Summer's End

Outdoor humiliation looking for shelter

Early October and summer left the building early this year. Missing for a month at least or so. Holland looks gray. Definitely no Indian summer, just plain old misery. Yes I know it's Locktober - the perfect opportunity to quit [1] - but I'm talking the weather here.

Late summer holiday and camping plans? Why not book a hotel instead? Hotels always makes me wonder. Why are there are so many copies of Real Housewives, Humanity [hopefully]'s Got Talent and so on but nobody every comes up with something akin to Hardcore Hotel Stories. I mean, the stuff that goes on there. And yes I'm also thinking lazy porn videos being shot for quick cash in random rooms. Actually, my second-favourite femdom video of all time was probably shot in a hotel room but I'll leave that for another time.

It's important to emphasize the freedom to fantasize. These are troubled times and people easily forget. Just don't tell anyone. Ever. Equally important is to never enforce kink on nonconsenting people. That's what makes these images so lovely. Feel free to dream about what could've happened. At the same time these are drawings, creating a clear divide between reality and fantasy. After all, in the Vanilla World most people would be shocked if they were confronted with a scene like this. Imagine your 18-year old daughter making some extra money during the holidays by cleaning hotel rooms. She'd be cool with it? Are you sure? Let's turn the tables. What if she walks in on a man who has tied up a woman in a hotel room like that?

Luckily this is a fantasy for folks like you and me. Literally harmless entertainment. And it is lovely drafted. Kudos to the artist for visualizing the harsh reality that is strange eyes looking [down] upon you. It's different for everyone but to me adding strangers to the mix is exceptionally cruel. It crushes you in so many ways. Without mistress I would probably not survive. Of course it's good to be a slave. Even better serving your Love and mistress. Suddenly a stranger walks in. You're instantaneously being reduced to what? Nothing? Zero?. It becomes a battle between shame and humiliation. That's harsh. An event like that deflates any remaining ego a slave might have. It makes you feel so small and lowly, the real you [me]. So, once again a lovely series of images. If you know the artist, please leave a comment.

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Face the Music

Ejae, Audrey Nuna, and Rei Ami - Golden

What would be a good name for a K-Pop girl band with a side hustle of keeping the world safe from monsters? KPop Demon Hunters is a bona fide megahit for Netflix. Intellectual property increasingly drives long-term value, ask any domme with a succesful C4S store, or Sony. However, rather than taking risks the Japanese company sold over the IP rights to Netflix. And now vanilla sadistic women all over the world use K-Pop demon hunters to punish their boyfriends for whatever they did wrong by watching the animated movie together. How many guys do you think will remember the name of the band? If you have to ask, its Huntrix.

jae, Audrey Nuna, and Rei Ami - Golden [click to listen]

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1317

"Putin praises Trump but warns that supplies of US long-range missile to Ukraine will badly hurt ties."

At least the bad guy remembers. Don't give up on Ukraine, please don't. Give 'm what they need to defend their freedom. It's years overdue. What would you want if the tables were turned? That's why. 

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Notes

[1] In Holland the month of October is also called Stoptober, AKA quitting nicotine.

[2] Get there's a lot of quitting going on in October. Erections [and more], smoking. Stop smoking is always a great idea. Erections and orgasms perhaps not so much. As usual, more on that later.

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Burning Man Festival F.O

High Stakes at the Lost & Found Department, Femdom Style

Beach to desert to beach to desert. Going back and forth can get quite complicated, just like a trip to the beach.

I hope you didn't forget to apply sun block to your special place mate.

I'm sorry, I meant a trip to the beach can get quite complicate if you're mistress and slave rather than clasic vanilla she and he. Appearances count. After all, we live in the golden age of social media. There's alwayws the risk of someone taking a picture of the two of you and posting it to Fetlife. You can thank Big Tech for that.

Now imagine a world where mistress and slave go to the beach and everybody thinks it's normal for a man to be a slave to the woman he loves. [Yes, hopefully she loves him back.] So many questions when I saw this image for the first time but mostly what happened. Questionmark.

Most people probably assume mistress forgot to lock her property in a chastity device and in order to protect him from harming himself while she had to step out for a moment, she made sure he was safe. I'm not so sure. My guess? This is the result of a lovers' tiff, him being a bit naughty, so she left him there to think about what he did wrong. Or perhaps she decided to trade him in for a better slave and left him on the beach to be collected by the femdom police and hopefully find a new, better domme for him. Who knows? Glad my summer didn't end like this.

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Private Holiday Tales from Holland

Less privacy in exchange for more safety. Or?

Leave me alone please dear cows.

Look at the image and try to guess why mistress suddenly pushes my head to the ground. Privacy you say, because mistress wants to make sure the horse on the left wouldn't see my face? But what about her right to privacy? Perhaps, or maybe she was trying to be funny while she said it. I don't know and it doesn't matter. Mistress is always right. She decides, I obey.

Then again if you live in Britain these days, privacy is harder than ever. They finally did it: age verification to protect the innocent. I recently ran into it on Twitter. At home in Holland! Media on certain profiles is no longer available because of age restrictions and the inability to correctly tell the jurisdiction I am in. Is there really nowhere to go for sun? Or privacy?

Rainy Femdom Holiday

Yes, it's August, technically summer to. Not that you can tell because of the rain. Now imagine you're camping in the Netherlands and getting bored. What do you do? Go for a walk like any normal mistress and slave would do of course. 

OK, this image is definitely fake. Despite that it hit a button, reminding me of the many rainy summers when I was in secondary school. No, not because I was on a leash, crawling naked through a puddle of mud (underage and so on, yes?) but because of the wet land and dark skies.

And yes, I would've been a deeply happy 16-year old to spend a holiday like that with my Girlfriend and mistress. Long before I was of legal age I knew where my interests lie. Not that it would make a difference in just how kinky I am, after all I was born this way. Also born in this wet country.

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Desert Holiday

"on a desert highway"

["cruel whip in my back"]

Last time I wrote how some guys have all the luck when it comes to holidays. Today not so much. The image tries to convince us the car broke down and he is to blame. Hence her whip. Whatever they are selling us, it's definitely not the benefits of femdom.

Don't know where the image is from, but it feels like an ad. And not a good one because whatever it is trying to sell you, you won't remember. We all know what men will remember most from this image. The car.

Kink on the Beach

Who said romance is dead?

August and summer is [or should be] in full swing here in the Northern hemisphere. In a tiny country called the Netherlands the situation is pretty awful. Instead of raining cats and dogs it's raining monkeys and donkeys. And yes that's made up but would you rather have me saying it's raining pijpestelen [rain like lead pipes]? Thought so.

Let's hope the weather clears up soon and we can head for the beach to have some fun. A while back this image caught my attention. Real, fake, AI? I don't know but it gives off a lovely, sincere vibe. It has a certain kind of intimacy, almost like they are in a special place of their own. Clearly some guys have all the luck when it comes to summer holidays.

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Push-Down on the Beach

A slave can dream

Suggestions for a sunny femdom holiday.

If I cannot spend my summer in madame Catarina's garden of Eden, I want to go to the beach. And look what I found. No clue what or why this is but it feels so natural. If only. For those of us into femdom, we know some options in live are just not available. Not sure what's going on here but it definitely feels like my kind of trip to the beach.

She looks pretty serious about holding him down. He? He is calm, almost detached, if it was me I would be jumping with joy. OK, that kinda misses the point but a little more appreciation might be in order. When her friend arrives, smiling, also with a couple of beers, she places her foot in his face. Just another day in paradise. Just remember folks, your definition of paradise may differ from mine. Who cares, this is such a lovely image. 

The image was originally a gif but that no longer works on Blogger so I broke it down. 

Next time mistress and I take a more romantic trip to the beach.

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Madame Catarina's Secret Garden of Eden

Summer. Finally.

Note: your definition of the Garden of Eden may differ from mine.

Madame Catarina and slave enjoying the lovely weather [image: dominamovies.com]

Ever wondered how the average kinkster spend her or his summer. I have a few ideas. Today's image is courtesy of long time German prodomme - and the ultimate Scary Spice - madame Catarina. And yes there is a definite Southern connection here. I wouldn't be surprised is she is of Latin or Italian descend. Anyway Miss Catarina has scared and fascinated me for many year, a beautiful, cruel woman who loves leather with many years under her whip. We all want to suffer for the privilige of being her slave, few can. Sadly, certainly not Dutch. Some slaves are born pain pigs, the rest of us is not so lucky. Still, dreaming of being her slave, inescapable of what's coming next - and we all know what that is- what slave in his right mind doesn't dream of that. Sadly, the world we live in doesn't turn dreams like that into reality. And for many reasons, but mostly a question of how much pain can you handle. Geography is nothing but the last hill that you have to take before femdom Valhalla welcomes you. That is, if you can stand the heat. Otherwise, run!

Even from a safe distance, it's impossible not to be impressed by the beauty of madame Catarina's powerful personality and her dominant and sadistic drive. Kind of like the personal gravity my life seems a quest for. One might wonder when does her personal gravity become so intense it will crush you beyond the point of return.

Whatever season we live in, sometimes it sucks to be a slave and look up in awe to Her. If only I were stronger. I'm definitely not the first man to have prayed for that.  But what a dream. Being madame Catarina's slave, tied up in her personal secret Garden of Eden for the rest of the summer. If only. 

More summer next time when we head to the beach for a work-out.

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Femdom Lessons from the 2025 Smurfs Movie

"In Chris Miller’s new film, a Smurf is told to ‘believe you were born great’."

But does this approach contradict what pre-internet femdom stood for?

Rule 34 states that if it exists there is porn of it. Of course there is. Better avert your eyes.

Believe it or not, there are many things we can learn from the Smurfiverse. First off, Smurfs are blue, humanoid cartoon characters. They live in Smurf village, which, according to ancient lore is located in a part of the world, called "Le Pays Maudit" (French for "the Cursed Land"). Believe me, there is not a single kinkster in the world that  hasn't wondered at least once why being happy seems so complicated compated to the Vanilla Way.

Initially all Smurfs were male. And yes their village felt like some kind of communist utopia, meaning everybody is equal, so why distinguish between sexes? Rather silly because once author Peyo introduced Smurfette, all eyes were on here. With the exception of Pappa Smurf, who wears a red cap, all Smurfs dress in white, including Smurfette.

According to a comment in The Guardian "one off Smurfette story was about Gargamel creating a fake female smurf in order to seduce the other smurfs and cause chaos. This plan initially fails because Gargamel made her a plain looking brunette, it's only after Papa Smurf uses his magic to give her long eyelashes and blonde hair that Gargamel's plan starts working. She leaves in the original story so that the other smurfs stop pining over her." Doesn't that sound a lot like "I'll serve my mistress for eternity and beyond on one condition. She has to look hot"? That's lust speaking, not true devotion. And yes when I speak of her personal gravity, hot, leather outfits are a plus but ultimately irrelevant.

Another comment in The Guardian writes: "I'm still waiting for numerous Smurfs to break their silence and reveal the inevitable tales of coercive control and financial mismanagement regarding their former shadowy pop svengali, Father Abraham..." Perhaps there are better ways to serve women and findom is not the way to go? Anyone recently wondered about "Bring back our children?" Don't worry, neither have I.

The great thing about the evil wizard Gargamel and his matching cat is the fact that they were up to no good, just what you want mistress to be. That's also where the comparison ends.

Lots more to discuss about Smurfs, like the fact that globally their name in most languages is derived from the Dutch word Smurf, rather than the original French Les Schtroumpfs, but people have complained my writing is to long and boring, so here's my final thought for the day. In femdom we often complain about the 20 to one slave to mistress ratio. Spare a moment for world those poor Smurfs live in. Both Vanilla and Dark Side, added up, their ratio is 100 to one. Smurftober is the new Locktober I guess.

Anyway, the new Smurf movie premiered on July 28 in the Belgian capital of  Brussels and, no doubt, soon will be in a theater near you. Go and watch at your own peril.

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Face the Music

Vader Abraham- Kleine café aan de haven

The obvious choice would be Vader Abraham's Smurfenlied. Let's not do that. In the 2025 Smurfs movie Rihanna lends her voice to Smurfette, so S&M? Nope. But in 1975 Vader Abraham recorded a Dutch evergreen, het kleine café aan de haven. Absolutely love it. More abour Rihanna later. Love her too.

Vader Abraham - Kleine café aan de haven [click to listen]

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1253

1253 Days and no end in sight, what is there left to say? Europe has failed Ukraine and because of that itself. It's never too late? let's hope so. Slava Ukraini! If words could bring victory, politicians suddenly would become relevant. Don't count on it.

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Her Sacred Smile

Trust Reciprocated

A smile, a blindfold and physical intimacy, all in one image, highlighting the beauty of femdom.

A long phone call with a friend made me both smile and a little sad. I smiled when I secretly realized we face similar, difficult choices when it comes to love and lust. She likes both men and women and I crave vanilla women and dominant ladies who are into femdom. Maybe you can have it all, maybe not. Then our conversation turns into something else. She is badly burned by her stalker ex. So bad in fact that when she first told me, I rushed over to change the locks. Which really wasn't necessary she said. About a month later it has given her at least some peace of mind. No more random exes suddenly turning up in your living room [1]. Our conversation slowly drifted towards relationships and trust. One thing is for sure, you definitely cannot trust someone who doesn't respond when you tell her you love her but don't feel safe with her. No idea how to respond if someone says that to me, but absolute silence screams one thing and one thing only. Run for the hills.

The first time she told me, she likes both men and women, she was kinda nervous. After all, you never know how people gonna react. Then again, what is there to say? Be happy, do what you want to do, fall in love and live the life that you want. Just be nice to others. And no I didn't tell her I like being tied up by strong, powerful, often sadistic women who get turned on by controlling and humiliating me. Very much not the right place but also where would I start? 

When do you know you can trust someone? How much time do you need to develop trust in a relationship? Are there telltale signs he or she is a bad apple? I cannot answer those questions, nobody can. Obvious red flags include your partner badmouthing you in front of others, lies in your face, isn't honest about money, makes you doubt yourself or hides behind lies. Nobody is perfect but if you love someone, you keep one eye out on her and one you. Even then, there are some you can never trust, especially if they are narcists, people whose entire life revolves around destroying their significant other. Some manage to break free after which a narcisist usually move on to a new victim. Together with 'feeders', men who love overweight women, the bigger the better. For that reason they try to manipulate their loved ones to gain weight [zero regards for her health]. [2] they are among the worst people you can encounter. And sadly, most of them are masters of disguise. I'll take an honest sadist over a narcisist any day of the week.

Does that mean you should never be with anyone? Of course not, that's no life for anyone, besides most people are kind, caring and decent people, just look out for the signs. If your lover doesn't seem to care about you, your health, happiness or safety, why? Don't ignore the signs. Each and every relationship is a leap of faith. The best you can hope for is that over time you've signalled again and again to come and talk to you when there is something. And yes, sometimes people fall in love with someone else. It happens, it's not only the magic of love but also the reality of life but for as long as you're in a relationship with someone else, for me, the most important thing is trust. You need to be able to trust them, but equally important make sure they can trust you. And yes, it's hard work. We all strive to impress our loved ones. And sometimes things go wrong, vanity, arrogance, shame, you name it. To be able to talk to her about the stupid thing you've done  [no matter what comes next], that's when you know you can trust her.

Of course my friend and I didn't discuss the peculiarities of trust when it comes to femdom but truly, deeply surrendering yourself to her - with no way out literally - also requires a lot of trust. Like always, when something is too good to be true, it probably is. Usually time is what is needed the most to build trust. And without realizing, at some point you do trust her. Completely, period. That's for the lucky ones and the fact that you trust your love and mistress is not the same as not being afraid, not trembling with fear when you hear her come into the room. But you trust her. And she trusts you. Because of that, whatever comes next is gonna be beautiful, even if it turns out to be one big, beautiful mess. But after seeing this image you will never doubt that even in femdom there is a blessed balance to strive for. But what an image!

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Guard Amarah: Pain Enthusiast

What more can a man ask for?

[Don't chicken out when the time comes to knock on the door of the Warsaw Prison perhaps?]

Guard Amarah at the Warsaw Prison [image: Twitter]

Summer and Dutch has no plans. Too busy. Not even planning on visiting lady Daria's enchanting Warsaw Prison. I wish I could. I try to forget about that wonderful [not so] little shop of horrors but it's hard. Especially when you run into one of the crew on Twitter, who confesses in her short bio how she is a pain enthusiast. [and this slave is not.] Guard Amarah broke me right there and then, literally the very  moment I read it. Direct, honest and no nonsense yet also utterly scary. 

Someone to watch over me? Guard Amarah perhaps? [image: Twitter]

Dutch is a lousy slave who doesn't handle pain very well but all that passion an spontaneity is hard to resist. Honestly for a long time after Warsaw Prison 2.0 opened, I felt it was no longer for me. There is something mesmerizing about lady Daria herself. I read a number of session reports by various slaves after they finished - or so I hope for them - their stay at the original Warsaw Prison. Even though I get why the name Warsaw Prison was choosen, from what I read it was lady Daria's prison, meaning you would get the same experience/treatment anywhere else, as long as lady Daria was lording over you as your guard and tormentor. In my mind lady Daria equalled Warsaw Prison. No longer - and yes she still is the driving force behind it all - but the succes of lady Daria's Warsaw Prison 2.0 allowed other dominant women who bring their very own, passionate spell to the game to step forward too. What more can a man ask for? Not chicken out at the latest moment when the day comes and I have to report to Warsaw Prison myself perhaps? 

Two happy people spending cruelty time together [image: Twitter]

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1237

Almost 3.5 years since Russia invaded Ukraine. And it doesn't look. We didn't act like we should and we don't now. Remember, it's never too late. But above all don't ignore. Tired of the news? Imagine how the people of Ukraine must feel by now. Slava Ukrajini!

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