Grace Jones: the Original Femdom Icon

Grace Jones: “God, I’m scary. I’m scaring myself. It’s great! That’s beautiful.”

Today is the birthday of Grace Jones. The model, actress, singer and style icon, born May 19, 1948, is one of the most iconic women I know. About three weeks ago I accepted a challenge about how you can link almost anything to kink. The topic I choose was roses and at some point it became kind of personal and I didn't finish the post. Red string of faith and so on, which Grace Jones turns out to be part of.

Secure Your Financial Future: Hire an Expensive Finance Professional

Everybody deserves the best, certainly you

You take pride in being a successful pro-domme. Success requires brains and personality. Obviously you balk at clients trying to get a freebie. Now do the smart thing and hire a professional in a different field to secure your financial future.

Eggs, basket, you're a smart succesfull prodomme and know the drill. Remember 1 +1 doesn't make 11. Pro's for pro's. Be smart about your future and your life. Please!

Today I received another update from Coral Korrupt. Coral is an American pro-domme who is currently battling cancer. You can read more about her and the medical fund she set up to pay for her treatment at GoFundMe. I don't know her, we never met, yet her story moves me. It's a sad story I've written about before.

Not that it is fair, but it differs greatly where you live. Getting ill in the United States is prohibitively expensive, while most European countries have some form of social security that help cover the majority of expenses. And that is just the Western world. Even then being unable to work can become a financial burden, especially for those of us who are self employed.

Teresa May: Copyright Violations and Real Dishonesty

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Rage Against the Machine. Sexual Freemdom vs The Government

Any branch of government is a machine. Its continued existence is its only goal. In the 1930's the tiny US Federal Bureau of Narcotics was on the brink of being abolished. Its boss hated jazz, it removed racial boundaries. It also gave him an easy target. The Bureau survived by going after (black) jazz singer Billie Holiday. Drugs killed her, but the Federal Bureau of Narcotics played a large part in her early death. Remember that when you think about ATVOD and Britain's extreme porn laws - for your own good that is.

Discovered a new word only a few days after I wrote about the beauty of bondage.

Today Holland celebrates the end of the Second World War, 70 years ago. Having been spared the horrors of the Great War, this is an important commemoration for the Dutch. True to form our government decided long ago not to overdo it, our freedom is worth a bank holiday once every five years. Guess we're cheap after all. Freedom comes in many forms and some of those - especially where it concerns kink - will always be under attack.

The History of BDSM - Blog Recommendation

Venus in Furs, published in 1870, is an anachronism, or so I thought. Throughout history there always have been submissive and masochistic men but I assumed, that, apart from a few practitioners, the majority of them only gave in to their peculiar desires over the past few decades, mainly due to higher living standards and a more tolerant and liberal society. Somehow it's hard to imagine a troglodyte risking his life bringing home the dino bacon, only to receive a spanking, cause mistress ordered pterosaur eggs.

Before they invented the whip, they had clubs (and Lego I guess).
I feel sorry for Mr. Troglodyte already.

The Beauty of Bondage: Giving Up Control

We all have our own definition of BDSM. Over the years I spent a lot of time surfing the internet - just like you - and I still don't understand why d/s, s&m and bondage are lumped together in a single term. The elements that make up the abbreviation BDSM often represent different and unrelated interests.

Personally I very much enjoy giving up control. Unfortunately that is not as easy for me as it is for some. My personality forces me to get involved with everything that is going on and join almost any discussion I run into. Combine those traits with a somewhat rebellious nature and an instinctive dislike of authority and when it comes to BDSM you have something most people consider the opposite of a winning combination. Let's hope my charm counterbalances that... Fingers crossed!

Coral's Medical Relief Fund

Known for her appearance in numerous Clubdom videos, former prodomme Coral Korrupt is currently battling stage 4 cancer and has set up a medical relief fund. Over the past five months she raised about a quarter of the 100.000 dollar she needs.

Click the image above to visit Coral's GoFundMe Page.

Being Dutch it is impossible to imagine how anyone has to start a fund raiser in order to pay for treatment when struck with cancer. A few days ago the song "As" came to mind (for different reasons). Mary J Blige sings:

"Did you know that true love asks for nothing
Her acceptance is the way we pay"

Apparently "true" submission does not work that way. How else is it possible there are not 1000 real slaves donating $100 each. Perhaps it is enough to have a change of hearts when the music stops playing.

A few more links: Coral Korrupt's Twitter, a tweet from Clubdom and Coral Korrupt on Youtube

American Dad Clip Promotes Femdom

In the old days the villains on TV used to smoke. That is not done anymore, so often villains are portrayed as kinky freaks. Commercials are in on it too, everybody has seen the vodka dominatrix add. So it came as some surprise when I found out American Dad sneakily promotes femdom. The weird thing is, it is more "realistic" than most I've seen TV. Just look at this short clip. Don't know what episode it is from. How about that?

Click image to play clip

Sub Rosa: What's Hidden Brings a Man to His Knees

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.”

Shakespeare was pretty brilliant. Even though he drew upon previous sources when he wrote Romeo & Juliet, the story still stands today. Unfortunately for the author, shortly after meeting Doctor Who, he passed away before he could write about the doctor’s extra-terrestrial origins in The Shakespeare Code.

On a good day you can pick almost any topic and write something about it that has to do with kink. Well, today is a very good day and today’s topic is roses, I like a challenge. That is right, that beautiful flower. Of course there is the book “Screw me the roses, send me the thorns”, but that would be too easy.

I'll choose love over lust. Always. No if's, no but's.

11 Movies to watch instead of 50 Shades

The Fifty Shades bashing continues with a list of movies I recommend over Fifty Shades. It is basically any movie as long as there is some link to femdom, strong female characters or fetish in it.

Selena and Trinity have more than one thing in common.
Neither made the Top 11

11 Conundrums that beg writing about

Most listicles (don't worry, the word is a millenial folly) limit themselves to a single digit, but the wasteland of my mind is so vast I have no problem coming up with 11 topics to write about. Feel free to borrow but please send me a link.

1. It is (more or less) generally accepted that the number of men seeking a dominant female partner is about 20 to 1. What if the number of subs outnumbered the available dommes by the same margin? Would they treat them differently? Promise them more suffering (or less), would phenomena like poly and findom be marginalized or would the whole concept of femdom become marginalized because out of character reality clashes with in-character desires