Vice Magazine on Findom. Freaks Sell

A little light reading for the holidays with Vice's section on BDSM, financial domination and other things not safe for work. Warning: reading those articles is fun, but will not leave you of any wiser. Happy holidays.

Give it to me baby. (Image: Vice article)

Sex sells. Freaky stuff too. Fifty Shades can make you very rich. Some time ago I wrote about a Vice journalist who tried on a male chastity device. A lofty effort to understand BDSM a little better.

11 Things Dominant Women Always Get Wrong

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The weird world of ‘male chastity’

Since the whole Fifty Shades thing started the vanilla world has become much more curious about kink. I just ran into an article in The Kernel on male chastity: the weird world of male chastity.

From a vanilla point of view it is a good article. What I did not know is that the inability to enjoy sex normally again once men have gone down the chastity route is a common problem. Personally that would be a shame. Guess I am so kinky I even like vanilla stuff (but not all the time please).

Full Metal Jacket, down under.

Women in White

Yesterday, Miss Janet reminded me of something else I love besides dimples. Women wearing white. [1] And hey OWK, today no snarky comments about how well you guys manage your global business empire. Cool, right? [2] 

Mrs Kim of Rubberstel in white latex from head to toe (image: rubberstel.nl, image is cropped)

Dutch believes it's important to follow one's heart, even when you're not in love. That includes being honest about your likes and dislikes. My friends would say I'm crazy for being into femdom, but it's part of who I am, so I give into it. Without telling them of course.

A couple of years ago I wrote about the essence of femdom: Wonderful Goddess in red. Sadly, I was so spellbound by her image, I forgot to bookmark. That's why I used a stock image for the article header and an image of mistress Ava Zhang in a green dress to accompany the text. It made for a nice contrast.

Kink approved literary quotes

Poking fun of other people's kink is not done. Following up on my post on silly BDSM quotes I decide to do penance with 11 quotes unrelated to BDSM, but decidedly more relevant than the previous batch.

Same thing with dominance. if you have to tell people you are, you ain't. Most dominant people don't even know they are, they are used to get what they want.

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Too Much Information

There is limited acceptance at best of people who enjoy BDSM and that will probably never change. All the more reason to be vigilant about your privacy, especially if you write a high profile book.

Chilling after a long day at the office, just don't tell anyone.

There is a new book out on Donald Trump. Yes, another one. Surprisingly it got less attention than other recent Trump bashings. In "Everything Trump Touches Dies" former GOP strategist Rick Wilson shares his unfiltered opinion about the people that work for the 45th President of the United States thinly disguised as an analysis of everything that's wrong.

Don't worry, this blog is not about politics, it's about kink. Reading the book I found myself wondering just how much information we divulge by accident.

"It must be the broad masochistic streak among lobbyists that keeps legions of dominatrices in business in Washington, DC." [p. 38]

Femdom Key To Solving Women's Issues

Leather works too

Smug Scientists Collective says Fifty Shades equals horror show. Femdom best way to keep women warm.

Naked men, women dressed (leather optional): everybody's comfy. You see my point? (Image: miss Red Stripe and lady Dalia of Cape Town's Surrender Studio)

Yesterday was International Women's Day. Most serious male femdom bloggers have done a curtsy followed by the proper sucking up. Not Dutch, I was busy doing international stuff. Regret is best viewed through the rear view mirror, so here we go.

First of all thanks to those who spent their valuable time yesterday enlightening me about the cruel, male-dominated world we live in. Which we do. Crash test dummies are inevitably male and born at least 20 years before the 1970s. If you're a female driver involved in an accident, you're definitely out of luck. Somehow that feels odd.

San Francisco Armory: From Kink HQ to Musical Venue

end of an era

The Armory is a BDSM movie studio - a haven perhaps - that stands out for its educational qualities. The 200.000 sq foot building will soon be converted into a musical theatre. Yet the tune of femdom movies will continue to go on in Las Vegas.

The San Franciso Armory - Most likely successor to the OWK

After watching the final episode of Sherlock, series four, I began to fantasize where to relocate the Other World Kingdom (OWK) to. The idea came to me after seeing a top secret prison facility on the show - don't ask.

The Most Influential Femdom Movie Ever

Its the classics that shaped me. Mistress Ieish with her slave Talana Gamah, caught on screen, spilling the secrets of femdom for generations to come.

... and most of it I didn't even like. 

Mistress Ieish in full force (Image: Love Libertango)

Some time ago I ran into an older but rather famous image on Tumblr. The mistress in the picture is Ieish. Her slave is called Talana Gamah. I recognized her from an old femdom movie. Of course I remember it. Curious about the why and how I discussed it on one of the boards.

Mistress Evilyne's Ordeal. Noise, Nosy Neighbours and Misconceptions

A week ago I read about mistress Evilyne when Femdom Resource wrote about her. Today somebody shared another link about the police "discovering" her S&M dungeon after complaints from the neighbours. Unfortunately the Yahoo article is perhaps the worst of the lot.

Now that's what I call adult fun (Image: Yahoo)

Luxury Handbags. A Better Investment than the Stock Market?

I'm gonna share a secret with you. Just make sure mistress never finds out. The Hermès Birkin handbag has a better long-term return than the S&P 500. Still it is an ugly bag.

"The whole point was to take an icon of consumerism and change it, which is like blasphemy."
Make it idiot proof and somebody will make a better idiot. (Image: The Telegraph)

For the new year I decided to improve the quality of my blog. I began writing about serious stuff like Beauty & The Beast. There are many similiarities with Fifty Shades. Sometimes I feel life is one big cosmic joke. When I finished the post, I discovered the prince was eleven years old when the spell was cast.

Over years I have taken a stance against findom and overpriced luxury items - experiences are a much better investment - only to find out I am wrong. So very wrong.

Dominatrix Awarded $1.5M. Car Accident Left Her With a New Personality

The National Post writes about a young woman, who claims a car accident changed her personality after which she started working as a dominatrix. In order to win compensation her lawyers paint an inaccurate and misleading picture of pro-dommes.

Mistress Sasha Mizaree

I think the story originated from Canada, but I fail to see the logic. Medical science has a hard time understanding how the brain works even at it most basic level, yet a woman with a brain injury - or her lawyers - can perfectly argue how she is damaged goods and and has a limited ability to work and is unable to finish a degree.

Tabook

Overcoming your embarrassment by buying a book on bondage? Kink is [still] not a self-help book. Come on! 

"While browsing the bookstore 19-year-old Gwen is unexpectedly drawn to a volume of kinky erotica, earning her disapproving glares from the other customers. Will Gwen follow her deepest desires or will she let her embarrassment restrain her?"

Go Gwen, Go! Don't believe the [official] hype, if you are a domme, you are a domme. Don't let a government moviebook belittle your dreams and desires!

We Dutch do it differently. Not only do we have to hand back our passports when we don't act frugal while traveling abroad, we also spend money foolishly on "the" arts. Extra cash if it's kinda controversial, which puts me in a bind after watching Tabook, a short animated movie.

Bondage is awesome. It's not better than sex or kissing the woman who loves you back [best ever!], but it's still awesome. Also, at times very scary. And yes, fear can be fun, but I'm struggling to explain. Let's just hope someone comes to my aid and sets me free - mentally - so I can type up the words and make you understand.

Disconnect: Sadism is not BDSM

To me kink is about fun, something impossible to explain to vanilla people. In the end femdom has to be rewarding for both the dominant partner and the submissive one. For me, just like most men, visual clues work best. That's probably why I like Tumblr. There are a few exceptions.

Him, naked and collared make this image "extreme" to vanilla people.

I love it. The intensity, his eyes, her grip (which he loves). Good things do happen.

Rage Against the Machine. Sexual Freemdom vs The Government

Any branch of government is a machine. Its continued existence is its only goal. In the 1930's the tiny US Federal Bureau of Narcotics was on the brink of being abolished. Its boss hated jazz, it removed racial boundaries. It also gave him an easy target. The Bureau survived by going after (black) jazz singer Billie Holiday. Drugs killed her, but the Federal Bureau of Narcotics played a large part in her early death. Remember that when you think about ATVOD and Britain's extreme porn laws - for your own good that is.

Discovered a new word only a few days after I wrote about the beauty of bondage.

Today Holland celebrates the end of the Second World War, 70 years ago. Having been spared the horrors of the Great War, this is an important commemoration for the Dutch. True to form our government decided long ago not to overdo it, our freedom is worth a bank holiday once every five years. Guess we're cheap after all. Freedom comes in many forms and some of those - especially where it concerns kink - will always be under attack.

Sexual Chocolate Wine

This commercial from Slo Down Wines claims their 2011  sexual chocolate wine goes great with equestrianism. Really? Interesting! Why? Must be the fifty shades of grey effect. See the clip here.

Nuts? Vanilla Journalist Tries On Chastity Device

One daring Vice reporter tries on a chastity device for three days. He doesn't like it. Nor does his boyfriend. He deserves some respect for trying to understand, rather than vent yet another opinion. 

Package for the package

The world is fascinated by BDSM. Some of the more adventurous types - or is it bored home-makers? - read Fifty Shades. The more daring experiment. Spoiler alert: it hurts, as intended. One Vice writer took the concept of investigative journalism to new heights. Not being into BDSM, he wore a chastity device for three days. To be honest that is pretty cool.

He loved the kinky secret, he was hiding under his pants. That is about the only thing he enjoyed about his three days locked in the device.. The author did not like being aroused, without being able to have sex. His description: a black hole of desire. No surprises there. Going to the bathroom was a bit harder as well. Who would have guessed?

A few days later his boyfriend comes over. Finding out about the experiment, he was disgusted. More interestingly, he said:

"You're not any fun without your dick anyway."

 That was after the author wondered how:

"Some guys wear these things for up to ten days. That is, pun intended, nuts."

Power of Love: If You Love Her, Trust Your Gut

Why I'll never visit Club Pedestal. Taking a trip down memory lane. Remembering what matters. And whom you should pledge your allegiance to.

Years ago I had a girlfriend, who was battling a serious disease. One day she sprayed her ankle or similar, I can’t remember. The first night after the incident, I made her promise to wake me up and help her to the bathroom, just in case.

Why not? Whatever makes you smile. As long as you are together. On second thought: Lucky guy.

When I woke up the next morning, she told me, every time she turned over, I woke up and sat up straight. I briefly glanced at her and fell asleep. Apparently I also helped her to the bathroom that night, twice. Can’t remember a thing, but it took me two more nights to get back to my usual routine. Or so I was told.

Wonderwoman Lost Her Whip

Sorry female superhero, but we the movie moguls believe one size fits all is best. We're taking away your lasso.

Rebooting a franchise is usually a bad idea. Just look at the re-re-launch of Spider-Man. We all know he'll be bitten by that spider at some point. Same thing goes for sequels and prequels. Even Batman's commissioner Gordon made it to the television all by himself in the prequel Gotham. Not he, but villainess and all-round tough girl Fish Moon is my favourite character. The show is set in the past when Bruce Wayne is barely a teenager, it is difficult to predict how Selina Kyle - Catwoman - will turn out.

The bad kitten in the sexy catsuit has been watered down beyond recognition over the years in order not to offend anyone, but by leaving out more and more trademarks she also lost most of the appeal she possessed. Michelle Pfeiffer was horrible and Anne Hathaway even worse.

Food Dominatrix

Crème brûlée will never be the same again.

Is there a difference between torturing lost souls and inflicting pain on the fruits of nature? Not if you are a fooddomme who also loves femdom.

She looks so mean. Almost as if she cares and tries to warn millenials about the dangers of advocados.

Domme by day, foodie by night and finally coming out on Comedy Central. Where else? D'oh! If you enjoy torturing men, why not extend the fun to the kitchen and make your vegetables suffer before you boil them alive. Unless you prefer to stir-fry them of course that is. Don't worry, vegetables don't have legs - and if they did - your inner sadist would have chopped their limpings off long before you sentenced the tiny little helpless vegetarians to such an excruciating death. By the way, don't forget the hot sauce, it adds that little extra bit of umpf.