The History of BDSM - Blog Recommendation

Venus in Furs, published in 1870, is an anachronism, or so I thought. Throughout history there always have been submissive and masochistic men but I assumed, that, apart from a few practitioners, the majority of them only gave in to their peculiar desires over the past few decades, mainly due to higher living standards and a more tolerant and liberal society. Somehow it's hard to imagine a troglodyte risking his life bringing home the dino bacon, only to receive a spanking, cause mistress ordered pterosaur eggs.

Before they invented the whip, they had clubs (and Lego I guess).
I feel sorry for Mr. Troglodyte already.

The Beauty of Bondage: Giving Up Control

We all have our own definition of BDSM. Over the years I spent a lot of time surfing the internet - just like you - and I still don't understand why d/s, s&m and bondage are lumped together in a single term. The elements that make up the abbreviation BDSM often represent different and unrelated interests.

Personally I very much enjoy giving up control. Unfortunately that is not as easy for me as it is for some. My personality forces me to get involved with everything that is going on and join almost any discussion I run into. Combine those traits with a somewhat rebellious nature and an instinctive dislike of authority and when it comes to BDSM you have something most people consider the opposite of a winning combination. Let's hope my charm counterbalances that... Fingers crossed!

Coral's Medical Relief Fund

Known for her appearance in numerous Clubdom videos, former prodomme Coral Korrupt is currently battling stage 4 cancer and has set up a medical relief fund. Over the past five months she raised about a quarter of the 100.000 dollar she needs.

Click the image above to visit Coral's GoFundMe Page.

Being Dutch it is impossible to imagine how anyone has to start a fund raiser in order to pay for treatment when struck with cancer. A few days ago the song "As" came to mind (for different reasons). Mary J Blige sings:

"Did you know that true love asks for nothing
Her acceptance is the way we pay"

Apparently "true" submission does not work that way. How else is it possible there are not 1000 real slaves donating $100 each. Perhaps it is enough to have a change of hearts when the music stops playing.

A few more links: Coral Korrupt's Twitter, a tweet from Clubdom and Coral Korrupt on Youtube

American Dad Clip Promotes Femdom

In the old days the villains on TV used to smoke. That is not done anymore, so often villains are portrayed as kinky freaks. Commercials are in on it too, everybody has seen the vodka dominatrix add. So it came as some surprise when I found out American Dad sneakily promotes femdom. The weird thing is, it is more "realistic" than most I've seen TV. Just look at this short clip. Don't know what episode it is from. How about that?

Click image to play clip

Sub Rosa: What's Hidden Brings a Man to His Knees

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.”

Shakespeare was pretty brilliant. Even though he drew upon previous sources when he wrote Romeo & Juliet, the story still stands today. Unfortunately for the author, shortly after meeting Doctor Who, he passed away before he could write about the doctor’s extra-terrestrial origins in The Shakespeare Code.

On a good day you can pick almost any topic and write something about it that has to do with kink. Well, today is a very good day and today’s topic is roses, I like a challenge. That is right, that beautiful flower. Of course there is the book “Screw me the roses, send me the thorns”, but that would be too easy.

I'll choose love over lust. Always. No if's, no but's.

11 Movies to watch instead of 50 Shades

The Fifty Shades bashing continues with a list of movies I recommend over Fifty Shades. It is basically any movie as long as there is some link to femdom, strong female characters or fetish in it.

Selena and Trinity have more than one thing in common.
Neither made the Top 11

11 Conundrums that beg writing about

Most listicles (don't worry, the word is a millenial folly) limit themselves to a single digit, but the wasteland of my mind is so vast I have no problem coming up with 11 topics to write about. Feel free to borrow but please send me a link.

1. It is (more or less) generally accepted that the number of men seeking a dominant female partner is about 20 to 1. What if the number of subs outnumbered the available dommes by the same margin? Would they treat them differently? Promise them more suffering (or less), would phenomena like poly and findom be marginalized or would the whole concept of femdom become marginalized because out of character reality clashes with in-character desires

Two Broke Girls: Fifty Shades Can Land You In Jail

No, I still haven't read the book, or seen the movie (which one is better by the way?) but these gifs from 2 Broke Girls are just too funny to pass up on. And yes lock 'm all up. Who likes Fifty Shades anyway?

Kink, the last bastion to resist social stratification?

Remember the good old days when the attractive male doctor fell madly in love with his female nurse and after surmounting the necessary obstacles, she finally falls into his arms, after which they obviously married and lived happy ever after? Same thing happened to the elderly widower and his house keeper. Well dream on because increasingly that is the stuff of fairy tales.

The Sum of all Fears: Harm Me to Hurt You

The New York Times writes how computers now select targets and launch missiles without human intervention. That's pretty scary, right? How about a sadist who harms herself, to hurt the man she loves. She doesn't want to. My definition of hell.

Tears rolling down my eyes: "I need you." "I'm here." - "Come closer." "I can't." - "I'm sorry."

Me So Alpha

No matter how much fun your kink is, some things are just plain silly. It looks like the "deepest love is between sub and domme"-thing finally has subdued but a new flavour presents itself: the wannabe alpha's.

Yummy, those wannabe alpha's taste so good.

Sometimes More is More: The Emperor's New Clothes

Slaves are often naked for various reasons. For some it is a part of a ritual while others are ordered to be naked because it makes them feel humiliated. Sometimes it is just practical. Being whipped in your bespoke three-piece suit is a waste of money and the insulation makes it less effective.

Clothes say a great deal about who we are and are used to make snap judgements about people we’ve never met before. The way we dress can also enhance our attractiveness or reduce it. Apparently clothing makes our life so complicated that we need a wiki on how to sleep naked.

Personally I feel comfortable naked, both in and out of character, but recently I noticed something odd. Somehow I feel more naked, exposed is a better word, when I wear a t-shirt and nothing else, rather than being completely undressed. It strikes me as weird and I find it hard to explain.

Perhaps being partially dressed looks less natural than being naked or the missing underwear automatically highlights the part of your body that is normally the last bit to be uncovered.

Wonder Woman was designed to bring the world to matriarchy

After reading Noah Berlatsky's article in The New Republic last week, I wrote about the similarities between Catwoman and Wonder Woman. Catwoman lost her whip and Wonder Woman's magic lasso, which compelled people to obey, got replaced by a sword.

Last December Mr. Berlatsky published a book about the super-heroine: Wonder Woman: Bondage and Feminism in the Marston/Peter Comics, 1941-1948. This week Vice interviewed the author on his recent book:

"William Marston, the psychologist and comic author who created Wonder Woman, believed that the only way to save the world from war was for women to rule the world and for men to become more like women. Marston was, among other things, a noted psychological researcher and an enthusiastic bondage fetishist; he believed comic books were a great form for educational, anti-patriarchy propaganda. Wonder Woman was designed to bring the world to matriarchy through confronting abuse and modeling girl power, genderfucking, bondage play, and erotic mind control."

Kink approved literary quotes

Poking fun of other people's kink is not done. Following up on my post on silly BDSM quotes I decide to do penance with 11 quotes unrelated to BDSM, but decidedly more relevant than the previous batch.

Same thing with dominance. if you have to tell people you are, you ain't. Most dominant people don't even know they are, they are used to get what they want.

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Bullshit Detection and Selection Mechanism (BDSM)

How can you tell a twue dominant from her keyboard? And no, the correct answer is not that she uses a slave instead of a keyboard. The CTRL key is missing because mistress is always in control. Now if that strikes you as silly here are a few bullshit paradigms about BDSM, 11 to be exactly.

You have to love this one, not just for the use of the word "real" but for the narcissistic generalization of dommes as de facto strong characters. Somehow I'd rather give my soul to the woman I love than to my mistress in the unlikely event they are not one and the same

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Wonderwoman Lost Her Whip

Sorry female superhero, but we the movie moguls believe one size fits all is best. We're taking away your lasso.

Rebooting a franchise is usually a bad idea. Just look at the re-re-launch of Spider-Man. We all know he'll be bitten by that spider at some point. Same thing goes for sequels and prequels. Even Batman's commissioner Gordon made it to the television all by himself in the prequel Gotham. Not he, but villainess and all-round tough girl Fish Moon is my favourite character. The show is set in the past when Bruce Wayne is barely a teenager, it is difficult to predict how Selina Kyle - Catwoman - will turn out.

The bad kitten in the sexy catsuit has been watered down beyond recognition over the years in order not to offend anyone, but by leaving out more and more trademarks she also lost most of the appeal she possessed. Michelle Pfeiffer was horrible and Anne Hathaway even worse.

The Perils Of Online Porn: Better Call Saul

Business models in love and lust are among the most interesting ones around, but when an adult producer breaks the law to cash in on illegal downloading, nobody cares.

My All-Time Favourite Kink Picture. Surprise

Science is cool. Understanding a bit of physics goes a long way to figure out the magic in floggers, whips and other lovely toys.

And I thought it stood for phunisment

Print your own male chastity device

The 3D printing revolution is in full swing. People have printed guns and spare parts, but printing a chastity device is a first. The obvious benefit is that it is highly customizable. Any suggestion on what to print next? The sky is the limit.

Below a repost of the original post as it appeared on Tumblr, written by devag45:

Available in 7 colours, one for each day of the week.

Google reverses Blogger censorship decision

"Now breaks my clog" we say in Dutch, loosely translated as: What the hell is going on?

According to The Verge, Google has reversed its decision to ban adult content on Blogger. Really? What are you guys up to? Did the NSA object or something?

Then again it is Friday, any spin doctor's favourite day to bury bad news. What is the real news you do not want us to find out Google?

Google deciding the ban would've had a "negative impact on individuals who post sexually explicit content to express their identities."
"The ban would have affected accounts that have been running for "10+ years."
"Rather than implement this change, we’ve decided to step up enforcement around our existing policy prohibiting commercial porn,"

Really Google? Really?

We are Google: Exterminate!
Euh we mean of course we love to hate to love porn.

Homeless Soon: Google Blogger Bans Porn

On February 24 Google announced it starts to ban porn from its Blogger platform by the end of March 2015. 

Yes, 11Dutch has to shut down his blog. I do not want to register an adult website in my own name. Does anybody know of a free blogging service that allows adult content or a free web hosting service where I can run blogging software such as Wordpress? Note that the free Wordpress blogs do not allow mature content either.

Delicious Dungeon Furniture

One of my New Year's resolutions is to learn Japanese. So far progress has been somewhat disappointing. To me Japan is the kink capital of the world, Tokyo is the only place I know of that has an S&M hotel: the Fashion Hotel Alpha-In. Even though the hotel is past its prime, it is fascinating. If I only had a fraction of the money Christian Gray does, I would set up a BDSM hotel myself. Amsterdam, Antwerp, London, San Francisco or Rio de Janeiro, it does not matter, the world needs more places like the Alpha-In.

Of course with six floors and five rooms per floor you can design whatever type of room you like. There would definitely be a Doctor Who Tardungeon room (ever noticed how many kinksters are Whovians?) and perhaps a few rooms decorated by friendly dommes. Since I am not a twue kinkster I feel no shame in confessing that I absolutely love BDSM furniture, toys and outfits.

Punishment Guillotine Chair
You have to be delightfully devious to come up with something like this. The punishment guillotine chair is perhaps the most beautiful piece of furniture I've ever seen. Versatile kinky eye candy, but unfortunately I could not trace its provenance. This Japanese website features it among several other gorgeous bondage devices, but that is it.

So gorgeous

[censored]Who is your daddy? Google is![/censored]

For some reason Google feels they can censor whatever they like. Even though its Blogger service has lost dramatically to Wordpress, it has decided to alienate more users by banning sexually explicit content from next month on. No doubt this new censorship pleases David Cameron and it will be only a matter of time before that honorary knighthood comes Larry Page's way.

The Blacklist #216: Around the world in 80 dommes

Some slaves fantasize about being auctioned off for the night. No thanks. Not me. I am a one woman kind of guy and the same philosophy applies to any prospective mistress. Right now I am single and for some reason the idea of travelling around the world to see 80 dommes caught my attention.

Let's be honest, home is where the heart is. Trust me, I know.

Boys without their toys, sometimes it's better

Purists frown upon it but I'll be the first to admit that I love kink for its toys, the more the better. The same thing goes for all kinds of fetish items: leather, latex, rubber, boots and gloves, appréciation des accessoires as they say in French. But all those paraphernalia do not capture the essence of kink. This lovely image signed by Tingos does. For me it is intensity over extremity.

Sometimes simplicity is the secret ingredient to intense play.

A piece of rope and two cloth pins you can hardly call them toys. A couple, at home, sitting on their bed. Everything is basic but beautiful, he naked, one cloth pin on each nipple. She, in her undies, wearing her glasses, firmly holding the rope made into a head harness with her one hand while she teases his erect cock with the other. His head aching back, trying to get closer to her as he smells the perfume he bought for her a few days before, just a little surprise. The expression on his face shows a combination of delight and discomfort, floating in space, letting go of things, unequivocally surrendering to her, no restraints necessary. He does register her presence on a conscious level but the warmth of her body makes him want to move ever closer to her, reminding him of her on a much deeper level.

What goes on in her mind I do not know. Her head leans forward, almost touching his shoulder, almost. She looks into the distance, like she is focusing on getting the maximum amount of frustration out of her slave as she teases his hard cock. The tight grip on the rope looks as if she is saying in more ways than one: “you are mine”. No answer necessary of course.

Fifty Shades of Grey - The Movie

They just had to do it.

Somehow I never liked the whole Fifty Shades hype. I haven't read the book, nor do I ever intend to do so and I will shun the movie for as long as possible. Studio executives released it just before Valentine's Day.

If you are not into kink, I think it is a really bad idea to take your date to see the follies of Mr. Gray. The IMDB rating for Fifty Shades is 4.1 and to be honest that gives me immense pleasure. Guess Friday the 13th was not that bad after all (evil grin).

Jail Break: Dominatrix Handcuffs Guards Expecting Orgy

What is the use of having a blog when reality is funnier than fantasy. Three women in sexy outfits show up at a Brazilian prison at 3am and ask to be let inside to "chat and drink" Nothing suspicious about that. Absolutely nothing. Happens to me all the time. Unfortunately for the guards there was no orgy, their drinks were spiked and 28 prisoners escaped. Most likely the girls changed their minds and decided they rather play hide and seek. The Mirror has the story.

Lovely "police" uniform...

Dominatrix Awarded $1.5M. Car Accident Left Her With a New Personality

The National Post writes about a young woman, who claims a car accident changed her personality after which she started working as a dominatrix. In order to win compensation her lawyers paint an inaccurate and misleading picture of pro-dommes.

Mistress Sasha Mizaree

I think the story originated from Canada, but I fail to see the logic. Medical science has a hard time understanding how the brain works even at it most basic level, yet a woman with a brain injury - or her lawyers - can perfectly argue how she is damaged goods and and has a limited ability to work and is unable to finish a degree.

Hurry, Cheap Toys. How to Tie-Rip Kinksters

Too often I feel BDSM is all about the money. There are more findommes than money slaves - which is rather unique in the world of BDSM. Want more page views, add some kinky headlines to your otherwise respectable publication. It is the same thing with toys, often too expensive. 

Medical toys sold by BDSM webshops are marked up several times. Often it feels the vanilla world thinks: those kinksters are freaks, they'll pay anything.It hardly surprises me anymore but when I saw this item I was baffled:

In Praise Of Pro-Dommes

Just when you think all is lost and the Fourth Estate has finally surrendered there is a glimmer of hope. After teasing us with jokes about Cosmo's advice on toilet paper bondage, Femdom Resource discusses a short, sensible Cosmo article on BDSM.

Barbie Domme

End the war on women. Liberate men's sexuality

Note: This post started out as a comment and is best read after the article it discusses.

In a messy article - weirdo sex aka kink makes for good click bait the New Statesman editor must have thought - Margaret Arvid fails to convince that liberating male sexuality will advance feminism. Apart from the rambling logic and generalizations what I dislike most about the article is how the author fails to see privilege exists in many forms. One of them apparently being a women's privilege to define how men see the world.

A very Dutch punishment

We Dutch on average eat two kilo's of the stuff each year. The delicacy has its own dedicated blogs. Liquorice is a unique Dutch confectionery. A while ago a few of us were having some fun and came up with a fictional story how Dutch liquorice came about.

A certain Dutch domme, whose name shall not be mentioned was fed up with the superiority complex of several of her foreign slaves. Some made fun of her fellow countrymen for their limited command of the English language, which was not nearly as good as the arrogant Dutch presumed. Others made fun of a traditional Dutch dish called "stamppot".

Don't try this at home

Japanese Manga: Falling Prey to a Flower

In Japan, people of all ages read manga, the word itself simply means comics. The medium includes works in a broad range of genres: ranging from action-adventure to sexuality. Even though I grew up in the classic European comic book tradition - I love Asterix - manga is not my thing. The fact that the stories are in Japanese does not help either.

Kinky New Year's Resolutions 2015

Most people make New Year's resolutions. I did away with that a while ago. The time to act is always now. However I thought it would be fun to have some femdom and BDSM related New Year's resolutions.