Boys without their toys, sometimes it's better

Purists frown upon it but I'll be the first to admit that I love kink for its toys, the more the better. The same thing goes for all kinds of fetish items: leather, latex, rubber, boots and gloves, appréciation des accessoires as they say in French. But all those paraphernalia do not capture the essence of kink. This lovely image signed by Tingos does. For me it is intensity over extremity.

Sometimes simplicity is the secret ingredient to intense play.

A piece of rope and two cloth pins you can hardly call them toys. A couple, at home, sitting on their bed. Everything is basic but beautiful, he naked, one cloth pin on each nipple. She, in her undies, wearing her glasses, firmly holding the rope made into a head harness with her one hand while she teases his erect cock with the other. His head aching back, trying to get closer to her as he smells the perfume he bought for her a few days before, just a little surprise. The expression on his face shows a combination of delight and discomfort, floating in space, letting go of things, unequivocally surrendering to her, no restraints necessary. He does register her presence on a conscious level but the warmth of her body makes him want to move ever closer to her, reminding him of her on a much deeper level.

What goes on in her mind I do not know. Her head leans forward, almost touching his shoulder, almost. She looks into the distance, like she is focusing on getting the maximum amount of frustration out of her slave as she teases his hard cock. The tight grip on the rope looks as if she is saying in more ways than one: “you are mine”. No answer necessary of course.

Fifty Shades of Grey - The Movie

They just had to do it.

Somehow I never liked the whole Fifty Shades hype. I haven't read the book, nor do I ever intend to do so and I will shun the movie for as long as possible. Studio executives released it just before Valentine's Day.

If you are not into kink, I think it is a really bad idea to take your date to see the follies of Mr. Gray. The IMDB rating for Fifty Shades is 4.1 and to be honest that gives me immense pleasure. Guess Friday the 13th was not that bad after all (evil grin).

Jail Break: Dominatrix Handcuffs Guards Expecting Orgy

What is the use of having a blog when reality is funnier than fantasy. Three women in sexy outfits show up at a Brazilian prison at 3am and ask to be let inside to "chat and drink" Nothing suspicious about that. Absolutely nothing. Happens to me all the time. Unfortunately for the guards there was no orgy, their drinks were spiked and 28 prisoners escaped. Most likely the girls changed their minds and decided they rather play hide and seek. The Mirror has the story.

Lovely "police" uniform...

Dominatrix Awarded $1.5M. Car Accident Left Her With a New Personality

The National Post writes about a young woman, who claims a car accident changed her personality after which she started working as a dominatrix. In order to win compensation her lawyers paint an inaccurate and misleading picture of pro-dommes.

Mistress Sasha Mizaree

I think the story originated from Canada, but I fail to see the logic. Medical science has a hard time understanding how the brain works even at it most basic level, yet a woman with a brain injury - or her lawyers - can perfectly argue how she is damaged goods and and has a limited ability to work and is unable to finish a degree.

Hurry, Cheap Toys. How to Tie-Rip Kinksters

Too often I feel BDSM is all about the money. There are more findommes than money slaves - which is rather unique in the world of BDSM. Want more page views, add some kinky headlines to your otherwise respectable publication. It is the same thing with toys, often too expensive. 

Medical toys sold by BDSM webshops are marked up several times. Often it feels the vanilla world thinks: those kinksters are freaks, they'll pay anything.It hardly surprises me anymore but when I saw this item I was baffled:

In Praise Of Pro-Dommes

Just when you think all is lost and the Fourth Estate has finally surrendered there is a glimmer of hope. After teasing us with jokes about Cosmo's advice on toilet paper bondage, Femdom Resource discusses a short, sensible Cosmo article on BDSM.

Barbie Domme

End the war on women. Liberate men's sexuality

Note: This post started out as a comment and is best read after the article it discusses.

In a messy article - weirdo sex aka kink makes for good click bait the New Statesman editor must have thought - Margaret Arvid fails to convince that liberating male sexuality will advance feminism. Apart from the rambling logic and generalizations what I dislike most about the article is how the author fails to see privilege exists in many forms. One of them apparently being a women's privilege to define how men see the world.

A very Dutch punishment

We Dutch on average eat two kilo's of the stuff each year. The delicacy has its own dedicated blogs. Liquorice is a unique Dutch confectionery. A while ago a few of us were having some fun and came up with a fictional story how Dutch liquorice came about.

A certain Dutch domme, whose name shall not be mentioned was fed up with the superiority complex of several of her foreign slaves. Some made fun of her fellow countrymen for their limited command of the English language, which was not nearly as good as the arrogant Dutch presumed. Others made fun of a traditional Dutch dish called "stamppot".

Don't try this at home

Japanese Manga: Falling Prey to a Flower

In Japan, people of all ages read manga, the word itself simply means comics. The medium includes works in a broad range of genres: ranging from action-adventure to sexuality. Even though I grew up in the classic European comic book tradition - I love Asterix - manga is not my thing. The fact that the stories are in Japanese does not help either.

Kinky New Year's Resolutions 2015

Most people make New Year's resolutions. I did away with that a while ago. The time to act is always now. However I thought it would be fun to have some femdom and BDSM related New Year's resolutions.

Femdom Fitness: Sweaty N Slavery

Ever once in a while the phenomenon of dominas turning into fitness instructors makes the headlines. Whether they do it for fun, money or an alternative career, in most cases slaves are usually better of hiring a professional trainer.