Feeling Sorry for Female Subs

Kink is complicated. Like all good things in life. But not all of the time, sometimes confusion is a better word.

Despite the fact that I never look at on-line porn, femdom-related images have no trouble finding their way onto my screen. If that's what Gaia decides, I surrender. Doesn't mean much, I surrender pretty easily to certain women. Unlike most of my male readers, Dutch is a slave who comes with limits attached. I try to restore the cosmic balance by telling silly jokes when timing is at it's most awkward. Somehow it never works.

It took me much longer to accept my limits than to accept the fact I'm into kink. The latter was just my inner monologue telling me "oh, that's what they call it. Cool."

Who Needs Chastity?

Lockdown is good. Being locked-up is bad. Release first, pain second is hell.

My choice for this images probably has more to do with my preference for women's hands and gloves than the chastity device she is holding.

Don't know how dommes take advantage of the social distancing lockdown but the options are infinite. And no, not Dutch. Not seeing anyone at the moment, so I keep myself busy with vanilla stuff I need to finish ASAP. And no, still not done.

By now, you know Dutch believes in a "healthy" balance between Vanilla and Dark, but even I have to agree that this extended lockdown is a great moment to take the time to explore and discover. Unlike most of you, I'm not into permanent chastity. It's not practical and makes life to easy for us slaves. Of course it's annoying that you're not allowed an orgasm. On the other hand, you're always aroused. How cool is that? High on endorphins, all that pain and humiliation tastes a lot sweeter. Why not turn it around?

Smile And Let Love Rule

For a happy, healthy femdom relationship, look at how mistress and slave interact as vanilla lovers. It's that easy.

Dominant woman are not service providers for our submissive needs, nor are slaves one dimensional cardboard figures with fat wallets. 

Keep on smiling! Don't know who she is, but I found this happy couple [he's happy too] on BDSMLR.

Definitely not my best writing, but it's good to see I'm not the only one who thinks femdom at it's best possesses an unique quality that is beautiful beyond words. Still, I wonder how many reader were looking for an explanation as to why they are drawn to the Dark Side or perhaps an excuse to be accept a certain part of who they are.

In Diamonds are Forever, James Bond author Ian Fleming writes “Most marriages don’t add two people together. They subtract one from the other.” Pretty grim but probably true when it comes to most femdom relationships. And no, mistress is not always the winning looser. It's better to read this post out of character, makes you think with the upper, upper half of your body.

British Tax Payers - Black and White - Finally Pay Off Loan To Former Slave Owners

What's 200 years between friends?

No, the British didn't compensate their former slaves, it's owners were paid handsomely for loss of their property. And it was pretty expensive.

Beatrix, former queen of the Netherlands, in a golden carriage. What is conveniently left out from this Wikipedia image is a panel painted on the other side. Is called something like "Colonies paying tribute to the Dutch Virgin." The Virgin represents the Dutch Commonwealth.

Dutch has set himself a goal: to become the most boring person of 2020. In order to reach that goal, I read boring stuff. Nothing is duller than taxes, it's why I read the Tax Justice Network newsletter.

Lady Luck cannot hate me. I'm born in a rich country, male, white and university-educated plus other privileges I will never know exist for real. I hope you understand irony, because that's what this next line is all about. Somehow I cannot win [loose], not even when I try to be boring. I was so sad the other day after reading the Tax Justice Network newsletter.

Removing statues of politically-incorrect historical figures is the biggest mistake ever. The less future generations know about the atrocities of the past, the harder it is to make them understand what's wrong in today's society. Paint them pink and put them on display in a museum, explanation about why they were truly evil next to it. Whatever you do, don't hide the truth.

Dutch Police Discovers Underworld Torture Chamber

the difference between reality and "for us this is real"

No limits? As in non-consensual non-consensual? Dentist chair meant for torturing fellow criminals discovered by police.

Criminals everywhere felt safe using Encrochat, a secure way to communicate without police interference. Got something to sell? Look for buyers on Encrochat. Desperately wanna kill someone? Encrochat! Feeling the heat from the girls and boys in blue, just press that panic button and all that naughty stuff is gone. Or at least it used to. As it turns out, the panic wipe button wasn't functioning properly for some time already. Police officers in various country were reading in real time what criminals were up to. Bye bye dreams of being safe and anonymous while doing bad things, really bad things.

On The Beauty Of Femdom

Lady Andromeda and slave. Now that's what I call a perfect power exchange. Beautiful.

 
If there is one element of the mistress-slave relationship that outsiders cannot see, it is the fact that at the best of times the art of femdom creates its own, unique type of beauty. It kinda feels like the opening crawl of that famous sci-fi movie about "a galaxy far, far away" [1], except that it is happening right in front of you. So easy to miss the sparks flying back and forth between mistress and slave. Enjoying femdom can be kind of complicated but when the stars align, it's beauty is unrivaled. This image featuring lady Andromeda not only captures that beauty but also the intimacy that often accompanies femdom.

In Greek mythology, Andromeda is the daughter of the king of the Kingdom of Kush; Cepheus and his wife Cassiopeia. Despite the fact that Dutch has visited the pyramids of Kush for real, he never met Lady Andromeda. You can find her Instagram here.

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[1] For once no Doctor Who references. Probably because the real Doctor languishes in jail.

Tabook

Overcoming your embarrassment by buying a book on bondage? Kink is [still] not a self-help book. Come on! 

"While browsing the bookstore 19-year-old Gwen is unexpectedly drawn to a volume of kinky erotica, earning her disapproving glares from the other customers. Will Gwen follow her deepest desires or will she let her embarrassment restrain her?"

Go Gwen, Go! Don't believe the [official] hype, if you are a domme, you are a domme. Don't let a government moviebook belittle your dreams and desires!

We Dutch do it differently. Not only do we have to hand back our passports when we don't act frugal while traveling abroad, we also spend money foolishly on "the" arts. Extra cash if it's kinda controversial, which puts me in a bind after watching Tabook, a short animated movie.

Bondage is awesome. It's not better than sex or kissing the woman who loves you back [best ever!], but it's still awesome. Also, at times very scary. And yes, fear can be fun, but I'm struggling to explain. Let's just hope someone comes to my aid and sets me free - mentally - so I can type up the words and make you understand.

Masked Ball [Gag]

Some wear it well, others hide it well

Gag hiding inside a mask. For maximum fun, combine with hoody.

The last couple of months were no fun, no matter where you are. Dutch talks to a lot of people and I've heard many stories. They've been married for over 50 years when one day he falls ill. She is not allowed to see him. Only two days before he passes away, they let her next to him. By then he is no longer coherent or able to recognizes her.

Strict Eyes

Nobody told me real dommes are equipped with laser eyes these days. 

By the way, how can I every explain my preference for more mature dommes now that I've seen her?

Don't know if Shakespeare was into femdom but the odds are he was. To be dominant or not, that's the question. The answer to most things in life - especially when it comes to relationships - is in her eyes.

Dutch doesn't want to be a rebellious slave, nor does it give me any pleasure, but it's who I am. Blogging for several years now and there's is one thing I've consistently emphasized: be honest. It's your best chance for a happily everafter. It's also the only way to find out if mistress and slave are compatible. There's a reason there's no spell to make you fall in love, not even in Harry Potter.

Leather Trocadero: Suzy Quatro

The first rule of screenwriters guild since 1977 is "introduce a sexy woman in a hot outfit if ratings are tanking."

Suzi Quatro as Leather Trocadero. Happy Days back in 1977.

Judging by the number of hits, hardly anyone in femdom knows who Rick and Morty are. So much for handing over femdom to the next generation. Guess you have to be over 50 or so to appreciate female domination. And no findommes don't count. Because Dutch lives to serve, let's talk about something demi-centennials can relate to: Happy Days.

The Guardian newspaper just finished a series on jumping the shark, TV shows that go downhill even faster after an unlikely occurrence desperately attempting to keep viewers' interest. Moments labeled as "jumping the shark" are considered indications that writers have exhausted their focus, that the show has strayed irretrievably from an older and better formula, or that the series as a whole is declining in quality.

Man on Fire

Just give it a moment

Like I said: eyes are the mirror to the soul. Hashtag "No Blindfolds"

Wrote about the supremacy of her eyes several times before. Most people don't get it. Until now. Just look at her. Personally I don't think he's in trouble, their relationship is - and both of them are taking the wrong approach to fixing things.

The whole mistress - slave dynamic is about power exchange, nothing else. This image captures that perfectly. Or so I hope for them. As for that wooden spoon, his life as an utensil is over. The real question here obviously is: who's gonna clean the kitchen now that they are breaking up?