Showing posts with label privacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label privacy. Show all posts

Monday, January 22, 2024

Outsourcing

Crazy Intimacy

Rooting for my baby

Dutch is a DIY kind of guy. Because of that most women think of me as 'interesting' or 'useful'. Not sure how much use I am if I were the slave in the image. Then again, I'm not big on outsourcing either. Luckily the slave is on the receiving end, so that's not his problem to deal with. He is in enough trouble as it is already.

Vanilla-wise erotic group activities are not my thing. Has nothing to do with being shy, it's just not for me. When it comes to femdom I feel the same, only things work slightly different once you cross over to the Dark Side. If you ignore the more fetish-oriented side of kink, femdom to me is still mostly about girl looks into a boy's eyes and he looks back into hers. [3] As they say, the rest is history. Also don't mistake my preference for just to two of us with some kind of fear. Au contraire, femdom is easier with strangers. There might be more pain and humiliation involved, but it means less. But if the woman you love is also your mistress, that is something else.

Now imagine she outsourced the hard work to another lady and got herself a frontrow seat to the show that's about to begin. Sooner or later you'll cross eyes. Your Love and mistress will be emotionally just as naked as you are. Now what?


Face the Music

Grover Washington Jr. - Just the two of us

 Given today's subtitle you might expect to hear Miley Cyrus, but no. Remember that smooth 1980 classic 'Just the Two of Us'? The 7'' sleeve says it's Grover Washington Jr, which is correct. But the song was written by Bill Withers and friends. Incidently it's also Bill Withers doing the background vocals. Dutch doesn't fall in love often but when I do, I go down the rabbit hole a lot longer than most. Once, as a student, my girlfriend an me were standing in line for a loaf of bread. Outrageous kissing in public is a no no but we did. It just happened. Some say love makes you do stupid things, I believe it actually makes you smarter. Kiss of a lifetime, about 90 percent of people envied us, while some 10 percent loudly objected. Because they were jealous. That's the kind of intimacy I'm talking about here. Just the two of us, even if there are other people in the room and Dutch is in a stockade and being kissed with a whip. An experience like that [kissing/whipping] is only for those who are truly blessed.

Grover Washington Jr. - Just the two of us [click to listen]

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The fate of Ukraine is 1:1 tied to the future of Europe. Despite that EU ministers choose to focus on the Middle East. A couple of days ago Nato's top brass warned people to get ready for anything. In Sweden the threat is even more imminent. Teenagers as young as 15 are taught how to handle a gun. Sweden will send troops to Latvia next year despite not yet being Nato member. Sweden knows it's priorities. Meanwhile the European Union is a mess as always.

Help thy neighbour. But when your house is on fire and his not yet, please prioritise. Still, the EU foreign affairs chief tells Ukrainians not to worry while ministers focus on the Middle East.


Notes

[1] According to experts 'Just the Two of Us' is single-handed responsible for the 1980's smooth jazz explosion. It's meant as a backhanded compliment. Stupid, whatever music brings you joy is great music. To each his own.

[2] No worries, more DIY porn to come this year. [Yummy] Hardcore if I may say so. 

[3] All very naive, I know. Then again, it is what it is. Besides, think about why you are reading this. Yes, we all are following our rainbow, wherever it may lead.


Thursday, March 30, 2023

Das Zuchthaus III: Prison Application Pending

Excuses, excuses, excuses. Or not?

Previously on Das Zuchthaus: Why is Dutch not in some long forgotten German prison, hauling screams of despair. Privacy perhaps? With das Zuchthaus' latest mailing also came an application form.

Das Zuchthaus in Germany for a special BDSM, femdom & prison play experience with mistress Frau Aufseherin and visitor lady Daria from the Warsaw Prison in neighbouring Poland.
Diabolical Dream Team: Frau Aufseherin with lady Daria imprisoning the prisoner.

One thing I've always admired pro-dommes for - apart from their hot outfits and infinite toy bags of course - is superior people skills. Think about it. Random stranger walks into your dungeon. A lifetime of dreams and desires all pent up, and he is pinning his hopes on you. What can go wrong. It's easy to bash them but make no mistake, successful pro-dommes pose excellent people skills, honed over many years, putting us all to shame.

Wednesday, February 22, 2023

Google & Me: La Fin d'Amour

"Is dit de laatste ronde?'

'Sans' prior warning Google forces readers of adult blogs to submit proof of age before granting access. Not because Google cares, it just wants to make more money.

Last Valentine's Eve - yes that's an actual phrase now that I've invented it - we discussed Squid Game -  femdom style. Big plans for the next Valentine despite being so busy I haven't lived dangerously at all this year so far.

Tuesday, March 29, 2022

Never Normal

Let's Be Careful Out There

Don't gamble away your once chance for happiness.

"Do you like oranges or are you just happy to see me?" Scene for The Sinner

Earlier this week I overheard some people talking.

"They thought he went missing but he was visiting his mistress. Now that he is retired, he does that every month as soon as he gets his pension. After a while he re-appears."

"You're kidding me, he used to be such a decent fellow, civil servant and so on, always the perfect gentleman."

"You know what, ever since he retired, he started wearing weird outfits, black latex and stuff. And you know what else?"

"Please stop, I really don't wanna hear it."

Sunday, October 11, 2020

'Smart' Male Chastity Device Can Be Controlled By Hackers, Users Warned

Lockdown those Loins forever.

Thought the Internet of Things was bad? The internet of chastity devices controlled exclusively by Bluetooth is worse. [1]

mistress woman looking disapproving of slave in chastity device
"Houston, have you seen my phone?"

Don't know how you like to start your Sunday morning, but I like to read the paper, serious news and so on. OK, I skip over the Corona segment, but technology is still my thing.

Imagine my surprise when I first discovered The Guardian considers remote controlled sex toys, high tech. It's not that only this week people for the first time suddenly found out sex toys can be hacked. Tell me again why it is so important to send customer feedback halfway around the world to the manufacturer when you use your vibrator that is connected to the internet? To receive a text message back, telling you that your next door neighbour has had more machine orgasms this week?

Thursday, July 23, 2020

Dutch Police Discovers Underworld Torture Chamber

the difference between reality and "for us this is real"

No limits? As in non-consensual non-consensual? Dentist chair meant for torturing fellow criminals discovered by police.

Criminals everywhere felt safe using Encrochat, a secure way to communicate without police interference. Got something to sell? Look for buyers on Encrochat. Desperately wanna kill someone? Encrochat! Feeling the heat from the girls and boys in blue, just press that panic button and all that naughty stuff is gone. Or at least it used to. As it turns out, the panic wipe button wasn't functioning properly for some time already. Police officers in various country were reading in real time what criminals were up to. Bye bye dreams of being safe and anonymous while doing bad things, really bad things.

Tuesday, April 14, 2020

Harry Is A Hero

Never mistake the slave for the man.

"Tossed aside because it would distract the press from writing about the bond prince Andrew and registered sex offender Jeffrey Epstein share?" See how easy it is?

Blogging about some guy that should have listened to his wife was only partly in jest. All women want their husbands to be tall, successful and wealthy, so both spouses share the blame for their fiasco. When it matters, try harder and never quit.

Forever out of luck can mean many things. What if you are born in a golden cage yet nobody cares? All eyes on big bro, dude will one day ascend to grannie's throne. If dad were a commoner, he'd be retired long ago. Not if daddy is named Prince Charles and first in line. After which comes his first-born, whose single purpose in life is to entertain the masses that look up to twue royalty. Said person’s uncle excluded obviously.

Tuesday, January 28, 2020

Dutch Dominatrix Jailed for Extortion

No limits? Splendid idea.

Definitely not the money shot to extort someone. Men wanna be him, women wanna be her. At least in my dreams. (Image crazy.gimp.blogspot)

"He was such a nice guy, then we got married." Before you start laughing at what comes next, remember it can happen to anyone. You read about it in the news once or twice a year.

Last year a woman was convicted of extortion. If her slave didn't pay up she would publish his nude pictures online. Her defense? "All part of the game." One or two years before a woman and her boyfriend were arrested while driving to the home of her unwilling paypig, sledgehammer in the trunk. Her threats to expose him didn't work, so she announced her boyfriend would break his legs if he didn't pay up.

Saturday, May 11, 2019

Juicy Kink - As in Creative

In 2016, The New York Times wrote a beautiful profile about Mollena Williams-Haas and Friedrich Haas, a kinky couple open about their preferences.

Unknowingly the main image is non-conventional, at least according to the BDSM police.
(image: The New York Times)

All kinky, part of the time - and nobody will ever find out. Wouldn't it be great to live my life, kinky and all, out in the open? Bad idea for most of us. Too many lives have been destroyed once the "respectable ones" found out so I keep my mouth shut.

Left-leaning and liberal, or perhaps circulation numbers, is the reason the New York Times features stories at regular intervals about BDSM. One of my all-time favourites is the article about a female submissive and her male dom falling in love. And no, it's not because I'm a sucker for love. 

Monday, December 17, 2018

Woman Offered as Sex Slave on Kinky Website - Without Her Consent

japanese dominatrix clad in leather, mistress, sex slave, femdom, bdsm, kink
"Hello, we come all the way from Japan.
Is this the address for the [volunteer] male sex slave?" You wish! (credits: unknown)

Apart from Fetlife there are some local kink websites. Two of them over here in Holland are Kinkytijd.nl and Chattijd.nl. In all fairness, I never heard of them.

In 2013 a woman discovered that somebody created a profile of her, including name address, age and occupation on the website Kinkytijd (kinky time). The profile also included a picture of her. She had no clue who was responsible and emailed the website, requesting that her profile was removed. She also asked for the IP address of the person who created the fake profile. Kinkytijd removed her profile, but refused to hand over the IP address. The couple hired a lawyer to no effect. Meanwhile another profile was created and random strangers kept on showing up at her door.

The victim contacted Peter R. de Vries, a well-known Dutch crime reporter, who finally discovered the identity of her stalker. It turned out to be her brother-in-law who claimed he was hearing voices in his head. He couldn't explained what drove him to do this.

What struck me most is that it took almost five years for this nightmare to end. It also must have been an absolute horror for the woman to have random strangers show up at her door, looking for a sex slave. Perhaps not exactly 'random' strangers, everyone in their right mind knows that nobody publishes their home address on dating websites, kinky or otherwise. People have moved for less.

Thursday, December 13, 2018

Fetlife is Dead

And so are you, if you give them your phone number.

mistress with black frock, holding a cane in the stables.
Regrets come in all shapes and sizes. This might not be one of them. What a domme!

Never cared much for Fetlife. Last login was when Mr. Obama was President of the United States. I exactly have one connection, some lonely [dominant] lady who bombards random strangers with friend requests. Don't know why. It also makes her feed terribly uninteresting. "Lady Bomber is now friends with someone."As a smart slave myself , I saw that one coming.

Wednesday, December 12, 2018

"I also love the disdain her adult daughter shows me."

Consent is boring, especially if you're horny. Really? Grown-up stuff is for grown-ups. By design. Some people believe they are free to choose.

"So Gross" To each his own (Image Credits: Unknown)

Life's all about memories. And lunch. And sushi in Holland. Personally I prefer a burger, extra cheese please. One particular devastating Sunday lunch, I remember how slaveboy, a dad himself, got over-excited and started dreaming out loud about mistress teaming up with her daughter as soon as the little girl was of age. Him being the happy recipient of their future inter-generational double dominance of course.

In her most predictable moment ever - I have great taste, or, more likely, I'm the luckiest fellow on earth - Mom casually remarked how her daughter makes her own choices. It's not what she said, it's how she said it. Like asking for a napkin. Phenomenal and beyond.

Wednesday, September 12, 2018

Too Much Information

There is limited acceptance at best of people who enjoy BDSM and that will probably never change. All the more reason to be vigilant about your privacy, especially if you write a high profile book.

slave, bondage, femdom, gimp, bondage bag
Chilling after a long day at the office, just don't tell anyone.


There is a new book out on Donald Trump. Yes, another one. Surprisingly it got less attention than other recent Trump bashings. In "Everything Trump Touches Dies" former GOP strategist Rick Wilson shares his unfiltered opinion about the people that work for the 45th President of the United States thinly disguised as an analysis of everything that's wrong.

Don't worry, this blog is not about politics, it's about kink. Reading the book I found myself wondering just how much information we divulge by accident.

"It must be the broad masochistic streak among lobbyists that keeps legions of dominatrices in business in Washington, DC." [p. 38]

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

Sex, Facebook and the Inevitable Extinction of Humanity

If you can't fix it, legislate it!

In Britain a new law that makes age verification mandatory before you can watch porn online, has been delayed. What people really should be talking about is the law itself. It's dangerous.

Don't know who this lady is, but I'm happy she caught my attention. This anonymous image also symbolizes the many unknown talking heads in Parliament. The difference is, with her, I want to know who she is and learn a bit more about her. When it comes to them I ask myself: who do you think you are? What do you think you are doing?

More rules can solve any problem (theoretically) and keep politicians at work (for sure) because their legislation introduces many more additional issues than it can ever hope to solve. But that is not their problem, is it? "Just doing the job you elected me to do Ma'am/Sir."

Oh chill, the United Kingdom will lead the way once again. Their laws against extreme porn have been working their magic for several years now. The time has come for the next step. Unfortunately there are some delays regarding the introduction of mandatory age checks for men - sorry, everyone - visiting pornographic websites. But don't worry, the government knows what's best for you. Some things never change. Trust your overlords.

Thursday, March 08, 2018

Free to Live the Life You Want

Privacy, freedom to choose and femdom

Unlike queen Patricia of the Other World Kingdom, not all women are allowed to enjoy the femdom life from the shadows.

mistress baton, pink catsuit, twitter, miffy
Not the pink catsuit that caught my eye but Nijntje [Miffy]. (Image mistress Baton)

In retrospect what impressed me most, is how queen Patricia, ruler of that femdom fairy tale, called the Other World Kingdom [OWK], understood privacy 2.0, before anyone else. Twenty years ago the OWK, just like the internet, was in its infancy. Much of the OWK's initial success was due to being an early adaptor of the online world.

To this day, you are haunted by the many, many images of dommes being showcased at the OWK, mostly on a pattern of ageless, rotating recycling. The one person that [doesn't] stand out is queen Patricia, probably because even then she understood, unlike most of us, the upcoming assault on our privacy, the connected world would turn out to be.

Sunday, August 23, 2015

Enemy of the State: Who Reads My Blog?

A few days ago my blog received an unusually large number of hits from Poland, 400 in one day. It got me curious and for the first time I delved into the numbers. Still don't know why there was such a large influx from Poland but last week's provider list carried a few surprises.

spy hacking tor browser

Dutch is at last moving up in the world. After many thwarted attempts to gain recognition the DOD finally began scrutinizing my blog, eight visits within the space of a few days. In al fairness the United States Department of Defence probably sent bots, total time for each visit is zero seconds.

Saturday, August 01, 2015

Bizarre Britain (not a good thing)

What's wrong with Britain these days? London is becoming a ghost town - a mausoleum for wealthy ghosts that is - and will soon declare independence as the city state of Richistan. One columnist even expresses amazement that Hoxton is hot. Perhaps I should explain. In other parts of the city buildings attack people like they want to ban humans from the capital altogether and to top it all of you have David Cameron in 10 Downing Street. He came close to gambling away Scotland and the even the European Union got involved, blackmailing the Scots with visions of a bleak future.

Fox news blurrs breast of Picasso painting sold for $179 million dollar
Blurred Lines, approved by ISIS (I assume)

Wednesday, April 22, 2015

11 Conundrums that beg writing about

Most listicles (don't worry, the word is a millenial folly) limit themselves to a single digit, but the wasteland of my mind is so vast I have no problem coming up with 11 topics to write about. Feel free to borrow but please send me a link.

  1. It is (more or less) generally accepted that the number of men seeking a dominant female partner is about 20 to 1. What if the number of subs outnumbered the available dommes by the same margin? Would they treat them differently? Promise them more suffering (or less), would phenomena like poly and findom be marginalized or would the whole concept of femdom become marginalized because out of character reality clashes with in-character desires

Friday, March 06, 2015

The Perils Of Online Porn: Better Call Saul

Business models in love and lust are among the most interesting ones around, but when an adult producer breaks the law to cash in on illegal downloading, nobody cares.


Friday, October 24, 2014

Privacy is "Elementary"

TV shows continue to present kink lovers as freaks. TV show elementary nicely sums up everything that is wrong with modern day morals. Or the immorality of a moral clause in a CEO's contract. Never normal once again.

"Sometimes I discuss ancient torture techniques with Sherlock."

Elementary is an American television show loosely based on the character of Sherlock Holmes. In the episode Poison Pen a dominatrix finds her client dead in his house. The victim is the CEO of a large company who is about to retire. His contract has a “morality clause”. As it turns out his successor staged the whole scene when he found out his boss was dead so the company does not have to pay a 125 million dollar bonus upon retirement.

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