Slaves Ashamed Of Their Fellow Slaves

Why does pants down have to equal bye bye grace and dignity?

Dutch is forced to cross of interviewing dommes of his bucket list.

Remember what I wrote about eyes being the mirror to the soul. He's in good hands.

Basically I write a lot and this blog is definitely not among my best work. Reasons include English not being my native language, the topic of femdom and the unwritten rules of our community, according to some. Yes I write about kinky, sexy stuff but there's no need to be sleazy, whenever you can avoid it. No reason to be shy either. As for 'our' community, what I am often missing is adult conversation communication between two people. Blame the slave, blame the domme. It's either her unable to get of her high horse or him sucking up. And it's bad for femdom.

Mentioned it on many previous occasions, but to me femdom is first and foremost between a girl and a boy. Most people seem to disagree. So be it. One thing that's always been fun is talking with dommes you've played with. As in talking from one grown up to another. Discovering what's behind the whip is perhaps the most fulfilling part of it all. Knowing a bit about the real her, at times also makes femdom more addictive, interesting and intense. 

Look at her eyes. Cold yet beautiful, they answer any question you forgot to ask. They also remove all remaining doubt. Doesn't get anymore intense than this you 'lucky boy'.

So I can talk [some even say I'm a good listener], I can write and am curious about the person opposite to me. And finally, people like talking to me. It's a match made in heaven. For a long time now I've been tinkering with the idea of interviewing dommes. It's just that I want to do it my way, try to flesh out who the woman is. It's not something you can do over the phone and you cannot hurry it. It takes time. So the idea has been on the back burner for a while. I'm busy anyway. Bad news, after reading an interview with the Hunteress on a website called Domme Addiction, I've given up on it. Not because of the Hunteress, she is a fascinating woman. And her answers are like - reality-based? Too bad for the interviewer from Domme Addiction, whose probably done some of his finest work, pants unzipped and all. Just look at this particular question he asks the Hunteress. Is it a good one - apart from the multiple choice he turns it into, that is. Or is it perhaps him fantasizing? Nothing wrong with day dreaming but there's a time and a place for everything.

DA: Can you describe the feeling you have when you have control of a slave, desperately doing whatever it takes to please you? Is it a rush, or just an expected outcome you’ve grown used to?

TH: Absolutely it is a rush, even 17 years on. I am the puppet Mistress at that point and I relish that feeling.

The excessive use of detail in his question also bothers me. 'A slave, desperately doing whatever it takes to please you?'

Not much room for a different outcome than the one the interviewer is dreaming of, don't you agree. Let's try it again.

DA: How can you tell when you’ve completely broken someone and they are unable to resist you?  Is there a “tell” of some kind that lets you know you’ve taken total control?

TH: They smell different.  There’s a certain look in the eyes.  

Interesting answer but once again it feels more like someone is conducting an interview with his pants down, focusing on what interests him rather than to let the Hunteress tell her story or ask questions the audience is curious about. We all make mistakes and I can imagine it's hard to interview your idol, especially when you are unable to break free of the conventions of femdom and treat her like a real person. It happens. But the part that really upset me was his last question. And it's not the word 'lucky' which I despise by the way.

sbs: If you would oblige me one final question…if we were conducting this interview in person, how would it end for this lucky slave boy as he bows before The Hunteress?

TH: I’d let you kiss My boots!

So there you have it, I'm never gonna do interviews. And neither should Domme Addiction. It's for the best.

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Face the Music

Korean-born, Berlin based DJ Peggy Gou released her new track earlier this summer. Looks as if (It Goes Like) Nanana is gonna be the Korean-born DJ's mainstream breakthrough. At least in Holland and Britain. Has all the usual qualities the audience has come to expect of her. There's that dreamy sound, a little retro vibe and a kind of eclectic smoothness to it. And of course that unique Peggy Gou sound. It's currently number one on Beatport.

I remember when I heard Starry Night for the first time and really didn't like it. Since become one of my alltime favourite dance tracks, but this? I tried and I listened, again and again but somehow it doesn't do it for me. Who cares. Brings joy to so many. Anyway congratulations to Peggy Gou.

Peggy Gou - (It Goes Like) Nanana

[click to listen]

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From The Guardian's series 'best photographs of the day'. Workers in Kyiv, Ukraine, dismantle a Soviet emblem from the Motherland monument outside the city’s second world war museum. All I can say is what took you so long?