Monday, February 26, 2024

Femdom Is Not a Guilty Pleasure

Honest weirdo's of the world, unite!

You want it to be real? Dishonesty is always a recipe for disaster.

Sharing something new and tender?

We all make bad choices - mistakes if you like. Read a story on Redditt about a guy who fantasizes about femdom and meets a girl. She's clearly into. He forgets to mention it's his 'guilty pleasure' too. Go figure.

"Me and me girlfriend had a "normal/vanilla" relationship for about 6 months until she started introducing "new things" to our relation. I always loved femdom and role reversal shenanigans but i never had hope to actually happen to me IRL. I feel bad lying to her. Lying about not knowing anything about it."

We all know any second stupid action cancels out that initial stupid thing you do. It's a bit like multiplying minus one by itself. The fact that minus one turns to plus one is because we agreed on it. There is no such thing in real life. But hey, let's first marry her, then come clean. After all femdom is all about desire not trust or being in a relationship with an actual woman. [5] Fail-safe plan.

"Its a gulty pleasure of mine. I love how she tries to "teach me" new things, trying to be as slow and gentile as possible. I love how her eyes just light up when i accept doing new things. I love how she sees me as just "her innocent boyfriend" she is slowing "corrupting". God, i just love her so damn much.

Maybe in the future i can come clean about my lies. After i put a ring on her finger, i might come clean."

My guess is that there is no joint future and there probably never was. Like a commenter says lying breaks a relationship beyond repair. We all do stupid things, even if you are in a longterm relationship but lying is another level.

Here's another comment that's spot on.

"After I trap her in marriage, I might come clean about being a completely different person than she thought and I've been lying to her the whole time"

A ring is more akin to the end - like when your love is set in stone - rather than the beginning of a joint adventure.

Another commenter tells how one of their clients made up a book club to get close to the man she loved. She also forced her friends to join. And yes, it's a happily ever after but let's be real. It's quite some distance to cover from discussing 50 Shades and not telling you're future fiance that's what you dream about at night.

We all know it's hard to confess being that kind of weirdo. But she loves being a weirdo and is more honest about than you. To me an essential quality of sincere love is the safe space it offers to be yourself. Of course there's a time and place for everything and your beloved one might be shocked to discover you're a different kind of weirdo but love is pretty much sacred. It's an unwritten rule most people live by, some call it pillow talk. Trust, honesty, security, certain confessions never leave the building, no matter what. Even if the two of you move on. Now that's what I call love. Femdom is not a guilty pleasure, love even less.


Face the Music

Donna Summer - Could It Be Magic

At least three songs come to mind. On the radio is another sad best of the 1980's top 800. Guess who's on? Talking Heads' Road to Nowhere. Excellent choice, just like Kim Wilde's Love is Holy [Don't you forget that]. Only, I just watched a documentary on Casablanca Records, a music label from the 1970's and 80's. Glamrock band Kiss was one of the first to be signed. I Was Made For Loving You feels very wrong. Neil Bogart also signed Donna Summer and disco took off. Donna Summer departed in 2012. Absolutely love her music. Remember the guy who originally sang McArthur Park only to turn up in the Harry Potter movie series? Donna Summer did it better, much better. Most of us would consider the confluence of love and femdom to be magic. Be a man, confess today and accept her decision.

Donna Summer - Could it be magic [click to listen]

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“Ronald Reagan, who helped millions of us to win back our freedom and independence, must be turning in his grave today. Shame on you.”

Such are the words of Donald Tusk, President of Poland after the US Senate blocks bipartisan $118bn bill on US-Mexico border and Ukraine. And he is right. Recently the USA retaliated en masse after three US troops were killed in drone attack on Jordan base. In war you can neither delay nor choose your enemy. Somehow the US still thinks it has that luxury. Because of it, or better perhaps because of self-srving, opportunistic politicians who don't care about anyone else - not even their fellow country men - more US troops will die as the ever intensifying Russian assault on Ukraine inevitably will show. /p>

First Partition of Poland. 1772 division of Polish-Lithuanian territory between Austria, Imperial Russia, and Prussia.

Notes

[1] Wrote it before, themes generally choose me [single me out] rather than I choose them. Guess the topic of marriage will follow me for some time to come.

[2] Another comment that stands out:"Yeah… lying to your partner about something so intimate is nasty, seems manipulative too. Why would you do that in the first place? Not a good sign.

Edit: the most concerning part is that you hope to reveal this after you’ve reached a level of commitment that’s much harder to get out of. Extremely sick and manipulative."

[3] "So much of femdom is allowing vulnerability and building trust between each other. Lying about this is really gonna set that back. You need to come clean ASAP." [4]

[4] It's probably too late already. But still you should tell her. For her sake.

[5] She is an actual woman with feelings of her own.

[6] And no incels still don't exist. They're a creation of the clickbait press. Use soap, lots of it and speak with two words. Try saying "hello Ma'am" for a change. Miracles do happen. 

[7] Talking about marriage, be careful guys. February 29th is coming up and we all know what that means...


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