Interview with a domina The Blog of Lady Sas

Some simply enjoy their kink. Others are curious about the underlying dynamics. One reason I read interviews with dominant women is my fascination with the contradiction that is kink.

There are a lot of interviews out there. Most come in one of three flavours: a submissive male interviewing a female dominant, mostly with terrible results. Infomercials are an even bigger waste of time as is the serious press, always on the lookout for the bizarre to shock their audience and sell a few more magazines. So it makes for an interesting change if a dominant woman interviews another dominant woman.

The Big Bang Theory's Hidden Agenda to Promote Femdom

There has always been something odd about the Big Bang Theory but I never exactly knew what it was. Hindsight is 20/20 and the show's producers have been dropping hints from an early stage. All couples in the Big Bang Theory are in a D/s relationship with the women firmly in charge. Raj being the odd one out, maybe one day he'll figure out his sexual orientation.

We all worship someone, or something...

"The best things in life are free. The second best are very expensive." - Coco Chanel

Not exactly femdom but the lady on her knees worshipping Chanel makes for a powerful image. Especially with the man standing behind her holding the umbrella. He worships her in turn. What else can it be?

Female Vikings: The Amazons Have Competition

A recent archaeological discovery learns that half of Viking warriors were female. Perhaps inequality is a more novel invention.

Scandinavian Warrior Goddess.
A time before the yellow and blue flatpack was the best the Nordic countries offered us.

Abuse and Exploitation: Fetish Video Producer Convicted

Money makes the world go round and that is not always a good thing. In April 2014 the producer of the Shefights website has been jailed along with a female kickboxer for beating up a mentally disabled men in a boxing ring in 2011.

 

Kink is all around

Travel the world and you are bound to meet kinky people, especially when you least expect it.

It's a big, big [and sometimes kinky] world.

Holland is such a small country that you simply have to travel the world not to get claustrophobic. This year I travelled to one of those terrible uncomfortable places nobody in their right mind goes to and still managed to have lots of fun. I did not choose the destination for its discomfort, it came with the country. Guess that is the price one has to pay for travelling to such an interesting country.

By sheer coincidence there was this gay couple travelling with our group who were d&s. It took me a while to figure it out. The sub answered everything with either "As you please" or "That would be my pleasure." I started putting the pieces together when I accidentally overheard the sub addressing the dom as sir. After that it all started making sense. When there were not enough chairs, the sub sat on the floor. The locals' hobby was cramming as many people as possible into a single taxi. The sub always sat in the trunk. Once I figured it out I joined him in the trunk whenever necessary. I had to be careful not to burst into roaring laughter every time I jumped in. So funny.

Unfortunately the dom was not a very pleasant person, limited control over his emotions, little personal strength, snapping his fingers at the local staff and so on. I really don't like that so I had to cut him down to size several times - in public. That I liked! Ain't I a stinker. :)

Nothing funnier than real life.

Toys for (controlling) boys

Like all boys I like toys, both kinky and vanilla. The other day I saw two ingenious, evil electrical toys.

The first item was the Public Enemy (what's in a name) cb6000 electric chastity cage. It has been done before an electrified chastity cage but the design of the Public Enemy is beautiful. Electrical play can range anywhere from pleasurable to painful to even unbearable. Wearing a device like that really means giving up control.  Pleasure also, which makes it for a very interesting control toy. It is an excellent little toy to play mind games. Punishment is only milliseconds away. The only moment when you are probably safe is when you are serving wine.

To complement the electrical chastity cage there are the sacksling electro oxballs, they are probably even more scary. They have two electrical contacts, so you can use them as a standalone toy but combined with the chastity cage it makes for an exciting and scary combination.

Little She Hulk in Red

The image below is from a post on FemdomResource, a really good femdom blog with a nose for excellent imagery written from a male perspective. I just love the image so I reblog it here with a paragraph from the original text:

"It’s by the Chinese artist Li Wei. Amazingly, as this article describes, it’s not done purely with Photoshop. There is post-processing of the images to remove ropes and harnesses, but the locations and the bodies are real. This particular image is titled ‘Love at the high place 1′."

R100 - Japanese Mainstream Femdom Movie

Last year, as the London Fetish Scene rallied to raise money for the restoration of “Preaching to the Perverted” in an attempt to preserve the movie for the “fifty shades generation” (yes, really), a more interesting film with a BDSM theme began showing in Japan: R100.

Saharah Eve: Dommes Dishing Dommes.

We All Gotta Make a Living

Every time Saharah Eve shows up in my search results I wonder who buys her clips. Her face is blurred, full screen copyright notice and all materials have a footer with a contact e-mail to report copyright infringements. Saharah Eve is free to do with her pics and clips as she likes but it feels like the emphasis is squarely on making money. Does she even enjoy herself? Who knows, her face is blurred.

Maya Angelou Dies At 86

I'm not really into poetry, guess it lacks mathematical equations but I greatly enjoy Maya Angelou. When I first read "Phenomenal Woman", I was struck by lightning. She is one of the greats, together with my personal favourites Khalil Ghibran, Robert Frost and Oscar Wilde.

Today she passed away, aged 86. Her life and struggle represents the lives of (too) many, still with her poetry she left behind a beautiful legacy. Obviously for me it is hard to relate to "I know why the caged bird sings" but "Phenomenal Woman" and "Touched by an Angel" hit so close to home, I'm still trembling. I reprinted "Phenomenal Woman" earlier, below a copy of "Touched by an Angel", which I read for the first time after I reprinted "Phenomenal Woman". Let me highlight two of its most beautiful lines:

Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

Yet it is only love
which sets us free.

Below the full version:

We, unaccustomed to courage
exiles from delight
live coiled in shells of loneliness
until love leaves its high holy temple
and comes into our sight
to liberate us into life.

Love arrives
and in its train come ecstasies
old memories of pleasure
ancient histories of pain.
Yet if we are bold,
love strikes away the chains of fear
from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity
In the flush of love's light
we dare be brave
And suddenly we see
that love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.

Touched By An Angel - Maya Angelou