No (not always) means no

Those evil kinksters are always in the news and the press loves it. Recently a Belgian couple was convicted for having sadomasochistic sex in their own bedroom, in South Africa a stalker forced an actress to out herself as a domme and in Canada celebrity radio dj Jian Ghomeshi got fired over allegations of rape which he claims were consensual sadomasochistic acts. Where the Belgian couple was convicted of something they both testified to as consensual, Ghaneshi used the consensual non-consent argument "it was just play", to defend himself.

Have S&M in your own bedroom and go to jail

Several Belgian newspapers report how a couple has been handed suspended prison sentences for enjoying S&M in their own bedroom.

Not suitable for children under 3 years old.

In a controversial case in 1997 Belgian judge Koen Aurousseau was convicted on similar charges in what since has become the case of the SM Judge. In both cases everything was consensual and both couples filmed and photographed their activities, which was later used in evidence against them. (Note: links are in Dutch).

Findom: the world's priciest fetish

Findom is ill-understood and controversial. People think of women exploiting men's weird sexual fetishes. The notion of "easy money" is generally disliked. It is perhaps the only fetish where the female "dominants" outnumber their male slaves.

Stuff
The other day I read an ultra short post on mistress Arella's findom blog which triggered this post:

"For my birthday wishlist click here. My birthday is in April. Stuff can be posted into my PO Box or choose cash (Paypal) or e-voucher."

So you think you are dominant?

Ever read one of those contact adds where some sub explains he is only submissive to “The One” while maintaining his position as Alpha Male in real life?

A true alpha male, Dutch gorilla Bokito, who escaped in 2007

She rules a palace of pleasure... for women!

"She is the most sadistic, diabolical... woman who ever lived..."

"She rules a palace of pleasure... for women! Where men are used in a diabolical plot to destroy civilization!"

Jian Ghomeshi Will Harm Us All

When Quartz, a well respected business newsletter, argued sexual preferences are a human right while linking to Jian Ghomeshi's Facebook statement after being fired from his job, I assumed it was an open and shut case. Clearly it was not.

Privacy is "Elementary"

TV shows continue to present kink lovers as freaks. TV show elementary nicely sums up everything that is wrong with modern day morals. Or the immorality of a moral clause in a CEO's contract. Never normal once again.

"Sometimes I discuss ancient torture techniques with Sherlock."

Elementary is an American television show loosely based on the character of Sherlock Holmes. In the episode Poison Pen a dominatrix finds her client dead in his house. The victim is the CEO of a large company who is about to retire. His contract has a “morality clause”. As it turns out his successor staged the whole scene when he found out his boss was dead so the company does not have to pay a 125 million dollar bonus upon retirement.

Big Butt Plugs: Everything is Art

The French were shocked to find out their Christmas tree resembled a giant butt plug. They should have learned from the Dutch.

American artist Paul McCarthy has created an inflatable Christmas tree for the Fiac festival. The "Tree" is erected (...) in Paris and looks like a giant green butt plug. Les French are outraged. If they had done their homework they would have found out a similar thing happened in Netherlands more than ten years earlier. At least the Tree in Paris is green and the French were quick to deflate the problem. It took just two days until someone assaulted and deflated it.

Interview with a domina The Blog of Lady Sas

Some simply enjoy their kink. Others are curious about the underlying dynamics. One reason I read interviews with dominant women is my fascination with the contradiction that is kink.

There are a lot of interviews out there. Most come in one of three flavours: a submissive male interviewing a female dominant, mostly with terrible results. Infomercials are an even bigger waste of time as is the serious press, always on the lookout for the bizarre to shock their audience and sell a few more magazines. So it makes for an interesting change if a dominant woman interviews another dominant woman.

The Big Bang Theory's Hidden Agenda to Promote Femdom

There has always been something odd about the Big Bang Theory but I never exactly knew what it was. Hindsight is 20/20 and the show's producers have been dropping hints from an early stage. All couples in the Big Bang Theory are in a D/s relationship with the women firmly in charge. Raj being the odd one out, maybe one day he'll figure out his sexual orientation.

We all worship someone, or something...

"The best things in life are free. The second best are very expensive." - Coco Chanel

Not exactly femdom but the lady on her knees worshipping Chanel makes for a powerful image. Especially with the man standing behind her holding the umbrella. He worships her in turn. What else can it be?