Smile And Let Love Rule

For a happy, healthy femdom relationship, look at how mistress and slave interact as vanilla lovers. It's that easy.

Dominant woman are not service providers for our submissive needs, nor are slaves one dimensional cardboard figures with fat wallets. 

Keep on smiling! Don't know who she is, but I found this happy couple [he's happy too] on BDSMLR.

Definitely not my best writing, but it's good to see I'm not the only one who thinks femdom at it's best possesses an unique quality that is beautiful beyond words. Still, I wonder how many reader were looking for an explanation as to why they are drawn to the Dark Side or perhaps an excuse to be accept a certain part of who they are.

In Diamonds are Forever, James Bond author Ian Fleming writes “Most marriages don’t add two people together. They subtract one from the other.” Pretty grim but probably true when it comes to most femdom relationships. And no, mistress is not always the winning looser. It's better to read this post out of character, makes you think with the upper, upper half of your body.

Ian Fleming also believed something else. People are like diamonds. Look at a person in front of you and what you see is just one of many sides of an unique gem. It depends on the quality of the diamond just how many sides there are or how much they sparkle.

The internet has lowered the threshold for many to get acquainted with everything regarding mistresses and slave and the infinite variations on what femdom means to different people. Sadly, over time something of an archetype has begun to surface. Mistress knows all, except mercy. The ultimate slave is a born looser who basically craves nothing. Add to it the dash for cash by outsiders - AKA most findommes - and all of a sudden destination femdom isn't so cool anymore.

When I read about slaves who have to write 500 lines each and every night or ain't allowed to touch the woman they love, who also happens to be their mistress, wasted lives flash before my eyes. Is this what he wants or does his submissive character stop him from finding a better match?

Same thing with her. This can't be her way to express strength, power and desire or her natural dominance. It's probably fun to see him suffer night after night, but it neither allows you to express your feelings or embrace your true inner dominant.

Something similar happens when dommes wonder what's wrong in their relationship with another human being if the man disagrees with the women only twice a year. And I'm not talking about the kids or him being worried about Your health. A true leader demands more of herself/himself than of their subordinates. What goals have you set for yourself? Did you meet them. Are you leading by example, what does your leadership looks like? No wonder so many slaves and submissives are never given the chance to find out there's more to femdom than being tied up a couple of hours a week and handing over looser cash.

She rules him, let consensual happiness rule them both.

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No note today about which song Dutch is listening to while writing this post. Certainly not that song!