Gratitude

On Reddit somebody asked what do you like best about BDSM. Cool question if you ignore the fact that femdom is part of me, so let's park the answer for some other time. Despite the fact that I was born this way - and knew from an early age I was - Dutch didn't grow up to be the ultimate slave. Rather the opposite, the qualities that make me fun to be with in vanilla life, such as being a little rebellious and an assertive personality, are not things you brag about once you cross over to the Dark Side. Being impatient isn't the best quality a slave can have either.

Lucky for me then all those bad slave habits work very well for me during day time. Make no mistake, I love my kink, I need it. But sometimes it's hard. Kink works best when you play with someone compatible. For me that usually means a woman who approaches my inner rebel with the light touch. And yes the light touch only relates to my inner rebel.

Not being deeply submissive by nature can make it an overwhelming experience when it does happen. Imagine yourself sitting at your mistress feet experiencing a sudden rush of joy when you realise where you are: looking up to her, grateful to be loved by her and to be her slave. It doesn't happen often - or at least not nearly often enough - but when it does, it's beautiful. Gratitude is the most glorious gift your Love and mistress can give you.

There are other images to illustrate how I feel, but none more so than this. Femdom can be a thing of beauty.

'Not Dressing Men'

Of course not. Why would you?

Objectify us instead! And if we ask nicely? Please, please?

Gorgeous woman, lucky object.

Suitsupply is a mid-end men's tailoring brand. They sell a lot of suits to students and young men entering the work force. Their success is based on a single strategy: objectification of women. Happens all the time, it's just that Suitsupply is doing it rather successfully. Four years ago the company decides to branch out into business suits for women. Blogger Ciara Hall has a very good explanation of how the average fashion campaign works.

Things Femdom Doesn't Teach You About Doctors

A real world tale about your favourite handyman-slave.

'Doctor, you have a dangerous smile I find hard to resist. But why that big needle?'

Everybody knows Dutch is the best handyman there is. Mostly when no-one else is around. Nobody was. The bloody trail from the guest room to the kitchen sink is living proof. Don't worry, I didn't die. Instead I called an old friend, who is a doctor and lives five, six, seven time zone's ahead of me. After waking her up, she says: "go see your GP and let me go back to sleep."

Theresa Berkley Had A Horse

And a whip, but no actual horses were hurt yielding it [rather ferociously].

Flagellation. An 18th Century engraving presented to the Royal Society in hopes they could explain the appeal. (image: Dirty Sexy History)

Writing about Downsizing the Femdom Show turns out to be my entrance to Alice in Wonderland. 'How about guests appreciating your bold choice of having two, not just one, Berkley horses in your dining room?' And down the rabbit hole we go.

It happened long before the arrival of mobile phones and the internet. Don't remember which book it was, but in one of them the wife finds her business card in his wallet. His narrow escape? It says she breeds horses. Perhaps it was the Happy Hooker, a well-know New York madam in the 1960's and 1970's who went on Dutch television some years ago accompanied by her slave girl of whom the interviewer - rather surprisingly - accepted that 'she' didn't speak. Horses, Berkley Horse, tongue in cheek? To me that sounds just like her.

Femdom Fashion Crime - Ultimate Edition

Absolutely disgusting 

This image is so offensive I had to pixilate parts of it.

No animals were hurt conducting this crime, nor does it include leather. Doesn't mean it's not bad. On top of that, there is something else that worries me. Whose fault is it? Is it mistress', being the arbiter of all things or slaveboy for bringing shame on his mistress.

From one slave to another, the correct order to undress yourself in front of mistress is shoes, socks, upper body, lower body. [1] [2] Below a map of the do's and don'ts. It's that easy.

Smile? Check? Lifting him higher? Check. Quel horror below the waist. Never.

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[1] Chastity devices not included, wherever applicable.

[2] No OWK, wrong again. Put a sock in it. To worship women means all women.

[3] Please forgive me for not spending more time to find a better [more horrible] illustration today. 

Downsizing The Femdom Show

Forever forced to skinny-dip, denied the jump in the pool.

Lady Britt in full swing, her lovely hands guiding the lucky slave towards him claiming the inevitable spoils of his 'reward'. After his first reward that is.

Everybody remembers the summer of 2020. Me, because of what I didn't write about The Truman Show, a 1998 movie about a man whose life is secretly tracked on camera. Truman lives in a bubble but manages to escape in the end. But what if his character is both submissive and lives in a reality occupied by dominant women, one which he doesn't want to leave?

Last year Femdom Resource wrote a series on public play. Paltego concludes with some remarks about consent. It's good to read the comments to his various posts.

So what didn't I write? It's about my longing to submerge in a world where femdom is the natural order of things, rather than dipping one toe in the swimming pool, holding your breath.

Wouldn't it be nice for visitors to admire the collection of canes hanging from the living room wall? How about guests appreciating your bold choice of having two, not just one, Berkley horses in your dining room?

In my dreams I always buy two adjacent houses, connected by an underground tunnel. Both are decorated the same, except for one thing. Yes, the Dark Side's cupboard has only half the number of dinner plates. Luckily that's being offset by an equal number of dog bowls. And that's just the beginning

Consent Is Never Annoying

Consent is a moment in time, one that is fleeting at best. Saying no is forever. [3] 

Consensual non-consensual is real because we choose so. Non-consensual never is. Nor is it a choice.

Powerful image from the Burning Man festival: two grown-ups with their backs to each other, while their inner child connect. Sadly, today is about the opposite.

Welcome to Dutch' average Saturday morning, reading the papers. War to the left. Election fraud to the right. Stuff happening in Timbuktu staring right back at you. When is it not? Something going on at the Hogwarts School of Magic. Different realm. Next up a story about our kids doomed before they reach the age of 11. Finally there's the latest invention to save mankind. Why would we? Don't ask. And yes, it's going to be expensive, courtesy of grateful tax-payers. And no that's not the sort of non-consensual consensual I'm writing about. Whatever the news, I no longer care.

The Price You Pay For Femdom

They're saving up for their very own Berkely horse [read on] Meanwhile this is just as effective.

In the end, slaves are no different from vanilla guys. We all love women. All women. All the time. It's just the details that vary. The other day I spoke to my 80+ neighbour. Dad always pushed her and her little sis, two years her junior, to explore the world. I strongly believe it's something all dads should do. Back than it was pretty special.

Dutch is an average guy. Apart from monster trucks and fire engines there's not much to talk about with other men. Except for football [soccer] of course. But that's basically it. Somehow my conversations with women hardly ever include car mechanics or foul play.

There was this one time I met a lovely women who was an engineer. Together we discussed the science of skyscrapers. Almost that is. She explained a couple of supercool things about their design challenges, the ones they never talk about on Discovery Channel. Like the fact that very tall buildings have several empty floors to counterbalance forceful winds. After which we moved the discussion to the bedroom. Let's be honest, not everything in life is about femdom or skyscrapers. [1]

I kind of miss her. Not because she's the ideal women to design the perfect dungeon but because she is a lot of fun, smart and curious about a lot of things. And yes, happy memories. It's the price one pays for kink. You can ring up an old girlfriend to ask her for advice on refitting your roof with solar panels. Asking her to calculate the approximate pressure under which a Berkley horse breaks under the combined pressure of whips and screams of a bound and gagged slave? Not exactly. Guess we didn't get to know each other that well.

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[1] If femdom is a derivate of love and lust, what do sky scrapers stand for. Definitely not women against chastity, although my engineering friend would certainly oppose it. 'What a waste of good, clean fun for two' I can almost hear her say. You can trust her, she's not only an engineer but also a lot of fun. [2]

[2] As I'm writing this, I think of her and smile.

[3] The only mistress that I know of who is also an engineer is Ella Kross, And no, we've never met.

Only Fans: Are 'Our' Banks the New Taliban?

Religious-financial complex strikes again

Platform to ban porn under pressure from payment processors.

Theocracy is the best? You could've fooled me.

So the Taliban are horrible monsters? Yes. Let's assume for a moment they're deeply religious instead of deeply flawed. Would that change the outcome of how women are being treated in Afghanistan? No. Born and raised in the Christian tradition, Dutch has seen the many ways the Bible has been 'interpreted' to suit the needs of those who interpret the holy book. Why would it be any different for the Qu'ran? Even if the Taliban were as pious as they pretend to be, women would still be banned from Afghan society.

Modern Day Slavery Makes a Comeback In Afghanistan

Horriffic but no surprises 

Apparently bombing your enemy back to the Stone Age does exactly that. Mission accomplished. Who would've guessed?

"It was one of those great moments in history that never actually happened: According to one legend, Enrico Caruso was in San Francisco during the earthquake of 1906, staying at the Palace Hotel. As people panicked and chaos ensued in the aftermath, the great tenor appeared — some said on the balcony of his hotel room, which didn’t exist — and sang an aria to calm the masses." 

“ When people show you who they are, believe them the first time”
- Maya Angelou

Never believe the hype. 115 Years later, other side of the globe. No singer, song or whatever that can calm the women of Afghanistan who are about to face the horrors of tomorrow. Make no mistake, the Taliban does not believe in God. Anyone who has ever joined them for that purpose, long left. They're pure evil.

Femdom Is Dangerous

Bliss instead, anyone?

'She smiled and I knew I was in trouble'

Nothing crueler than a slave being denied her happiness.

It's a crazy world, isn't it? Hard to believe but there are women who think the average male prefers sex above talking about 'the relationship', which is true for me. Don't laugh guys, most of us believe, the only thing a woman needs in this world is a high resolution image of your private parts. Sorry, reading that insane post on No Fap (try chastity!) about evil femdommes that only care about men's penises - the more the better? - left me reeling.

It's hard to explain the attraction of boobies [2] (even more that of women [1] in general). What I usually say is this: 'there's this awesome shoe store to the left and an ugly baby to the right, where do you go? The answer of course is Mr. Six Pack. He comes out of nowhere, takes the baby into his arms, makes some soothing sounds and 'it' [f/m] stops crying.

If you really believe 'femdommes' are driven solely by the conquest of male penises, you're insane. And no, you're not making a point by pointing out that those male device are not very useful when it comes to making babies. Grow up! Not everything in life is about babies.

On the other hand, I get the attraction but like they say, if you want to walk on the wild side, try falling in love. If you've never been there, it's best described as can't live without the whole package. I'm wasting time here. Today's theme is evil femdommes hunting for your [big, big] carrot and how to cure you from happiness and who you are. I always thought an image is 1100 words, but it's not. They only substitute a measly 1.000. It makes my job of explaining why femdom is so dangerous that you best stay far away from it, even harder. How 'bout 11 images to show you the true horrors of femdom instead? Femdom is a bloodsport, it hurts like hell and next time it'll be worse. You probably know that already, so I'll let you in on a little secret. The worst part about femdom are the women. Not because they are women, never, of course not, they are what makes suffering worthwhile. It's because they're happy when you scream. Nothing is more dangerous than a dominant woman smiling,

In order to help those who are struggling with their femdom addiction, below are 11 horrible images of happy women, smiling as their canes, paddles rain down and other goodies make men miserable. Who would've thought, femdom porn to cure femdom addiction? It really is a crazy world, isn't it? Better fasten your seatbelts, here we go. Let's find a cure.

'Before we begin...'

Double trouble - and it's worth it.

Some guys have all the luck.

Lin Lee in action.

A very happy Hunteress. Why not?

Not her first rodeo.

Miss Suzanna Maxwell showing of.

Home-schooled

German sadist Sara - die Sadistin - Stahl is loving it.

A casual affair

Go girl! [His fault for wearing yellow without asking.]

And? Did it work?

Seriously, if you struggle with your feelings about femdom don't read 'the origin of femdom' on No Fap, it's baloney. Go to a local support group of seek out professional help. Whatever you do, don't self-medicate by reading silly stuf. 

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[1] On the other hand, what's there to explain about heaven?

 [2] Best excuse for looking at her breasts? "I worship women and boobies are part of my worship ritual. Don't blame me, I [insert your male name her] feel humbled and blessed in accepting this gift, she, Gaia, the Wise Goddess, has bestowed upon all men. [3] [5]

[3] If you really gonna try this at home, don't.[4]

[4] Ouch, you say? You should've run for cover sooner. Next time, try honesty, for instance that you like it a little wilder. 

[5] Men, mankind, English is such a difficult language. And because all slaves are stupid, especially Dutch who doesn't speak English, you cannot blame us for whatever Neil Armstrong, commander of Apollo 11 [11] haha, did or did not say.

[11] [5] has nothing to do with my love of Doctor Who.