Quotes and me

Powerful expressions composed of a few well chosen words: quotes They can hold universal truths, mirror our feelings, comfort or confront us or make us really understand but they always give us a fresh pair of eyes. What is not to love about quotes?

"There are moments when. whatever the position of the body. the soul is on its knees."
 — Victor Hugo

The weird world of ‘male chastity’

Since the whole Fifty Shades thing started the vanilla world has become much more curious about kink. I just ran into an article in The Kernel on male chastity: the weird world of male chastity.

From a vanilla point of view it is a good article. What I did not know is that the inability to enjoy sex normally again once men have gone down the chastity route is a common problem. Personally that would be a shame. Guess I am so kinky I even like vanilla stuff (but not all the time please).

Full Metal Jacket, down under.

One in Ten People In The World Is A Modern Day Slave

One in ten people in the world today is a slave. The practice continues to exist because we profit and slaves are powerless. A glance at the various modern day forms of slavery.

Freedom is never given voluntarily by the oppressor; It must be demanded by the oppressed.
– Martin Luther King, 1963

December, season of love, happiness and joy, just started but we are already thinking of Christmas. Perhaps dreaming of spending the holidays with our loved ones. Me, I'm hoping my girl and me get back together. For good this time.

But this second day of December is not nearly as festive as the last days of the year. Today is the International Day for the Abolition of Slavery. Wasn't that abolished long ago? Yes, but that doesn't mean it doesn't exist any more. We kinksters should pause for a minute and remember what slavery actually means. It is not all fun and games. Au contraire it is one of the most horrific things that exists on this planet.

NSA Spied On Porn Habits

'Top-Secret Document Reveals NSA Spied On Porn Habits As Part Of Plan To Discredit 'Radicalizers'

The National Security Agency has been gathering records of online sexual activity and evidence of visits to pornographic websites as part of a proposed plan to harm the reputations of those whom the agency believes are radicalizing others through incendiary speeches, according to a top-secret NSA document.

Stanton Stamps from Kinky Kyrgyzstan

According to Vintage Sleaze Kyrgyzstan has published stamps with Eric Stanton drawings on it. I guess the economic crisis is hurting the central Asian republic too.

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Vintage Sleaze: Eric Stanton postage stamps from Kyrgyzstan?: Eric Stanton postage stamps. Why the heck would a country issue postage stamps with the bizarre fetish illustrations of Eric Stanton?

Karosta Prison Hotel, Latvia

Built around 1900, the Karosta Prison was initially used as an infirmary then converted into a prison. It's history was so gruesome, even the solitary confinement room featured a cryptic message above the door: ‘izeja no elles’, Latvian for ‘exit from hell’.
 

Not exactly a relaxing vacation: Inside the hotel converted from a prison where guests are punished with physical exercise for the full 'inmate experience.'

I must admit the idea appeals to me but after I saw the photo's of male guards I quickly changed my mind. If only the prison was staffed with female officers...

Research Shows: Kink is Good for You

More research on the positive aspects and health benefits of BDSM.

According to new research from the Netherlands (where else?), the psychological profile of people who participate in bdsm is "characterized by a set of balanced, autonomous, and beneficial personality characteristics.” Compared to those who engage in more mainstream sexual behavior, such aficionados report “a higher level of subjective well-being.”

Knight in shining armour

How Many Kinky People Are There?

Never enough

For a long time I have been wondering how many kinky people there are in the world. Just out of curiosity. Google cannot answer my question. I am still wondering though. So here is my theory: if you are kinky and have a Facebook account, you also have a Fetlife account.

The embodiment of kinky: The Addams Family

According to their own site Facebook has 1.15 billion monthly active users as of June 2013. I cannot find a good estimate for the number of active Fetlife users but on their site they boast 2,264,946 member (August 2013). If you divide 2.2 million by 1.2 billion you have an upper limit of 0.4 per cent of the global population being kinksters. But as they say in Dutchland: that is comparing apples and pears. Unfortunately I cannot find the numbers right now but there are several statistics claiming the number of active users on Fetlife varies between 250,000 and 500,000. If we assume the correct number is 500,000 about 0.04 per cent of all people in the world is kinky which makes for 2.8 million of us. A rounding error creeps in right away. If that number is correct over three quarters of all kinky people are on Fetlife. That sounds like a lot.

Breaking down the statistics for Dutchland with about 17 million people it would mean there are 17mln * 0.04% = 6800 kinksters living in that beautiful flat country. That does not sound right, does it? The Netherlands must be more into kink than that. If anyone knows of a better estimate, please let me know.

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Kinky Lego: Fifty Shades Of Bricks

As a child, I played with Lego. These days I spend a lot of time on silly stuff, but these folks redefine the meaning of procrastination. I especially love the first one. Fifty Shades of bricks, guess there is no escape from fifty shades, wherever you go. Several images are interrogation scenes from Abu Ghraib and Guantanamo Bay created by Legofesto. The artist created the scenes to express her concern about the war on terror. She also aims to give the abused a voice.

Viagra for Women: Yes We Can. But Should We?

Lust reaches us through our eyes. Desire comes from the heart. Whatever you are looking for, a pill can never substitute either. Nor should it.

Fifty years ago the birth control pill gave woman sexual freedom, Twenty years ago viagra for men was introduced. The next step seems to be a pill for woman that increases their libido.

The male variety has not to do with desire. It is about body mechanics.

The New York Times just published a long read about Viagra for women. The drug is called Lybrido.  Unexcited? There May Be a Pill for That. Lybrido is currently undergoing testing to see if it can be approved. It works on the brain creating [artificial] desire. Viagra for men works on the body but only when the man is already aroused. The article is rather long and boring. The comments however are the icing on the cake. A quick reading shows most people do not like the idea.

"How about a male less desire drug?" comments one reader. Others fear that women get pressured into taking pills.

Whether vanilla or kinky, sex in a relationship is essential. Sex is great fun. It brings two people closer to one another, strengthening and reinforcing their bond. At first I thought the drug was a good thing. That was before I realized how commerce, TV and social media will pressure people into taking the drug. After all we all want to be normal and average...