Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Future of Femdom Part I  
Fix4Sale

With Fifty Shades in one hand and Clips4Sale in the other, femdom is experiencing a pivotal moment. Make or break, I believe. Those of us with kink in our DNA, we face obliteration by means of commercialisation. Any fix, for a price.

A while ago I watched a series of interviews with dominatrixes. Rather than asking interesting or  - heaven forbid - tough questions, the interviewer was so overwhelmed in the presence of Her Graciousness, he couldn’t stop sucking up. Such a shame. There is so much more to ask. When you sit down with a domme, who allows you to pick her brain, make the best of it. Whatever they have to say, I am sure, is guaranteed to fill more than a couple of Fifty Shades volumes. So I turned it around. What questions would I like to ask?

One of the things that interest me is how kink, BDSM and femdom evolve.
"Mistress, what is your view on the future of femdom? Which influences and trends do you spot? How do Fifty Shades, the internet and commerce fit into it all. What other elements are there to be considered?

Before you start interviewing others it is good to take some time and think about your own answers. Here we go.


Fix 4 Sale
C4S allows its customers to select just that particular niche and nothing else. No distractions – some of which you accidentally might like – we guarantee. You want to see beautiful girls with green hair, whose zodiac is unicorn, fluent in dead Trojan? Look no further, we’ve got it all. Two dollars a minute please to get your fix. Thank you sir. See you next week.

Where is the fun in that? What about femdom as in woman meets man. She dominant, he submissve. Together. Happy. Rest of world not understand. Who cares? Having fun together oldskool as two people in one room.

Reduced to a set of quircky itches, the very essence of what femdom means to me, is on the chopping block. Pick any three kinks – whatever turns you on this month – our store guarantees satisfaction. Forget commitment. Five minutes max. No human intervention required. Actually as an enterprise, we prefer it that way. Better for business, you know. Oops, we’ll give you a few more minutes, sir.


Mammon
Remind me again, why I don’t like solitary confinement and blindfolds? Before long kink goes the way of Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. Damn if you do, damn if you don’t. Get with the program or face the ire of the intended beneficiaries. Don’t blame them. They can’t help it either. The commercial classes have everybody brainwashed into believing love and devotion depend on a single moment in time – many happy returns of course. The impact of “to love is to buy [tat]” is so pervasive, even the most independent domme buys into it. Mammon has enslaved mistress, oh irony. Our entire existence is defined by monetary devotion. Nothing else matters.

With 20 slaves for each domme, it makes sense, those left behind look for alternatives. Not everybody is into poly relationships, especially not those who cross the double decagonal line. But just like old folk complain the world is going to hell in a handbasket ever since the invention of the pocket calculator, some people now believe Fix4Sale reduces complex human relations to a set of simple, yet weird interests, for which a solution is availabe.

Of course femdom porn is not bad, au contraire. If you look beyond the primal attraction of those clips, watching them can be fun and educational. For some they are a way to experience a particular interest which is otherwise not possible. It really doesn't matter why you enjoy it. As long as you remember that many of the elements that make femdom beautiful - especially the interaction between two people - cannot be transferred onto film.

BDSM is part of most kinksters sexual identity. Both the nature of femdom and the huge difference between the number of dominant females and submissive males means there will be many slaves who will never find a life partner with compatible interests. So why not enjoy a video every once in a while?

The majority of slaves are stuck somewhere in between the quick fix and the 247 lifestyle. Usually it can go either way. No-one can fix the mistress-slave imbalance, but the more slaves opt for the fix - not always by choice - and give up looking for a relationship altogether, the more marginalized femdom will become.


To be continued
Of course there is much more to be said about the future of femdom. Non-commercial mistresses increasingly emphasize a "riel" slave serves with his wallet. The sex industry has always been at the forefront of technology. Real life sexdolls are now all the rage. Would you serve a beautiful digital domme, aka Mistress Robot? If so what does servitude mean to you?

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