The Sadness of Femdom

Femdom is all about femmes and boys. That's just the way it is. Not that I would want it any other way, remember mistress Robot. Yesterday I wrote about the perceived perils of porn.

With Locktober lurking around the corner, yes it's that time of year already, no sex seems more and more attractive. But only if it's voluntary. The other day I read a story about a couple who started out as mistress and slave. Before they knew two hard-hitters teamed up: Gaia and Cupid. Feelings interfered and they became lovers. Now what?

Porn is dangerous. It makes men crave picture perfect women, like the ones they see when they watch online porn. Not that anybody asks what makes a woman perfect. And yes there is only answer. Because she is her. And of course your perfect woman is not mine. But they all are.

Sooner or later most men find their perfect woman. After which they want to get naked and 'cuddle'. And if he doesn't take the initiative, she will. That's human nature. But what if he is not interested in vanilla sex, just BDSM and she loves him? There are no anwers but whatever the outcome, it's gonna leave them both in tears.

Femdom is as much about relationships as vanilla stuf, in the heat of the moment probably even more. Sex is overhyped. The language of love, however, is something else. Nobody speaks love perfectly but sex is a good approximation.

Two snow leopards reside on a mountain top. It's white and lonely out there. They cannot see one another, yet they communicate throughs sounds. After several days the female accepts his advances and allows him in her presence. He'll never see their cubs but the mating ritual has been long and complicated.

Same thing with sex. There is intercourse, but what matters most is the before and after and all the communication that's going on. Now imagine the two of you graduate from femdom to love. Most people would count their blessings and get naked as soon as they can. But what if he is not interested in vanilla sex and just looks at her? For me that's impossible to imagine.

Read the story not to long ago and ever since I've been trying to wrap my head around it. Above anything else I feel sorry for the couple. As a guy you don't alway have an erection, happened to me too. Doesn't mean you don't want her. This, however, is different. It's life at it most cruel.

Femdom is all about women - and men expressing their feeling for them differently. Despite it all at the heart of it are a girl and a boy, spellbound by each other. But what if life robs you from one of the most essential and effective means of expressing your feelings?

Probably gonna write more about this at some later time. Just found it so sad to read. There she is: the woman you love, adore, worship and want to be with. Now what? Nobody should have to go through something like this.