The Beauty of Bondage: Giving Up Control

We all have our own definition of BDSM. Over the years I spent a lot of time surfing the internet - just like you - and I still don't understand why d/s, s&m and bondage are lumped together in a single term. The elements that make up the abbreviation BDSM often represent different and unrelated interests.

Personally I very much enjoy giving up control. Unfortunately that is not as easy for me as it is for some. My personality forces me to get involved with everything that is going on and join almost any discussion I run into. Combine those traits with a somewhat rebellious nature and an instinctive dislike of authority and when it comes to BDSM you have something most people consider the opposite of a winning combination. Let's hope my charm counterbalances that... Fingers crossed!

Coral's Medical Relief Fund

Known for her appearance in numerous Clubdom videos, former prodomme Coral Korrupt is currently battling stage 4 cancer and has set up a medical relief fund. Over the past five months she raised about a quarter of the 100.000 dollar she needs.

Click the image above to visit Coral's GoFundMe Page.

Being Dutch it is impossible to imagine how anyone has to start a fund raiser in order to pay for treatment when struck with cancer. A few days ago the song "As" came to mind (for different reasons). Mary J Blige sings:

"Did you know that true love asks for nothing
Her acceptance is the way we pay"

Apparently "true" submission does not work that way. How else is it possible there are not 1000 real slaves donating $100 each. Perhaps it is enough to have a change of hearts when the music stops playing.

A few more links: Coral Korrupt's Twitter, a tweet from Clubdom and Coral Korrupt on Youtube

American Dad Clip Promotes Femdom

In the old days the villains on TV used to smoke. That is not done anymore, so often villains are portrayed as kinky freaks. Commercials are in on it too, everybody has seen the vodka dominatrix add. So it came as some surprise when I found out American Dad sneakily promotes femdom. The weird thing is, it is more "realistic" than most I've seen TV. Just look at this short clip. Don't know what episode it is from. How about that?

Click image to play clip

Sub Rosa: What's Hidden Brings a Man to His Knees

“What’s in a name? That which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.”

Shakespeare was pretty brilliant. Even though he drew upon previous sources when he wrote Romeo & Juliet, the story still stands today. Unfortunately for the author, shortly after meeting Doctor Who, he passed away before he could write about the doctor’s extra-terrestrial origins in The Shakespeare Code.

On a good day you can pick almost any topic and write something about it that has to do with kink. Well, today is a very good day and today’s topic is roses, I like a challenge. That is right, that beautiful flower. Of course there is the book “Screw me the roses, send me the thorns”, but that would be too easy.

I'll choose love over lust. Always. No if's, no but's.

11 Movies to watch instead of 50 Shades

The Fifty Shades bashing continues with a list of movies I recommend over Fifty Shades. It is basically any movie as long as there is some link to femdom, strong female characters or fetish in it.

Selena and Trinity have more than one thing in common.
Neither made the Top 11

11 Conundrums that beg writing about

Most listicles (don't worry, the word is a millenial folly) limit themselves to a single digit, but the wasteland of my mind is so vast I have no problem coming up with 11 topics to write about. Feel free to borrow but please send me a link.

1. It is (more or less) generally accepted that the number of men seeking a dominant female partner is about 20 to 1. What if the number of subs outnumbered the available dommes by the same margin? Would they treat them differently? Promise them more suffering (or less), would phenomena like poly and findom be marginalized or would the whole concept of femdom become marginalized because out of character reality clashes with in-character desires

Two Broke Girls: Fifty Shades Can Land You In Jail

No, I still haven't read the book, or seen the movie (which one is better by the way?) but these gifs from 2 Broke Girls are just too funny to pass up on. And yes lock 'm all up. Who likes Fifty Shades anyway?

Kink, the last bastion to resist social stratification?

Remember the good old days when the attractive male doctor fell madly in love with his female nurse and after surmounting the necessary obstacles, she finally falls into his arms, after which they obviously married and lived happy ever after? Same thing happened to the elderly widower and his house keeper. Well dream on because increasingly that is the stuff of fairy tales.

The Sum of all Fears: Harm Me to Hurt You

The New York Times writes how computers now select targets and launch missiles without human intervention. That's pretty scary, right? How about a sadist who harms herself, to hurt the man she loves. She doesn't want to. My definition of hell.

Tears rolling down my eyes: "I need you." "I'm here." - "Come closer." "I can't." - "I'm sorry."

Me So Alpha

No matter how much fun your kink is, some things are just plain silly. It looks like the "deepest love is between sub and domme"-thing finally has subdued but a new flavour presents itself: the wannabe alpha's.

Yummy, those wannabe alpha's taste so good.

Sometimes More is More: The Emperor's New Clothes

Slaves are often naked for various reasons. For some it is a part of a ritual while others are ordered to be naked because it makes them feel humiliated. Sometimes it is just practical. Being whipped in your bespoke three-piece suit is a waste of money and the insulation makes it less effective.

Clothes say a great deal about who we are and are used to make snap judgements about people we’ve never met before. The way we dress can also enhance our attractiveness or reduce it. Apparently clothing makes our life so complicated that we need a wiki on how to sleep naked.

Personally I feel comfortable naked, both in and out of character, but recently I noticed something odd. Somehow I feel more naked, exposed is a better word, when I wear a t-shirt and nothing else, rather than being completely undressed. It strikes me as weird and I find it hard to explain.

Perhaps being partially dressed looks less natural than being naked or the missing underwear automatically highlights the part of your body that is normally the last bit to be uncovered.