Femdom Lessons from the 2025 Smurfs Movie

"In Chris Miller’s new film, a Smurf is told to ‘believe you were born great’."

But does this approach contradict what pre-internet femdom stood for?

Rule 34 states that if it exists there is porn of it. Of course there is. Better avert your eyes.

Believe it or not, there are many things we can learn from the Smurfiverse. First off, Smurfs are blue, humanoid cartoon characters. They live in Smurf village, which, according to ancient lore is located in a part of the world, called "Le Pays Maudit" (French for "the Cursed Land"). Believe me, there is not a single kinkster in the world that  hasn't wondered at least once why being happy seems so complicated compated to the Vanilla Way.

Initially all Smurfs were male. And yes their village felt like some kind of communist utopia, meaning everybody is equal, so why distinguish between sexes? Rather silly because once author Peyo introduced Smurfette, all eyes were on here. With the exception of Pappa Smurf, who wears a red cap, all Smurfs dress in white, including Smurfette.

According to a comment in The Guardian "one off Smurfette story was about Gargamel creating a fake female smurf in order to seduce the other smurfs and cause chaos. This plan initially fails because Gargamel made her a plain looking brunette, it's only after Papa Smurf uses his magic to give her long eyelashes and blonde hair that Gargamel's plan starts working. She leaves in the original story so that the other smurfs stop pining over her." Doesn't that sound a lot like "I'll serve my mistress for eternity and beyond on one condition. She has to look hot"? That's lust speaking, not true devotion. And yes when I speak of her personal gravity, hot, leather outfits are a plus but ultimately irrelevant.

Another comment in The Guardian writes: "I'm still waiting for numerous Smurfs to break their silence and reveal the inevitable tales of coercive control and financial mismanagement regarding their former shadowy pop svengali, Father Abraham..." Perhaps there are better ways to serve women and findom is not the way to go? Anyone recently wondered about "Bring back our children?" Don't worry, neither have I.

The great thing about the evil wizard Gargamel and his matching cat is the fact that they were up to no good, just what you want mistress to be. That's also where the comparison ends.

Lots more to discuss about Smurfs, like the fact that globally their name in most languages is derived from the Dutch word Smurf, rather than the original French Les Schtroumpfs, but people have complained my writing is to long and boring, so here's my final thought for the day. In femdom we often complain about the 20 to one slave to mistress ratio. Spare a moment for world those poor Smurfs live in. Both Vanilla and Dark Side, added up, their ratio is 100 to one. Smurftober is the new Locktober I guess.

Anyway, the new Smurf movie premiered on July 28 in the Belgian capital of  Brussels and, no doubt, soon will be in a theater near you. Go and watch at your own peril.

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Face the Music

Vader Abraham- Kleine café aan de haven

The obvious choice would be Vader Abraham's Smurfenlied. Let's not do that. In the 2025 Smurfs movie Rihanna lends her voice to Smurfette, so S&M? Nope. But in 1975 Vader Abraham recorded a Dutch evergreen, het kleine café aan de haven. Absolutely love it. More abour Rihanna later. Love her too.

Vader Abraham - Kleine café aan de haven [click to listen]

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1253

1253 Days and no end in sight, what is there left to say? Europe has failed Ukraine and because of that itself. It's never too late? let's hope so. Slava Ukraini! If words could bring victory, politicians suddenly would become relevant. Don't count on it.

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Her Sacred Smile

Trust Reciprocated

A smile, a blindfold and physical intimacy, all in one image, highlighting the beauty of femdom.

A long phone call with a friend made me both smile and a little sad. I smiled when I secretly realized we face similar, difficult choices when it comes to love and lust. She likes both men and women and I crave vanilla women and dominant ladies who are into femdom. Maybe you can have it all, maybe not. Then our conversation turns into something else. She is badly burned by her stalker ex. So bad in fact that when she first told me, I rushed over to change the locks. Which really wasn't necessary she said. About a month later it has given her at least some peace of mind. No more random exes suddenly turning up in your living room [1]. Our conversation slowly drifted towards relationships and trust. One thing is for sure, you definitely cannot trust someone who doesn't respond when you tell her you love her but don't feel safe with her. No idea how to respond if someone says that to me, but absolute silence screams one thing and one thing only. Run for the hills.

The first time she told me, she likes both men and women, she was kinda nervous. After all, you never know how people gonna react. Then again, what is there to say? Be happy, do what you want to do, fall in love and live the life that you want. Just be nice to others. And no I didn't tell her I like being tied up by strong, powerful, often sadistic women who get turned on by controlling and humiliating me. Very much not the right place but also where would I start? 

When do you know you can trust someone? How much time do you need to develop trust in a relationship? Are there telltale signs he or she is a bad apple? I cannot answer those questions, nobody can. Obvious red flags include your partner badmouthing you in front of others, lies in your face, isn't honest about money, makes you doubt yourself or hides behind lies. Nobody is perfect but if you love someone, you keep one eye out on her and one you. Even then, there are some you can never trust, especially if they are narcists, people whose entire life revolves around destroying their significant other. Some manage to break free after which a narcisist usually move on to a new victim. Together with 'feeders', men who love overweight women, the bigger the better. For that reason they try to manipulate their loved ones to gain weight [zero regards for her health]. [2] they are among the worst people you can encounter. And sadly, most of them are masters of disguise. I'll take an honest sadist over a narcisist any day of the week.

Does that mean you should never be with anyone? Of course not, that's no life for anyone, besides most people are kind, caring and decent people, just look out for the signs. If your lover doesn't seem to care about you, your health, happiness or safety, why? Don't ignore the signs. Each and every relationship is a leap of faith. The best you can hope for is that over time you've signalled again and again to come and talk to you when there is something. And yes, sometimes people fall in love with someone else. It happens, it's not only the magic of love but also the reality of life but for as long as you're in a relationship with someone else, for me, the most important thing is trust. You need to be able to trust them, but equally important make sure they can trust you. And yes, it's hard work. We all strive to impress our loved ones. And sometimes things go wrong, vanity, arrogance, shame, you name it. To be able to talk to her about the stupid thing you've done  [no matter what comes next], that's when you know you can trust her.

Of course my friend and I didn't discuss the peculiarities of trust when it comes to femdom but truly, deeply surrendering yourself to her - with no way out literally - also requires a lot of trust. Like always, when something is too good to be true, it probably is. Usually time is what is needed the most to build trust. And without realizing, at some point you do trust her. Completely, period. That's for the lucky ones and the fact that you trust your love and mistress is not the same as not being afraid, not trembling with fear when you hear her come into the room. But you trust her. And she trusts you. Because of that, whatever comes next is gonna be beautiful, even if it turns out to be one big, beautiful mess. But after seeing this image you will never doubt that even in femdom there is a blessed balance to strive for. But what an image!

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Guard Amarah: Pain Enthusiast

What more can a man ask for?

[Don't chicken out when the time comes to knock on the door of the Warsaw Prison perhaps?]

Guard Amarah at the Warsaw Prison [image: Twitter]

Summer and Dutch has no plans. Too busy. Not even planning on visiting lady Daria's enchanting Warsaw Prison. I wish I could. I try to forget about that wonderful [not so] little shop of horrors but it's hard. Especially when you run into one of the crew on Twitter, who confesses in her short bio how she is a pain enthusiast. [and this slave is not.] Guard Amarah broke me right there and then, literally the very  moment I read it. Direct, honest and no nonsense yet also utterly scary. 

Someone to watch over me? Guard Amarah perhaps? [image: Twitter]

Dutch is a lousy slave who doesn't handle pain very well but all that passion an spontaneity is hard to resist. Honestly for a long time after Warsaw Prison 2.0 opened, I felt it was no longer for me. There is something mesmerizing about lady Daria herself. I read a number of session reports by various slaves after they finished - or so I hope for them - their stay at the original Warsaw Prison. Even though I get why the name Warsaw Prison was choosen, from what I read it was lady Daria's prison, meaning you would get the same experience/treatment anywhere else, as long as lady Daria was lording over you as your guard and tormentor. In my mind lady Daria equalled Warsaw Prison. No longer - and yes she still is the driving force behind it all - but the succes of lady Daria's Warsaw Prison 2.0 allowed other dominant women who bring their very own, passionate spell to the game to step forward too. What more can a man ask for? Not chicken out at the latest moment when the day comes and I have to report to Warsaw Prison myself perhaps? 

Two happy people spending cruelty time together [image: Twitter]

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Almost 3.5 years since Russia invaded Ukraine. And it doesn't look. We didn't act like we should and we don't now. Remember, it's never too late. But above all don't ignore. Tired of the news? Imagine how the people of Ukraine must feel by now. Slava Ukrajini!

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