11 Signs Your Girlfriend is a Dominatrix

Yesterday I wrote about Britain’s Culture Secretary who upon discovering – after many months – that the woman he dated, worked as a dominatrix, ditched her instantly. Or so he says. You have to be pretty daft not to know what your girlfriend does for a living. Hard to believe, but politics is all about plausible deniability. Here are 11 clues you can choose to plausible deny. We thank John Whittingdale for sharing these insights with us. He even graciously commented upon them.

1.   "The first time I stayed at her place, I wondered what those things in the dishwasher were. Never seen them before. I’ve given the matter considerable thought and decided it had to be an art project of some sort. This image is also what motivated me to become Culture Secretary. It just felt right. And no I did not ask her about it. Yes hindsight is always 20/20."

Femdom, Sci Fi and Star Wars

Sci-Fi has always served as an inspiration for people interested into role play - and kink. Today, the ninth Star Wars movie is being released. Time to mix some kink with Star Wars.

Oh, the force is with me all the time.

Midway through December, the holidays just around the corner, it's time for a little banter. In the almost five years that my blog has been up and running, I've often advocated not to take your kink too seriously. Don't worry, I say the same thing about life. Anything I do take seriously? Yes, love, not the easiest of topics, especially not in a community where most believe submission is about matters of the heart rather than their own animal desires.

Leather Goddesses of Phobos

Teenage boys and their feeble minds 

Any relationship to Yapoo's Empire of One Thousand Suns is purely coincidental. [Or so they want us to believe.] 

Where's all that leather that you promised me Doc.?

OK, Christmas Eve. I've kept you waiting long enough. And no, you cannot fold a leather goddess under your Christmas tree. That's blasphemy squared. So what am I talking about?

In 1986 Infocom released a computer game called Leather Goddesses of Phobos. Sex sells, leather too and goddesses even more. Trust me on that last one. Wonderful Goddesses are the best! Happy Christmas! So what's the game about?

'The year is 1936, and suddenly the protagonist is abducted by the Leather Goddesses for the final testing in the plan which will enslave every man and woman on earth. These Leather Goddesses of Phobos are just finishing up their plans for the invasion of Earth. If the hero fails to escape and save humanity, the Leather Goddesses will turn the Earth into their pleasure dome.'

Clearly it cannot be Christmas everyday but why did that not happen? Bummer. Despite that Leather Goddesses of Phobos is hot, hot hot. Hot I say. How hot? Just look at the screen print below. 

Don't be disappointed. Remember how hot literacy was in the 1980s?

It's a bit like the Doctor (Who?) boasting how a library full of books is the best weapon in the world. Whatever Doc, where are my Leather Goddesses Overlords? The alphabet is not sexy, useful but overrated at best. I'd love to say happy christmas everybody but I'm still waiting to be enslaved by them Wonderful Goddesses aka Martian Creatures. [11] 

Again: where's the leather?

Disappointed? Don't be. Read my [Leather] Goddesses New Years Eve update.

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[1] Speaking of the Doctor. Thanks to the first female Timelord [2] ever, I finally figured out the true meaning of the Tardis. As usual: more on that later. I just had to do that. And no, the Tardis is still not being made by Ikea.

[2] As seen on TV, Technically Doctor Ruth comes before Jody - Wacko Timetrash - Whittaker.

[11] Those Wonderful Goddesses are not Martian Creatures to be exact, you say? Because Phobos is a moon orbiting the red planet. Do I look like a rocket scientist? Who cares. Don't you have anything better to do, liking harassing the Grinch with all that mumbo jumbo?

Barbie Is The Best Femdom Movie Ever

Total depravity in pink

Corrupt and conquer those Vanilla's

Barbie loves the colour pink. No spoilers so far. In case you haven't seen the movie, do it. It's highly enjoyable. Still no spoilers but be careful, from here on there will be spoilers, like the fact Ryan Gosling plays Ken. After all some girls prefer blondes.

We last met Barbie when Philomena Cunk interviewed queen Patricia, formerly of the Other World Kingdom. Forget the OWK, forget the Kendom, what I wanna know is what the world Barbie lives in is called. It's either Barbie World or World of Barbie. There's also an outsize chance its name is Pinkalonia but I really hope not. Anyway it's a weird place. Barbie's house has no walls, she drinks coffee but she doesn't [cup is empty] and all her friends are called Barbie too. And Barbie wakes up happy every single morning, which given the outlandish use of the colour pink, is hard to believe. Oh and all the Ken's are called called. Yes Ryan Gosling too. The only unique character is Allen, Ken's buddy. Must be a tough life to be the only non-Ken male in Barbie World. Also rather odd but each Barbie has her own Ken. Imagine me getting lost at the annual mistress-slave convention and looking for My mistress. How far do you think shouting 'mistress, mistress' wil get me? Barbylonia is a complete mystery to me. Don't worry both Barbie and Ken [all of them] are equally clueless. And that's not all they're clueless about.

Alpha-Inn, Tokyo: The World's only BDSM Hotel

In February 2015 I wrote an article called 'delicious dungeon furniture'. It is the all-time most popular post on this blog. Why remains a mystery. In its introduction I mentioned that one day I would set up my own chain of BDSM parlors, loosely based on the Alpha-Inn Fashion Hotel in Tokyo. Today it is time for a closer look.

Outdoor Fun

Spring is here

[and the new Doctor. Who? Yes, him]

Four years ago I wrote about the impending spring that was just around the corner. As the post's masthead image I selected an absolutely lovely and stunning photo of mistress Saint Lawrence surrounded by cherry blossom trees in full bloom. Excellent choice if I may say so.

It also turned out to be the worst spring in recent history. Why? Covid-19 had us all locked up at home, watching Tiger King. At the time I thought it was funny to post an image of Carole Basking and her second husband as mistress and slave on their wedding day. Her first hubby clearly died, erhm married the wrong woman and because of that we shall never speak of marriages again. Or so I thought. Then one day an ex of mine got married on my birthday, which means, yes, that marriage has made a spectacular return to the writers room but that's for another time.

Today I want to discuss something different with you. No, not summer dresses, lovely as they may be. It's climate change and the benefits it brings to femdom, more specially the advantages of high temperatures in early April that allows mistress to toy with her slave outdoors this early in springtime. Of course you can argue it doesn't matter whether or not the slave likes the temperature but where is that deeper sense of servitude dude? It's all about her. Why should mistress be forced to wander outside when it's cold. Just to punish you? There are easier - and more comfortable - ways to do that when spring not quite sparkles. Temperature wise at least.

Early April temperatures in the Netherlands hit 20 degrees Celcius. Then rain. Days on end. And more rain. One month on it finally looks like spring has arrived. 20 Degrees today and 25 tomorrow. Why not take you slave out for some fun? Just make sure to tie him up, you really don't want him to pick you flowers. [You know it's gonna be tulips, don't you?]

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Face the Music

Teddy Swims - The Door

This is one song I just cannot get enough of, absolutely love it.Looking forward to listening to his debut album 'I've Tried Everything but Therapy (Part 1)'.

Teddy Swims - The Door [click to listen]

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808

The Israeli invasion of Gaza and the Eurovision Song Contest, it's on the news 24/7 but does anybody remember Ukraine? You should. This is the latest: "Russia makes gains in eastern Ukraine claiming control of six villages as locals flee." [MSN]

A soldier takes the oath in front of her family and fellow fighters.

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Notes

[1] Dr. Who is back. Yes he is. And look at that date. Today is the 11th, can't be a coincidence. And it's gonna be a double bill, two episodes back to back. And you know what I always say 1+1 =2 but also 11. This definitely is not a coincidence. It's on in about an hour and yes we get the BBC over here in Holland. Normally I would not go and watch television given the lovely weather but I'm making an exception for Dr. Who. Really looking forward to Ncuti Gatwa as 15.

And what about Mrs. Flood? Enjoy.

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Workmate or DIY Berkley Horse?

When worlds collide 

Don't believe the hype, there is no such thing as camaraderie among slaves. Friends? Forget it. How many feel sorry for a slave being punished by his mistress? Most envy him. Seriously, the guy is in trouble and all you want is to take his place? Makes me wanna cry.

Same thing with my power tools. Other slaves don't care whether or not I get 'm back. Not even a word of encouragement. [1] Not even a simple 'hang on in.' No, nothing. I keep on hoping. That one day mistress gives me back my power tools. No, not waiting for support from my fellow slaves. Those days are over.

Lady Mercedes of Avalon, Berlin's Second Interview With Lady Sas

Why Avalon had to close

Dreaming of the day her fury meets my fever. It's both frightening and marvelous. {End of personal note.]

Lady Mercedes is smiling. Stop smiling back dude. You know what's next. Oops. I get it.

The other day German femdom blogger Lady Sas polled whether she should continue to post  both in German and English. The answer is no, which makes an aweful lot of sense given Germany's bold, proud history when it comes to femdom. Remember reading that Lady Daria of the Warsaw Prison also studied German. Why am I not surprised? So did Dutch. Bit rusty these days but I'll manage.

Voyage of the Damned

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'Born To Make you Crawl' - Mistress Roberta

From the 'what a woman'-department

What if crawling comes naturally - AKA the easy part?

Hand in glove? The wonderful mistress Roberta on a visit to The English Mansion.

The other day I read an article about a woman, newly available and looking for love. In her forties, which is good, she rattled of the usual list. Tall, educated [whatever that means], stable, mature, good job and  - hold your horses -  a full head of hair. Women and sexism, whenever the two of them meet, its love child is ugly, no exceptions.

Cruel Autumn Ahead

Sorry Dutch

And how was your summer?

Autumn will never be the same [image: Mrs. Hardcastle-Canings educating a student. [Image:Punishment Club]

Any plans this Sunday?
Or the other 52 baby?

Out of the blue. "Funny you wrote that my boy" she says.

"Huh, what?" I write a lot of stuff. Most of it she doesn't even read.

"That post about the Spanktown school a while back."

"Glad you liked it baby, was planning it for some time."

"I think it's time for you to address me properly, being your Love and mistress."

Wishing on a Star - Or how the Grinch Strikes Back

Two years ago I wrote how the Grinch stole our Christmas. This year he is back with a vengeance, messing with our love once again.

Our story picks up again in January 2017:

"Hey!"
"Hey..."

Of course our love is forever. Everybody knows. All loves are. We all know. That is, as long as both parties stick to the script. Us? We've said our goodbyes many times over. Little did I know there are two kinds of farewell. One where lovers misspell “I miss you” and the other – whatever - one. We even convinced ourselves we had moved on. In my never-ending arrogance, I wrote just that - presumptuously speaking for the both of us.

11 Things to Write About in 2018

OWK; My son is into femdom; New to femdom; Findom; Pro-domme book review; Future of femdom; Privileged piggies; Clips4Sale; Domme Deficit; Big BDSM test; Femdom fiction and so much more.

January Seraph, who passed away in 2017

Before I start, I love your suggestions and comments. Please keep them coming, whether it is your opinion about something I wrote, information and links, updates or whatever else is on your mind. Thank you!


1. OWK - Other World Korrupted?
The notorious, beloved femdom compound finally seems to be living up to it's name. As a preview, a 45 minute clip by Goddess Amazon, detailing her encounters with the new - male - owner of the OWK. To be fair, what caught my attention was the name Womania and too much pink in the new logo.

If you have any info, useful links, personal stories about the OWK to share, please drop me a line.

(I Just) Died in Your Arms

Gimp dreaming of turning the tables on his Love and goddess. For Love and for good.

A while back I wrote about time travel: waking up next to an empty pillow. A series of lovely images of Isabella Sinclaire and her gimp girl is what triggered it. But what if gimpy wakes up only to discover it's mistress, not Sweetie smiling at them? Oops?

Safe and secure. Zero leather. Fully protected.

Linking romance with love and sex is easy. It's harder when it comes to femdom. Obedience does not equal love. Love is about balance. It's a two-way street, think Yin and Yang. Continuous, fluent and never-ending. Light shades laying side by side with dark ones in perfect harmony. Two elements that are both complementary and unique but above all cannot be separated.

Shadows need light to be seen. Yet without shadow light has no meaning. The elegance of yin and yang shows us how the sum is larger than its consecutive parts.

Scientific Torture. As Recommended By Your APA Psychologist

Trust me, I'm not a doctor

"...doing special things to special people in special places.”

Mind games (Source: Arrakis Art)

So the American Psychological Association assisted in the torture of terrorism suspects. In itself no surprise. The frightening part however is that the people you should be able to trust in the most difficult of circumstances and who are trained to help people overcome mental hurdles, allow their skills to be used for something very bad. Perhaps some masochists dream of being tortured by someone who understands their deepest fears and uses his or her skills to magnify them manifold but for most people it is the end of yet another safe haven.

Sub Rosa: What's Hidden Brings a Man to His Knees

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.”

Shakespeare was pretty brilliant. Even though he drew upon previous sources when he wrote Romeo & Juliet, the story still stands today. Unfortunately for the author, shortly after meeting Doctor Who, he passed away before he could write about the doctor’s extra-terrestrial origins in The Shakespeare Code.

On a good day you can pick almost any topic and write something about it that has to do with kink. Well, today is a very good day and today’s topic is roses, I like a challenge. That is right, that beautiful flower. Of course there is the book “Screw me the roses, send me the thorns”, but that would be too easy.

I'll choose love over lust. Always. No if's, no but's.

Eva Carneiro: Eyes are the Mirror of the Soul

A while back i suggested that former US Secretary of State Condoleeza Rice was the person to replace Sepp Blatter as head of world football association FIFA. Guess I am the only one who likes the idea.

When you blog there is only one rule: every post needs an image, so I selected a picture of Chelsea club doctor Eva Carneiro treating Demba Ba's broken nose. This week doctor Carneiro made headline news again and what caught my attention was the expression on her face: ferocious.

Chelsea’s doctor Eva Carneiro exchanges views with coach José Mourinho. (Image The Guardian)

“The eyes are the mirror of the soul and reflect everything that seems to be hidden; and like a mirror, they also reflect the person looking into them.”

― Paulo Coelho, Manuscript Found in Accra

What happened?

During a match against Swansea last Saturday Carneiro ran on to the field to treat Eden Hazard, who had gone down with an injury. The medics were beckoned on by the referee, merely fulfilling their duty of care as medical professionals. Coach Mourinho, though, was incensed. With Chelsea already down to 10 men  and the game level at 2-2, he was worried that his team might be vulnerable with only eight outfield players to a Swansea counter for the winning goal.
Carneiro was later demoted after which the Premier League Doctors’ Group expressed concern that results were more important than the welfare of players.

The Guardian also has some background on Dr. Carneiro.

Time Machine

Holland. Springtime. Time machine. Sort of. 

Today is not about Doctor Who. Or? Of course not sleepyhead. Don't you know the Doctor is never without a companion?

# relationship goals

One morning, a couple of weeks ago I wake up a few minutes before my alarm goes of. The daunting task of getting up and facing the weather, which looks more like late autumn makes me go for option B. Five more minutes.

Alone in the big bed, I gaze at 'her' pillow and suddenly realize how much I miss her. Not exactly a news flash, more like on of those moments of weakness where you allow crushing honesty to trample your soul. The noise outside tells me it's a cold May morning. Figures, a couple of days earlier the night temperature dipped below zero.

Theresa Berkley Had A Horse

And a whip, but no actual horses were hurt yielding it [rather ferociously].

Flagellation. An 18th Century engraving presented to the Royal Society in hopes they could explain the appeal. (image: Dirty Sexy History)

Writing about Downsizing the Femdom Show turns out to be my entrance to Alice in Wonderland. 'How about guests appreciating your bold choice of having two, not just one, Berkley horses in your dining room?' And down the rabbit hole we go.

It happened long before the arrival of mobile phones and the internet. Don't remember which book it was, but in one of them the wife finds her business card in his wallet. His narrow escape? It says she breeds horses. Perhaps it was the Happy Hooker, a well-know New York madam in the 1960's and 1970's who went on Dutch television some years ago accompanied by her slave girl of whom the interviewer - rather surprisingly - accepted that 'she' didn't speak. Horses, Berkley Horse, tongue in cheek? To me that sounds just like her.

On The Beauty Of Femdom

Lady Andromeda and slave. Now that's what I call a perfect power exchange. Beautiful.

 
If there is one element of the mistress-slave relationship that outsiders cannot see, it is the fact that at the best of times the art of femdom creates its own, unique type of beauty. It kinda feels like the opening crawl of that famous sci-fi movie about "a galaxy far, far away" [1], except that it is happening right in front of you. So easy to miss the sparks flying back and forth between mistress and slave. Enjoying femdom can be kind of complicated but when the stars align, it's beauty is unrivaled. This image featuring lady Andromeda not only captures that beauty but also the intimacy that often accompanies femdom.

In Greek mythology, Andromeda is the daughter of the king of the Kingdom of Kush; Cepheus and his wife Cassiopeia. Despite the fact that Dutch has visited the pyramids of Kush for real, he never met Lady Andromeda. You can find her Instagram here.

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[1] For once no Doctor Who references. Probably because the real Doctor languishes in jail.