
 That was after the author wondered how:
"Some guys wear these things for up to ten days. That is, pun intended, nuts."

Sunday, October 18, 2015

Sarcasm Is Free: Nine Commandments for Dominant Women

Rules solve every problem there is. If you believe that, you should go into politics. Femdom is about two people who work out what femdom means to the both of them. Any mistress-slave relationship is built upon the same rules that all relationships are. There are no special femdom-only rules. It's been a while since I've seen rules this silly. Clearly someone's desires got the better of him. Read them and enjoy.

mistress slave nipple clamps book on his head
"The rule book didn't work for us, so we put it to alternative use.

In today's episode of how our desires get the better of us, a post I found on Tumblr. Apparently there are 9 commandments for dominant women. Yes that made me smile too. But why stop at 9? We all know that rule number 10 orders dominant women to sleep in leather pyjama's. How else to spot a dominant woman while she is asleep. And no it is not about me trying to sneak in my preference for women in sexy, hot, tight leather outfits. According to the addendum to the 9 rules, I am not allowed to enjoy that. The rules are never wrong.

Friday, October 16, 2015

Men Love Gifs Too. Funny Ones

It's official: women love porn gifs. Time for some light entertainment. Japan is once again the inspiration for today's selection. Other than that I enjoy 'm there is no rationale behind it.

Kid gloves for the over 18s.

A few days ago I read a story about husband who used the parental control on his internet to have sex with his wife. Rather than blocking porn sites, he used the software to block whatever websites she surfed on her tablet before she went to sleep. Talking about a disfunctional relationship.

Thursday, October 15, 2015

Maid's Hand Cut Off - Modern Day Slavery At Its Worst

Once a year on December 02 - International Day for the Abolition of Slavery - I write about real world slavery. Of course it exists 385 days a year, but it is not the main topic of my blog. Neither is travelling. The story of an Indian maid in Saudi Arabia, whose hand was cut of by her employer trying to flee is what prompted me.

The insanity of it all.
Leaving it all behind to provide for your loved ones and then this.

Saudi Enigmia
For some reason, Saudi Arabia is high on my travel bucket list. As a Christian, it is not about the pilgrimage to Mecca. That would be totally disrepectful. The country is an mystery. The only time ever, they allowed foreigners into the country, was in 2014. However that year I travelled to perhaps the biggest shithole in the world, before it became like really unsafe. I didn't get blown-up and had a blast. If you think there is no bigger adrenaline rush than serving your mistress, perhaps you should come on a trip with me.

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Rebellious Bratty Slaves Are Underappreciated

In all walks of life a little rebellious streak is very much appreciated. But not in femdom. That doesn't make sense. Bratty subs add value to the scene as long as they understand give and take and the nature of power exchange.

Boots Yakata, KKK, Japanese mistress puts her boots on her slave
Who needs to lay on the floor when you can sit up and still feel her boot?
Good thing I like boots too. (Image: Boots Yakata: KKK-18)

We are all attracted to kink for different reasons. The 247 crowd is the most vocal in expressing their preferences, something that makes it easy to forget it is not how it works for everyone. Google "femdom" and their blogs will show up first. Reading them as part of an introduction to the mistress/slave dynamic, often leaves outsiders and interested parties with a narrow, warped view of what kink can be.

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

The Hidden Meaning Behind My Naughty Boy Avatar

Yesterday I discovered somebody on Tumblr copied my avatar. No problem but it makes little sense. Despite its mundane look, it has a lot of hidden meaning. Please keep the avatar, but you might want to replace my name with yours. 

That can't be me. After all I am the perfect slave.
If that's true, probably also the most boring one ever.


That image is my first 11dutch avatar. It is highly symbolic. The two stick figures literally represent two people. No surprise the one on the right is me. Mistress is on the left, that is intentional as well, as in geographical locations. The stick figures have two different colours, again for a reason. I assume, I don't have to explain why the man is on his knees as the woman holds his leash. I admit the leash is silly, I wasn't going anyway. But hey that's kink. It doesn't have to make sense 247.

Thursday, October 08, 2015

Fluorescent Louboutins: Yellow Is The New Red

Buy mistress a pair of fluorescent high heels for the holiday season and you can no longer claim you didn't see it coming or don't know what hit you.

Designed for mind games. Anticipation increases impact. (image: Miami Mean Girls)

October is the start of the Christmas shopping season - yes some people really need three months for that. Creepy, Christmas Creep or just plain over the top? Not according to US retailer Walmart. They think you should start in August.

Everybody knows chocolate, not diamonds, is a girl's best friend. On top of that some women pick shoes over diamonds any day. Being a diamond is hard.

A good slave is like a soldier, always on guard, especially when it comes to prezzies. If you want to buy mistress something special and her play space [1] already holds all the Christian Louboutins ever made, how about some fluorescent high heels? Don't worry, I don't get it either, but you simply can't go wrong with shoes. Be careful with the pants in the image though, those are considered high risk.

Houston, we have lift-off. Look close. (image: Miami Mean Girls)

Notes:
[1] Don't be fooled. Play space is mistress' pet name for the most important room in the house, the Imelda Marcos shoe room.

Wednesday, October 07, 2015

Trust: The Secret Ingredient In All Relationships

If a husband and wife share an interest in femdom, but never talk about it during many decades of marriage, what's the point?

hamburger shaped mouth gag
I'm lovin' it. But how do I tell thee, my love?

Something's missing

Is it love when there is physical intimacy but not mental intimacy? Two people loving each other, yet living their separate lives, without knowing they want the same thing. Two people who are even more compatible than they think, somehow mess it up. Guess it means if you love her but find it hard to talk to her, try harder. Trust or loose.

We can all list the things we do for love. Swap love for femdom and ask yourself, is the sub really sacrificing his happiness to please his mistress? I’ve often wondered whether BDSM isn’t simply love with a bit of pain and role play added to it. Bringing it up can be hard. If you love someone, you want them to spare the pain of something – you  assume – will disgust them.

Personally I don’t tell the ones I loves – family, friends – I am into kink. I do not want to burden them with something they most likely cannot understand. They love me and I love them. But what if you fall in love with someone and worry that your kinky desires will drive them away. Is it wrong to bottle up your feeling and be with the one you love?

Trust, not numbers, is what matters

Researching the Domme Deficit I ran into a sad story Labcoat Lingerie reprinted from Edukink. In “One of the 19” Fuzz writes about her first femdom experience in secondary school, long before she knew what  it was – just like me. It made her wonder why male subs outnumber female dommes 20 to 1. According to Bitchy Jones the other 19 female dommes are “missing”. That only works if you assume the number of female dommes equals the supply of available subs. I wish that were true. What if for every 20 women who love the romantic movie “The Notebook”, only one man does so. Are 19 missing or did they never exist in the first place? There are any number of reasons why someone doesn’t share her kink feelings with the man she loves. Sometimes a fantasy should remain just that. Perhaps she wasn’t ready. Maybe their relationship lacked trust.

A man who came to an introductory BDSM event, for his first time, at quite an advanced age.

“What kept you away so long?” they asked him.

“Well,” he said, “I always knew I was kinky, but I was married for a long time and I figured my wife wouldn’t be into it. Not long ago, though, my wife passed away …

… and then I read her diary.”

Notes

Whatever the reason she didn't share her feelings, it is a sad story. It leaves the question if you should read her diary after she passes away when she didn't confide in you when she was your wife.


Sunday, October 04, 2015

Jian Ghomeshi Pleads Not Guilty

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Saturday, October 03, 2015

A Smiling Domme Means More Than Just Happiness

Like all men, I am a sucker for beautiful women. What separates mere Barbies from true Beauties is what is hidden underneath. Who is she? Personality and character can't be observed from the outside, yet guide men into whom they loose their heart to. Her smile is the only visible clue of the kind of woman she is. Like gravity on steroids, it enslaves us. A force no man can resist. Or wants to.

Remember the plan? Love may hurt but kink is fun for two.

Nothing makes me happier than a happy domme. Of course I know every twue slave says so, but I mean something different. I am talking about a happy domme, as in a dominant woman smiling while dominating her property. To me that is the very best life has to offer.

Friday, October 02, 2015

Medieval Torture Devices: One Way to Flog an Average TV Show

The opening credits for The Bastard Executioner feature a number of medieval torture instruments, dripping in blood.  Gore in an attempt to hype a mediocre show. A reminder of play vs the real world and a caution that psychopaths are part of the BDSM community.

TV show - The Bastard Excutioner - metal spiked chair, Chair of Torture, Judas Cradle - medieval torture
1. Not exactly Game of Thrones

One time I ended up in one of the darker corners of Fetlife: something about the deepest fantasies of sadists. It was pretty ugly and non-consensual. I remember one woman describing how she dreamt of torturing a man, chopping of his limbs and other body parts before finally killing him. Some commenters applauded her for the intensity of her deepest desires.

Thursday, October 01, 2015

Never Normal: Gotham's Sadistic Bad Girl

Fifty Shades is no more than a look in the world of weirdo's for bored suburbians. And it works brilliantly. The new TV season has kicked of in full and just like last year scriptwriters and directors use and abuse BDSM - or what they think it stands for - to paint a portrait of the depraved villains. 

Gotham - S02E02 - Rise of the Villains Knock, Knock, two women with whips
Blondes are more boring. The women with whips have arrived.
Making sure the audience knows who the bad guys are.
I tried to give a positive spin to femdom on television but the forces of evil are so overwhelming, I had to give up. So I came up with the hashtag #NeverNormal. Yes it works both ways, something the voyeurs overlook.

Monday, September 28, 2015

Serena Williams: How Commerce Sustains Discrimination

Hard work and real dominance are underappreciated.  Stereotypes are overrated. What can BDSM learn from the ordeal of one of the world's best athletes ever?

serena williams playing tennis
Real world dominance only comes in one flavour: Hard work.

Some dommes drooled over Furiosa in the latest Mad Max movie. Well, get a load of this: Serena Williams. This woman impresses men the right way: feminine, accomplished, forceful and (not sorry to say) sexy! Who wants a sniper rifle, when all you need is a tennis racket and determination? BTW, I love her smile. Don't you?

Sunday, September 27, 2015

Once I Dreamt of Building Mistress a Throne

Long ago I decided that one day I was going to build mistress her very own throne, all by myself. When I saw the perfect throne, I realized, I had never given up on that idea. Learn from me. Don't dream big, it complicates everything.

throne
My imagination running wild, or do the two columns look like 1's. Coincidence?
(Image: Guardian by Naomi VanDoren)

Most of the time I come up with innovative, useful and creative ideas. Only when it comes to kink, my otherwise brilliant plans are deemed to fail. Don't know why. But even if you fail, better do it big and in style.

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