one man's blog on femdom and bdsm. part of me. not all of me.
Friday, October 21, 2016
The Beast Yapoo II: Absolute Existence - Mistress Naomi Asano
Few mistresses will ever rise to the level of femdom royalty. No need to be famous. There is a simple reason for that. In the end it is all about the woman - not the domme. Only a few women – not dommes - have what it takes. I once met one of them. Don’t know if slaves are allowed to be happy. If not I’m the world’s biggest sinner. She left her mark on me, forever – on the inside that is. No-one will ever know – how poetic – just the two of us. Then again, it’s the inside that counts, don’t you agree?
Thursday, October 06, 2016
Clara Oswald - The Impossible Girl in Full Control
From the 2013 Doctor Who Episode "Bells of Saint John" |
As of 2017 Pearl Mackie will be Doctor Who’s new companion. The character she plays is funny and geeky and vulnerable. There’s a goofiness to her and a big heart. She gets things wrong, she has a temper. Apart from Theresa May becoming PM, no other appointment of a British woman this year has excited so much fuss.
Kink is about fun. Odd fun, incomprehensebable fun, but fun nonetheless. Some take their kink to serious and can't separate it from real life. You know the ones who keep nagging about "for us it is real"{ Now really? Come on!)
Saturday, August 13, 2016
One Woman Standing Up Against Injustice
The only danger Mrs. Ieisha Evans posses is the truth. Scary stuff and so on if you are a bad guy. |
OK, I made up that headline because it sounds right. A few weeks ago I wrote about how in the end nobody wins. My question is plain and simple. Why arrest a woman who poses no threat, whichever way you look at it. It ain't wrong, it's plain evil. Coming from a Caucasian male, that means things are bad, as is bad beyond repair. Let's hope I'm wrong.
I'm all-right. I'll always be. Caucasian male with a three piece suit to spare and so on. But what about the people I love? What if she were my daughter? Yes I'd be proud of her. I'd also be terribly scared. Not only because she has to live in a dishonest world where checks and balances are only for those who fit the profile. Find yourself outside of the mould and you are on your own. Grrr.
Tuesday, July 19, 2016
The Beast Yapoo I: Novel of Post-War Japan
Yoshimasa Murakami's illustrations for "Yapoo, Human Cattle." 2013 Exhibition at the Yayoi Museum, Japan. (Image: Japan Two) |
Unfortunately Japan is as much an island with its own splendid isolation as the British Isles are. Sources in English are hard to come by and the Japanese language remains a formidable obstacle. That makes information difficult to unlock. It's why this post relies heavily on a limited number of sources. Don't ask me how much progress I've made studying Japanese, because it's actually zero. Despite that I delved into the phenomenom that is Yapoo.
Saturday, July 09, 2016
Friday Night Fun – The Beginning
A guy's gotta do something to make his girl happy. |
When we met, we both understood she was more into kink than I was. That gap has always been difficult to bridge. Vanilla me and femdom I live in two very different worlds. We all have a limit as to how much pain we can take. Love stretches that limit somewhat, but when mistress loves you back, things get complicated.
Friday, July 08, 2016
In The End Nobody Wins
Life, Death & Racism in the USA
Not OK. Never. Ever. |
Just when you hope, things won’t get any worse, life proves you wrong. Like you, I watched the video made by Lavish Reynolds, whose unarmed boyfriend was shot four times by a police officer. Her fear, worry, sadness, but even more strength and composure, had a big impact on me.
"You shot four bullets into him, sir"
Sunday, July 03, 2016
The Farm Boy Who Got What He Wanted - and other stories
Today a selection of news clipping related to femdom. Have a laugh at the farmer slaves, shed a tear for the abused employee, get some non-sexual healing, but whatever you do, don't read the last article.
Guess this is what the hillbillies signed up for (in their dreams) (Image: Ama K from Latin Beauties in High Heels) |
Without a Whip
The first one is a story from 2013. A fake dominatrix lures slaves for farm
work. An Austrian woman placed an ad, looking for slaves to do hard labour, a
privilige the men had to pay for. Some fifteen responded and two or three took
her up on her offer. After working on the farm for a week, they realized they
were duped and filed a complained with the local prosecutors office. Guess
those men not too bright, they are into public humiliation as well.
Thursday, June 16, 2016
Nzinga Mbandi - 17th Century Angolan Warrior Queen Who Forced the Portuguese to Their Knees
One of many impressive people that history has ignored - but not Marquis de Sade - is Angolan queen Nzinga Mbandi: ruthless, cruel and with more than a hint of femdom.
Seventeenth century image of queen Nzinga Mbandi negotiating with the Portugese governor, sitting on a servant. |
There is a long list of women I want to write about. The bucket list includes several kick-ass women, such as female Japanese ninja Mochizuki Chiyome and Qiu Jin - "Woman Knight of Mirror Lake" a Chinese revolutionary during the last years of the Qing dynasty. Then there is the story of “Bandit Queen” Phoolan Devi, who became a modern day Indian Robin Hood.
They’ll have to wait a little longer. Today I read a story about Nzinga Mbandi, a 16th century Angolan warrior queen who held of the Portugese invaders for several decades. Nzinga Mbandi was not only a brilliant military strategist, but her life story has a strong femdom overtone. These are just some of the reasons I couldn’t resist letting her jump the queue.
Monday, June 13, 2016
Love is Insanely Superior
Serve With All Of Your Heart
So many ways when it comes to being mistress and slave. Only one when it is about love. |
A while ago I found this clipping about a woman who explains her deceased husband never bought her roses. He showed his love with a clean wind shield when it was snowing. She only later realized they were her roses.
I am a staunch believer in love over lust. There is one test nobody ever hopes to take. What if one day mistress falls ill? Perhaps she has some kind of brain seizure from which she miraculously recovers, being herself except for one tiny little thing: she lost all appetite for kink. Would you stay, or would you move on after enough time has passed? My guess: most people will move on in the end. By itself nothing wrong with that. As we live our lives, we change and grow as human beings. Only the truly blessed grow in the same direction.[I] But what if her love for you is unchanged - based on something much more profoundly than a mutual fix - and yours is not?
Sunday, June 12, 2016
Invasion of the Body Snatchers
Why Some Toys Are Better Than Others
Beautiful, isn't it? |
Part of why I’m interested in bondage is that it requires me to surrender unconditionally, deeply and completely – for real. Writing how I enjoy giving up control was perhaps a bit overzealous. Yet it is part of me, not that I always appreciate it. Bondage means accepting someone else is in charge. If you change your mind: too bad. Some crave giving up control. For me it is hard. Once the storm inside my mind slows down - mainly because I have to adjust to the new reality - I cave in. After that I find myself in a different place. Weird but somehow OK. Balanced but not necessarily pleasant, still it is somewhere I have to go every once in a while. Together when I’m lucky. The sensations range from zen-like calm like to complete sensory overload. Fun, happiness, peace of mind and acceptance are just four words that come to mind. Never all of them at the same time of course.
Friday, June 10, 2016
The 1913 Sex Slave in the Attic
Dolly Oesterreich at the time of her arrest (Source: Murderpedia) |
The story starts out simple enough, sexually unsatisfied wife takes lover, because the husband prefers the bottle. One day a young repairman comes knocking and instead of fixing her sowingmachine, Dolly and Sanhuber begin an affair that spans more than one decade. When the neighbours grow suspicious of the frequent visits of the repairguy - it is America 1913 - Dolly suggests her lover quits his job and moves into the attic.