Dutch Walks Into a Candyshop

Once a gearhead, always a gearhead

Today a different kind of toy story

Tough choice [image by Cabroon]

Never asked but I'm sure Vanilla's are unable to understand for me suffering in the dungeon is a way to recharge. It's why I won't bother trying to explain how DIY stuff can be relaxing. It's nice to make something with your own hands. And when your shelf drops of the wall, you can only blame yourself, a far cry from the bla bla many of us post on social media about just how awesome they are. Plus something that initially looks simple easily turns into a complex question. Finally: once you start, you have to finish it. What's not to love about DIY?

In order to fix things, you need tools. Youtube is full of channels promoting the biggest, most bad-ass [unbelievable expensive] tools, you most of the time don't need. But why would you buy them online when you can walk into a hardware store like this? Once inside, for once Dutch doesn't know which door to choose.

Today's image is by Cabroon is a digital artist from Mexico, whose work often features damsels in distress. [Yes Disney Corp, I'm looking at you.] I'm very curious how he came up with the idea.

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Face the Music

Alvaro Soler, Topic - Solo Para Ti [2022]

Sofor it's been a lousy summer over here in Holland, maybe some sunny music helps.

Alvaro Soler, Topic - Solo Para Ti [click to listen]

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The outgoing secretary general of Nato has warned Europe must be prepared for a decade of Ukranian war.  Jens Stoltenberg said the "paradox" of the war in Ukraine is the longer the western military alliance commits to fighting the war, the faster a resolution will be reached.

So why don't we?

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Fit to Serve?

Dutch is tired of not toein' the line I guess

Real world obligations wear out Dutch and keep him from kneeling before mistress.

French mistress Maitresse Satine. Somebody is clearly having fun. Such wonderful eyes and lovely smile [image: maitresse Satine on Twitter]

My kink is an essential part of me and I love it. Not that it matters, you and I were born this way. Kink is also more complicated than vanilla, both in finding a partner and having. Playtime femdom style is a little more elaborated to set up than good, old sex. There is no such thing as 'gone in 60 seconds' when it comes to BDSM.

A Deeper Love

"What is love?"
"You know when you see her."

I tend to overthink but the passing of Barefoot Princess Melanie keeps on lurking in my mind. No answers though. Read back some of my previous posts. The question always remains the same. What is love? Is it contingent on kink compatibility? Can it survive when on of the partners looses all interest in BDSM? Nobody can tell, but but there's one thing I know. Love is not about desire or getting your fix. Love means compatibility in areas you never even heard of. Love means this is right, this is us.

Yes, love can be cruel and love can be kind, but love is not something that is yes or no because it clicks in the bedroom or dungeon. It's rather the opposite, love works in spite of everything, because of desire. And if it doesn't work out the way you want, you fight for it, together.

The reason I place so much emphasis on honesty and trust is because of the vanilla world. Encountered too many dishonest people. The irony is that they generally speaking are even more dishonest to themselves than to others. No matter how much you love someone, if you cannot create that sacred space where just the two of you exist, at some point you have to pack up and go.Translated into the realm of femdom, mistress has to earn your trust as much as you have to earn hers.

Trust is an essential part of any relationship, including being mistress and slave. Things go wrong, mistakes happen. Whatever it is, be honest about it. Then you deal will it together. Whether together means mistress and slave or boyfriend and girlfriend. It doesn't matter. Together.

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